What would you do if your 23 year-old son doesn't study, never had a job and hits you back (harder, hurting you) recently for the first time?

[Anonymous]

My brother and I were raised old-school with religious values. Meanwhile I didn't give my parents headaches and was already naturally shy (docile temperament), my younger brother was another case. My parents only raised their voice once at me and that was enough. That would get me scared easily without ever getting physical. They told me themselves (their own words) that I never needed spankings.

With brother, nothing worked. He was 15 the last time our father spanked him for backtalking and stealing from mom. He's now 23 years old but doesn't care about going to college, never had a job, doesn't even help with the household chores, can't cook and just recently knocked out (punching him twice, lifting him and threw him on the floor with a hard shove) my father, dropping him to the floor. My brother and father had a huge argument, my father backhanded him for derrogative terms he said but my brother hit him back harder. My father has a small bruise on his face and his back is a bit sore from that fall. That's the first time my brother ever hit my our father, flooring him.

Our parents are now at lost of what to do with him. Our father has paid for his Judo classes since he was 18, weight lifting and for his cell phone. He used his skill to knock out his father. What would you do?

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3 mo

My brother doesn't feel remorse either.

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3 mo

My parents want him out by the 1st of April. He'll get evicted if he doesn't leave by then. When my mother asked my father how he's feeling (with the back pain and bruise), he has two responses; he's feeling better physically but totally destroyed emotionally.. to have to deal with the shame of getting beaten by his unremorseful son.

[OneViewpoint]

Maybe dad shouldn't have been beating his son all these years. The religious authoritarian dad got older and weaker while the angry son got older and stronger. A different approach to parenting may have avoided this. But at this point, the relationship dynamic is probably set for life. All that can be done now is to kick the lazy violent kid out into the world to become someone else's problem. The courts, the cops, the rehab clinics, and the homeless shelters will now take on this problem.

[Asker]

My parents will provide him some money but have officially given him a deadline. He has to move out by next month or else he gets evicted.

[darkcloud1945]

Throw the bastard out and not let him in, regardless of what he says about how he is going to change/ sink or swim. Sorry to say this, but if you let him back in without him straightening out the you deserve what you get

[Asker]

My parents don't want anyone to know what happened and are hiding that shame (physically overpowered by your son) but are providing him some money. My father has officially thrown the towel, declared my brother a lost cause and he has one month to move out or else he'll get evicted.

My father said he's recovering physically but emotionally feels so hurt and shame, doesn't want anyone in the family to know about it.

[DishLady]

Call the cops to have him escorted from the house. File for a restraining order so he's not coming back for worse than he's already done. Have the cops show him those Christian Reform pamphlets and get him counseling, etc. etc.

[Asker]

My parents are nicer after all. They want to be discreet about that violent incident and don't want anyone in the family to know what happened. My father is living with the deep shame of getting assaulted and beaten by his own son, along with feeling so powerless, unable to do anything at that moment.
They've decided to provide him some money he can use but he has one month to move out or else he gets evicted. They want him out by the 1st of April.

[4ngelic]

call the cops to come over while he packs up and is forced out. your parents should give him a bit of money and not welcome him back in the house to live until he has gotten a job or has enrolled in higher edu

[Asker]

My father officially threw the towel, will still give him some money but he has one month to get out or else he gets evicted. My father is recovering from the physical pain. He doesn't care too much about that but has expressed to be deeply destroyed emotionally and that it'll take a long while for him to get passed the shame of getting beaten by his own son and being powerless, unable to do anything.

[Anonymous]

Your dad should call the police. You act like a thug I'm going to treat you like a thug. He's an adult.

I remember my dad telling me once that he would always be stronger than me and be able to beat me. "And do you know why that is", he said. Because if you can beat me I'm kicking you out of my house. Because you're strong enough to be on your own at that point.😆 after that my father and I was horsing around. And I was overpowering him, remembered that, and let him win.😆 You never disrespect your father! He's earned that.

[Asker]

My parents already gave him a deadline to leave. They want him out by the 1st of April.

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

Your parents are a little abusive, he stood up for himself.

[Pterodon]

Throw them out. Literally with just the clothes on their backs

[Asker]

My father now really thinks my brother is too far gone and given him one month to find a new place. My parents will give him some money he can use but they want him out by April 1st or he gets evicted.
My father has expressed getting better physically but emotionally destroyed. He doesn't want anyone in the family to know about his own son knocking him out.

[AngryCarl3]

If I told you that I'd be banned from the site forever.

[Shrimpenjoyer]

He should go to therapy, slowly start gaining some responsibility and gradually start applying for a job

[LazerBean]

He would have to find a new home.

[Asker]

yeah my parents just gave him a deadline for April 1st. They want him out by that date or he's going to get evicted. They gave him some money he can use.

[beefcakebradybatson]

HAVE SOMEONE BEAT HIS A** IF YOU CAN'T !!!