How do you feel when a friend of yours is also friends with someone you really don’t like?

[Still-alive]

Lets say you’re good friends with someone. Well what if your friend was also friends with someone you really have a big dislike for? Does this negatively impact you friendship?

Yes i would view my friend more negatively for being friends with someone i dislike

No that wouldn’t affect my friendship. They’re free to befriend anyone even if I don’t like them

It depends on how much i dislike the person they are friends with

I would probably stop talking to my friend

I have a different opinion

[VioletHaze]

Depends on the reason I dislike them.

This guy always started fights about my personal choices/beliefs. I didn't mind, cause she never forced us to get along and he didn't act like that around her. I think he felt personally offended I was a vegetarian and also didn't share his faith. That's a compatibility issue and if she can get along with him, why should I have an issue?

But if I find the friend morally reprehensible (let's sat he is a convicted sex offender) that would make me view my friend negatively. You can't support people who victimize others.

[Still-alive]

oh yeah definitely the last paragraph i would for sure say something and probably stop talking to them altogether if they kept being friends with them.

we need to draw a line somewhere right?

[7Phoenix7]

Exactly… I also clicked on “it depends…”

Because certain situations call for different measures..

[7Phoenix7]

Oh I don’t think she voted. I’m the only girl who clicked on the it depends options lol

[VioletHaze]

@7Phoenix7 I clicked option 2 then I reflected some more. Option 2 is my general stance, live and let live.

[7Phoenix7]

Hear, hear 👍

[7Phoenix7]

I pay attention to my intuition, so if I get a bad read on someone, it’s hard to ignore it.

That said… I don’t try to control who my friends connect with.

I just keep a quiet awareness and trust that people reveal themselves over time.

For me, it’s not about the person I dislike… it’s about wanting the people I care about to be safe from any harm..

[Still-alive]

Pretty much my take on it. i just figure they see something in the other person i don't see lol.

[7Phoenix7]

lol that can be the case sometimes

[Still-alive]

unless they are really evil then i might say something to them for their own safety :o

[7Phoenix7]

Same!

[Still-alive]

@VioletHaze brought up a good example when i'd speak up

[Maybe_Maybe_not]

It's not an abnormal situation, I'm used to that, it's okay. But I'll probably talk about it with my friend, here and there lol

[Xawyx-2]

Hmm, depends on how much I dislike the other person.

[Xawyx-2]

Thanks for the MHO

[Apulu_backagain]

This happened with my best friend, she was really close friends with this girl whom many people including me disliked. And I just told her that I didn't have good feelings about that girl but she is free to be friends with her and she won't have any further complains from me, I just warned her.

My feelings were right, that girl was a bish.

[Still-alive]

Bish! Lol

[valentina4eva]

i wouldn’t view my friend negatively at all, but i do have a situation like this and if i know the girl that i don’t exactly get along with is going to be there, then i don’t go😅😅 but i am still really good friends with my actual friend!!😊

[Still-alive]

Yeah that would be how id handle it too

[Ms_Facesitter]

I won't say it but I'm thinking "Don't you hurt my friend."

If I don't like somebody it's because that person has red flags or a bad influence. My friend's still welcome, I'll play nice, but I'm on high alert whenever that person is near. I also have trouble hiding my death glare.

[queenofcardio]

It happens. You learn to get over it and create better boundaries.

[Jeff51]

Its ok. Long as all of us don't meet up.