Can you really stay just friends with someone you’re attracted to?

[Anonymous]

[ohsheeT]

It depends on how deep you want to look at it

And how honest you can be with yourself because there comes a point where you become good friends and you have to think 500 yards ahead and say okay I really like her or this person I really want to get into her pants but will it last will that relationship last because if it doesn't that means you lose that relationship and the friendship so you have to be totally honest with yourself is it meant to be or is it because you want in her pants what's more important to you friendship or that moment

I've had to pick friendship many many times and I have quite a few good friends because I didn't go the other route because I knew down deep that it would not last as being lovers but I knew it would last as being a friend

And with being honest with myself I knew there was some things that I probably would not like about her and probably vice versa if we got into a relationship

But as a friend it has done nothing but grow and become better and so it's how honest you are with yourself is the answer to that question

[whosnumber_1]

If it's just attraction then I would say yes. I have had a lot of very attractive female friends. Women than I've pursued, wanted to pursue or had some kind of intimately with I would say no... You can be friendly with them but not friends. Like the girl in the picture... I couldn't be her friend. Lol

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

I don’t think so.

I have had two guy best friends,

One was gay, another one was taken. The one who was taken had feelings for me and I leaned back consciously not to ruin his relationship, because I was only interested in friendship.

[MissSunshine2]

Some people can, others can’t. For me? Not if I fall in love with them.

[Zack-Bann]

Could you knock on her door unannounced only for her to open it drenched in sweat and out of breath as you hear the sound of someone in her shower?


Most people can’t even picture it without their stomach turning


And yet staying friends despite having feelings is a guarantee that she’s in that exact same room even if you never knock on that door


I personally can’t do it.


I’m willing to be upfront about my feelings and if they’re not mutual then it’s best to go our separate ways

[William7489]

No, it’s just too hard. If you have romantic feelings towards someone, it’s impossible to stay friends. I mean, just imagine somebody that you really really like and your friends with them. Imagine how hard it is to see them dating another person knowing they’re hooking up going on dates that type of thing. That would put too much stress on your friendship. It’s very hard in that respect. Good luck.

[ChaseBee]

I asked this question because a friend of mine and I got in a pretty lengthy debate about this. He said, no and I said yes. His logic was "I will always be chasing them and thinking I have a chance so I cut them off". I think you can, and because unlike Hollywood friendship can lead to romantic relationship (unless you want to get in their pants). I know about 5 people who are married to someone they were friends with first for over a year after they met. It can be done but it's not easy.

[PeachyPie93]

For me yes.. Almost all the guys I befriended I was attracted to them but I always kept it at the friend level because I knew them well and most were hoes or just bad bfs..
I don't really think its the same for guys or if both people are attracted..

[HawkPerception]

If it's only physical attraction, then yes. You can remain friends with them. But their needs to be some kind of disconnect with their personality as to why you would not date them. On top of that, you also need to be the type that doesn't sleep with others casually. Otherwise that's not really a friend. That's a friend with benefits that can get in the way of other relationships on both sides.

[molonski2]

NO , absolutely NOT , and certainly from the male perspective , there is no such thing for a female as a " male friend " who actually wants to boont her.
That's why it's vital for a male to always let intentions be known ( directly or indirectly ) but you can certainly not be just " friends " with someone you want to boont.

Never allow yourself ( as a man ) to appear " safe " , unless you are not attracted to her , or are gay.

[Tarifa]

Difficult, but not impossible. Cause deep down inside you always hope that maybe one day...

Interestingly, when that person is in a steady relationship and is happy, it takes most of those feelings away. At least it has done so for me.

[Xoirwinkan]

I never had a female friend I wasn't attracted to on some level. I think it's like that with most guys, and will usually only do something if she makes it clear she wants something intimate. I feel like unless you grew up with the guy since kids if a girl asked a male friend to have sex he'll say sure.

[MontBlanc]

You can but only with clear boundaries and self awareness.

Attraction doesn’t just disappear, it’s something you choose not to act on.

Without that clarity, it usually blurs into mixed signals, expectations, or complications over time.

[OlderAndWiser]

Can i loose the feelings? Probably not. Can i be a friend and never act upon my feelings of attraction? Yes.

[capriVib]

No, I can't stay. There have been many girls I didn't like and was just friends with, but with someone I like, I don’t leave room to just be friends, I can’t accept that.

[Screenwriter]

If you're mature enough and you focus on finding someone else for a SO. IT's doable. But for some people, it isn't. According to how good you are with boundaries.

[Anonymous]

No simple answer no.
You will be killing yourself every way when she is down.
And whenever you she her smile or you are the reason when she smiles you'll remember and also feel that there is still a chance when there is none.
Because your brain won't accept which it already knows.
It happened to me

[KostasKouvalis]

Considering I'm in this situation right now, I will say YES. But I'm not sure what would happened if she got a boyfriend. But I actually think it makes you MORE of a loyal friend, as that hope and intense connection keeps you going.

[Nikki1989]

Yes, of course.

Questions like this are batshit crazy!

[Amy10223]

No, I don't think so, not me anyway. There will always be that hope... and it would hurt if we couldn't be more than just friends.

[liburnia]

Yes, you can! I have been friends with a man for 10 years and I know we like each other, but we’re both married and nothing ever happened between us.

[Gamer20282]

If they keep u in the friendzone then yes, won't be a happy friendship but will be a friendship

[CriminallyInsane]

Yes, as long as the attraction doesn't grow to be emotional too as well as just physical.

[Alex-Snow]

Hot pic thanks for sharing. Yes ofc. I have several hot friends that are girls but we are just good friends. Would I like sex with them. Of course but the friendship is very important!

[Starlux]

You can. Just advising you don't make any advances on them unless you really feel confident that they are a close friend and that you are understanding if they reject you and vise versa. The akwardness might go away at some point.

[ImalwaysrightOK]

If you're emotionally and not just physically attracted, probably not, unless you are prepared for a lifetime of self torture.

[OneViewpoint]

No, probably not. I'll usually just fade to black if she doesn't feel the same.

[Maybe_Maybe_not]

When I'm really attracted, it isn't one-sided, not much appetite for risk here

[Finchie40]

You can if you choose to , and you are able to control yourself , but if not , No

[MrChinaski]

You can enjoy visiting the zoo without being eaten by the lions. It's not that hard.

[Iron_Man]

Guys will do it for years just to get that one opportunity at the girl the moment their boyfriend doesn’t work out they’re there for the kill

[SAMI_DABBAB]

Yes it’s doable, it’s not like you can only look at people with one lens

[AcidMan]

You can. But the problem is both ways. I have many female friends but if I am out with one and see a female i am sexually attracted to, she usually gets upset. Why?

[Malwi93]

yes im not an animal that can't control themselves

[dragoblack]

Yeah. It's called being an adult who respects choices

[Bklynbadboy12]

Nope absolutely not if there attracted to each other at some point its gonna happen

[Anonymous]

I have no other choice, I get friend-zoned by hot girls all the time.

[Sakinbirpanda]

That's a difficult question, I wouldn't do it.

[queenofcardio]

Yeah and I have.

[DishLady]

in my opinion no, not really.

[exitseven]

Yes, but it is not that much fun.

[FunkyMonkee]

Absolutely!! Been there, done that!!

[LC75LC71]

Nope. Going fishing.

[Jeff51]

Maybe or maybe not. Its all up to you

[JamesRandiDebates]

Nope. Not a chance.

[smashleyy]

Yeah

[ZameerAnsari91]

Nobody can, its impossible.

[Unycorn]

Yes. I am grown.

[maddog998]

Sure.

[thegreenyogi]

I believe so.

[Agape93]

Yeap

[LiamJHayden]

Of course.

[Cidknee]

On the outside.

[AgentG111]

I have.

[khyabaldwin321]

Yes you can

[LuckyNumber7]

Would you ever let it progress to intimacy if you're man wanted to share you or let you act on the attraction sometimes?

[Abinav_K]

Obviously nope.