Is it challenging to be a friend to you?

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Lesbologist · Accepted Answer

I've had too many friends come back from the past, wanting to party or live with me... I'm married with kids. For some friends I've become too negative or "kill their vibe," and I'm just not interested in the same shit as before. Also, my trust is very hard to actually earn... I'm hard to use... I'm not a dreamer or a schemer... and...

I just value my time too much to even want a friend like that. I've always been down for conversations, but I'm not trying to hangout and party, or go get girls for instance. I am just too old for that shit. I would say too mature. I like to do all that shit by myself.

I mean I do hang out with my brother in law, and we usually just drink and play video games, shoot the shit, and maybe watch youtube. I hang out with my son and we just talk about politics, math, and science... or the social aspects of life... play some sports or go for walks'n'talks. I talk to people online too. My wife is needy af, so she occupies me. My time slots are full, so I'm going to say yeah... I'm hard to be friends with.

Is it challenging to be a friend to you?

HawkPerception · Accepted Answer

I think everyone has their good and bad qualities. I can come across know-it-all like often and it might trigger people. And I tend to have a big mouth, which I've gotten better with over the years, but I'm still working on it.

But for the most part, my friends see me as a highly considerate, adventurous, good conversationalist, interesting, and fun loving guy. And even when I did have a fall out with a couple of my friends, they each came back to me saying they missed being friends. I was pretty forgiving.

bobalife · Accepted Answer

No, it’s super easy to be my friend on conversations and hang outs.
But yes, I can get very busy or low social battery to keep in frequent conversation on texts. Once we hang out, it will be a good vibe though. I like both spontaneous or plan out hang outs. It will be challenging for me to wanna be close with people as I’m selective on that part socially.

smashleyy · Accepted Answer

Kinda. I consider myself to be a low maintenance friend, we don’t have to be in constant communication with each other but when we get together it’s always a good time. I’ve had friends in the past that were on the clingy side that im sure would label me challenging or even a bad friend for not being as available as they would have liked

Finchie40 · Answer

No, I am pretty laid back and down to earth and not very judge-mental whatsoever, as long as you treat me good I will do the same , I value honesty and respect , and joking around and having fun 😊 If you get on my bad side , that takes a lot depending on what you do to get on my bad side , I tend to put myself in other peoples’ shoes before I open my mouth. So getting on my bad side isn’t an easy thing to do , unless you are a complete straight up asshole , otherwise I won’t consider you an asshole and someone I could be friends’ with

Purpleronnie · Answer

No I don’t think it is.. but in my experience people have sought my friendship for what they can leech or take from me because of my trusting and supportive nature. I feel that this has closed me off a little as much as I try not to let it

It’s made me a little cynical 🤨

Iron_Man · Answer

It’s not challenging at all. You have to have consistency and be able to communicate and reciprocate. I don’t wanna have to do all the pursuing. You have to yourself as well. Don’t make me message you every single time even if I don’t say much in a reply once in a while

NathanDavis · Answer

hmm... nope, not really all of my friends, pretty much... just walked up to me and said hi, kept talking to me and that was it... very easy going, lol 20+ years later... we're still friends, lol

Anonymous · Answer

I don't think so. But it's NOT required either. Just understand the word "friend" is not just a word to me or a classification. I probably won't consider you a friend until i've known you at least 10 years. I'll be friendly. But we are not friends. Understand while i count acquaintances in the thousands, i count friends on one hand.

ElenaSeluna · Answer

Nope.. not at all.. at least that’s what I have been told.. I can be friends with everyone and from different age categories.. but a “close friend” is a different story for sure…

Nikki1989 · Answer

No, it is not if you are a serious music enthusiast. Alternatively, I will cause you to lose your mind.

OneViewpoint · Answer

So I've been told. Apparently, I can be exhausting to be around. Mentally and physically. I plead guilty of all charges.

Static_In_The_Attic · Answer

Absofuckinglutely! As for me I’m NOT exactly NORMAL but on the other side of the donkey’s tail I’m NOT WEIRD everyOne else is.

InknKink · Answer

To the right person, no. But realistically, yes.  I'm quick to cut people out of my life and my loyalty is hard earned.

queenofcardio · Answer

It can be a challenge to keep track of what's currently going on in my life but overall no. I think I'm a chill friend.

FunkyMonkee · Answer

Not in the least, as far as I know! As long as you can be loyal, honest and trustworthy. I can get along with just about anybody!

lilBigPotato · Answer

It might be difficult to become my friend but once you got there I'm an easy and chill person.

Spencer10 · Answer

Maybe. You will need to have respect for others, empathy and demonstrate some critical thinking. But I promise i will do the same.

Maybe_Maybe_not · Answer

It seems insanely challenging to become friend with me. Because despite crossing paths with thousands of people, only a few became my friends.

But once you passed the test, I don't think I'm going to pose any challenge at all.

Yoursweetgirl · Answer

Kinda yes, I hold myself to high standards and expect others to behave the same way. I wouldn"t cut someone off just because of it but wouldn't consider them a friend unless they tick all the boxes

BCRanger10 · Answer

I don't think so. I've been told that I'm a pretty likeable guy.

slatyb · Answer

No, I'm very easy to get along with, and nonjudgmental.

DonaldDarko · Answer

Guess it depends on your personality. Generally speaking I wouldn't think so though.

WhitneySnow · Answer

Not really. Just be a good friend and you’re good.

loveslongnails · Answer

Only in the sense that you'll never be as good a friend to me as I am to you, but I'm already prepared for that. LOL

Kingofkings1992 · Answer

It can be. I tend to get along with most people, but I have some issues too, just like anyone else. I'm particularly difficult to live with. I'm very observant of others living habits, and I am usually not very fond of them.

andreasderjuengere · Answer

Not at all.  The only challenge is to  become  a friend of mine.

Shiprex · Answer

Not a bit. I am always available but am seldom demanding of your time.

Still-alive · Answer

nah im very laid back. if you're in with me you're in for life pretty much unless they double cross me then they're dead to me lol

Godihateyou · Answer

I don't believe anyone is a friend to me. And I have 100's of people I talk to in daily, weekly, monthly, semi monthly, bi monthly semi annually increments

AngryCarl3 · Answer

I'm not the most sociable, but loyal if you get to know me.

samael_kmarty · Answer

Yes I think so I have very few friends  And even I have trust issues

Likes2drive · Answer

Not at all since I’m very easy-going and always in a good mood

AgentG111 · Answer

It depends on if you want to be a regular friend a good friend or an intimate friend

sage2021 · Answer

I have always been a good friend to have.

Cutegirl06 · Answer

Nope

Tarifa · Answer

I think it's super easy.

Agape93 · Answer

Can be. I'm hard to love sometimes

ChicoFromThe305 · Answer

I don't know maybe at first lol

exitseven · Answer

Not really , unless you try to con me.

TonyMetal___86 · Answer

You tell me miss yogi 😁

Xawyx-2 · Answer

No, it's not challenging for good people.

theskyrider · Answer

Yes definitely it's challenging

Cidknee · Answer

You'd have to find my friends and ask them.

MannMitAntworten · Answer

The rumor is, no.

Staglioni · Answer

Dear God yes.

Hristov90 · Answer

No its not

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