How do I stop obsessing over something embarrassing from 20 years ago?

[Anonymous]

Basically something I said

Which was true

But very embarrassing especially in the cold light of day

I guess it's mostly forgotten

I try to avoid certain people which works but I think about it regularly

I blame my parents for the root cause which is probably wrong of me

[Calyptomaniac]

Making vague, cryptic posts on GaG attempting to bait people into asking what you said is probably not going to do much for it. Perhaps just stop avoiding "certain people" and you'll probably find out you're the only person who even remembers it.

[Asker]

Haha

But yes. These people I rarely, never see.
If I did see them every day it would be forgotten.

I saw them once 20 years ago and not since. They had a good laugh at my expense. You're right they have moved on, but I wouldn't like to meet them today to rekindle the laughs.

[choco-latte]

Was it that bad that you still think of it to this day? I’ve had some embarrassing moments that I sometimes think about, but for the most part I have moved on. You have to accept that it’s in the past and if you’re not really in contact with the people who heard it anymore then you shouldn’t let their opinion matter so much to you. Actually, I’m almost sure they rarely think about it themselves after such a long time.

[Asker]

You're right
Even asking this question is bringing it up for me
I need to forget about it
I'm leaning to not counseling, just resolve it in my own head

[Asker]

They rarely think about it
But they are my college class
And if they see me again they will think about it
So I resolving to never see them again

[AngryCarl3]

I realized some years ago that my parents could also blame their parents, and ad infinitum back to the Garden of Eden.

Perhaps you should consider therapy.

[Asker]

Good point

Parents are obvious target

But this was a combination of things

And the start of a realization that I was being manipulated by entire life

And this was dawning realization of that

[Asker]

I think counseling is plus and minus
It magnifies things that can be best minimized.
And have tried it before
A stranger may not even understand

[Nikki1989]

Nothing can be that embarrassing.