How do I stop being ashamed of my past?

[Reem12345reem]

basically, i became a better version of myself, but i still want to prove to others that I was happy being my old self and that I wasn't ashamed of myself by making myself act like im still my older self or by acting depressed so people would focus on " oh why is she always depressed" making them drift away from " oh she changed to the better" (which in my heads , it means that my old self wasn't good enough) im still attached and ashamed of my old self

basically im having a hard time with identity change

an example of this is when someone who was really poor and that got rich , but whenever he or she sees someone treating poor people wrong , he or she gets mad and hurt bc it means that if he was still poor , people would treat him the same way, and that no one would love him or her if he was still poor , OR no one would love me if i was still ugly

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did anyone read what i actually wrote?

[ohsheeT]

Look back 1 time Acknowledge it and then accept it yesterday. Was yesterday yesterday's gone?

Every day, every other day, every 17 days we change.

Look where you are today. You couldn't have gotten there without your past

Some of the things that I went through in my past. It's just not right but I wouldn't be who I am today with out my past. Just like yesterday. Is now the past.

In time you will always look back and see where you have come from

Accept it love yourself If somebody was to judge you who even cares. They don't know everything that you enter. They don't even know who you are now.

The thing about the past. It it can only get better. And if you're not trying to be the best, you can be right now. Then you didn't learn anything from the past. When We are young. We think we know everything and we do stupid things. That's. We learn from it

And then today we still think we are smart

Lmao. And we will learn from today to

[lightbulb27]

you are growing into an adult. recognizing whom you were then and accepting responsibility for what you did, recognizing the changes you'd make if any and why it all happened and your decisions, that is the way out. When you understand why and or accept it, it loses it's power over you.

We've all made mistakes the key is to learn from them and grow and turn them into something more useful and powerful. Wounds will do that... when healed.

Some are caught in circumstances beyond their control and do their best to survive. If you survived you did well, but how has the experience changed you.

There's powerful stories you can learn from in the past and you can learn from your own. Writing helps.

[overlord337645]

i find it interseting because the term bravery actually means being scared and going and doing it anyways so to awnser you I think you can be ashamed of it and understand that it does not define who you are now but instead has molded you in a better version of yourself after all 90 years from now people are gonna see our history and probably say what the hell were these people doing with themselves lol so dont live life based on shame or fear but instead live life to the fullest and live it to be happy

[HarveyLaw]

You are only 17yo yet, sweetheart. It is more than common to have "fluctuations" in both emotions, hormones and everything else combined related to growing up. Your older self could be you as a toddler.

My advice: stop overthinking! Enjoy your better version, continue to build yourself better everyday and spread the good word of kindness and self respect.

[OneViewpoint]

You're 17. I doubt you have much perspective or much of a "past". And you provided no clue what you are so "ashamed" of. So what sort of answers do you expect?

[Reem12345reem]

i mentioned an example

[WonderingManII]

I don't feel very wise, so I asked Google.

"To overcome feelings of shame about your past, focus on self-compassion, forgiveness, and reframing your perspective. Accepting your past self and acknowledging your mistakes as learning opportunities can help you move forward with less shame."

[HusamRocks]

This is what "growing up" means, we've all been there, there is nothing to be ashamed about, u got improved u evolved.
What u should feel is proud of what u have become 👍🏻

[Danny_dan92]

Not think about it. Realize it’s the past. Keep moving forward

[DCVsMarvel2]

Educate yourself. The more you know, the more you'll redeem yourself

[eagle1951]

move forward and do better

[Jennz6]

Same here