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I’m getting tired of picking up my one friend every time we hang out. He has a new truck he got last year. Every time I ask him to hangout he always asks me to pick him up. This time last year I asked him one time to drive and he had every excuse not to drive. I see him at work and I’m the one always going up to him.
My other friend I never hear from him unless I reach out first. He called me a couple months ago to help him by doing a group video call with some sketchy thing about financial advice where the guy tried to guilt tripping me to join. I haven’t heard from him since.
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It’s not selfish at all. However, you could always try setting boundaries before things get to this point. Like rather than obliging each time and picking him up, instead either ask to meet at the location or see if he can pick you up instead.
I have then he gives me the third degree like why can’t you come get me or his truck is too big.
His truck is too big for what? Driving around as it’s intended to? Parking in a spot? If I were you I would’ve certainly challenged that logic. I’d actually return the first question, because it deserves clarity, like “why can’t you come get me for once? I pick you up every time we hang out”. If you aren’t a confrontational guy then I understand if the idea of that makes you uncomfortable. However as a relatively shy and quiet woman myself, I won’t allow people to take advantage of these traits and use me as a doormat. You shouldn’t either.
He always says his truck is too big to park it. I did last year. He said his wife was getting home late to use her car when I said I was hoping he could drive. Then he said he wanted to take the kids also to see fireworks. Then to see them in a different town. He had every excuse not to drive. I’m usually not a confrontational guy but I’ve been speaking up more. I was always afraid to say no. I’ve just gotten tired of it all now. Thank you for your kind words as well.
Yeah, that’s BS for sure. I know stuff happens here and there but to be that way every single time is absolutely intentional. I’m glad you’re sticking up for yourself and challenging him more, I had to do the same with people more than once and cut ties with several people as a result. If I were you, I’d either be very direct or cut him off entirely.
We work at the same place but different departments. A few years ago he wanted to borrow something from my department and bring it to his house during work time. When I told him I couldn’t he got all upset and mad. He even changed his parking spot because we used to park next to each other and walk in together like friends would do. I’m getting close to cutting him off completely.
I had a friend who would act like that and ultimately cut them off. He’s gained a sense of entitlement to your time because you’ve always been willing and don’t say no. He takes advantage completely and he needs to understand that is not ok
No that is not ok. He has taken advantage. Your friend ever try reaching out after you cut them off?
Nope! She has not tried reaching out since the last time I reached out. I believe that it was due to her being upset I couldn’t pick her up to go to an event that I was under the impression we would meet at. I just feel so done with all that drama.
It must feel nice to be free from that. And I figured my friend would pick me up or meet up to see fireworks. Guess he didn’t want that either.
My advice is, don’t be afraid to let go of those people. Since I started advocating for myself, I’ve found much more substantial relationships. Even on this site more recently, I had the misfortune of a female friend who took advantage of my kindness and I had to cut her off. It sucks in the beginning but you’re better off without those people.
Been there too, and trust me, those aren't your friends.
I’m kind of guess they are not. What happened with you?
I didn't cut them off. I just stopped putting in the effort. They noticed because they were used to me always reaching out first. I focused on other people and stayed busy. One time I ran into one of them, he tried to talk, and I said I was in a rush, he even offered me a ride and I said no, even though I didn't have a car. Best move? Quietly replace them and don't explain yourself. Explanations just give them room to argue.
No, after a while you should get sick of it.
I’m already getting sick of it.