Do you think wanting friends can be covering up your desire to have a relationship?

[Anonymous]

[DaveJord]

I will assume this question is in the context of man and woman, where they start off looking to make new freinds, before wanting to date?

I think for women this is truer than it is for men. I always say that a woman should never give away sex for free, but if guy who wants more gives away his friendship without some type of intimacy... is literally giving the away the one thing he can offer most to woman for free.

I woman in true friendship with a man, can achieve every benefit of being in a true relationship, with half if not none of the risks. But most men do not start out with the goal of being a womans freind, without intimacy. Once he provides that friendship to her, then he is basically in a sexless relationship, where her emotional needs are being without the physical closeness he might desire.

This is why, for a vast majority of men, it a RED Flag to date women with lots of male freinds, or any woman that spends any amount of time with ex-boy freinds as just freinds. Because for women like this, they have already surrounded themselve with male freinds, that are already fulfilling her emotional needs as a freind. And for her that will be safer for her than dating a man that requires more of her.

[CalmUntilAbused]

It depends on the situation. If it's about making friends of the opposite sex, then there might even be some hidden hope of expanding that friendship into a relationship (a. k. a. "start as friends"), which might actually be a healthy approach. If it's about making friends of the same sex, though, it's simply about fighting loneliness and lack of any reason to live.

[SueShe]

I do not think so because friends and a relationship are two distinctive and different things.

Actually, it is good to separate/segregate friends with relationships as both are targeting different people. Usually, friends should not be considered as potential candidates for relationships simply because a relationship will destroy friendships in most cases.

Nowadays, mainly younger generations are less interested in a steady and long term relationship. Thus, those short term relationships are likely based solely on experimenting (fornication). Those experiments are very detrimental to friendships because most of them end in bad terms.

The setup for a relationship and a friendship are totally different.

[PBandJ_Nerd]

No. If you like someone romantically (aka more than friends) you'll notice for yourself. Your desire won't disappear into thin air.

[Hulk_kitty]

No, because we don't alway want sex with out friends. Our friends also could be ugly to us. I need an sexually attractive partner. Our needs are different, depending on the relationship.

[NathanDavis]

not in my case... I always had both...

I was friends with my friends... and I was in a relationship with my girlfriend, at the same time...

[Lisia]

I don't think so, it's different. I had the desire to have friends when I was in a relationship.

[236color]

So what is the context here, are you trying to level up friendship to relationship, or do you think that's what they are doing?

[aceleon]

no, i think it is the opposite, wanting a relationship isa coverup for wanting friends.

[fuddly]

I agree

I think if a person is lonely they will look for friends

But deep down they are looking for a relationship

In other words, and maybe this is too strong, a person looking for friends probably unhappy with their partner.

[TheSpaceGnome]

No, a relationship stems from a best friend.

[es20490446e]

Probably the opposite.

You crave a relationship because you miss hugs and kisses.

[FenixG45]

Humans are social animals. We need and crave social interactions like our closest relatives chimpanzees & bonobos. Friends, partners, mates!

[boggboss]

Yes many people do this

[LiamJHayden]

In my case, no.

[BarryLiverstone]

Nope. Friends are a relationship , just platonic

[DreamLife7]

Smh these questions I swear

[elaphe]

No, we all need friends.

[StirredNotShaken]

No...

[In_Trance]

Sometimes