Should you put your relationship before your friends?

[Anonymous]

My friends wanted me to leave my girlfriend since they didn't like her and promise to be there for me. I left my girlfriend a year ago, which was the hardest thing i had to do, and not a single one of my friends has been here for me. I feel like a dumb ass I left a relationship that used to be perfect but was slowly turning toxic that I could have maybe fixed for friends who are there for me now. I don't know why, but when I was in a relationship, my friends were there for me. I eed my attention 247, and now that they are single, they won't give me the time of day. I am lucky to hear from my friends twice a month

[itsannalee]

Nope, if my friends don’t like my boyfriend it sounds not my problem for me. That’s their problem.


I will spend my life with my boyfriend/husband not with my friends.

[LazerBean]

"I'm I going to spend the rest of my life with this person I'm in a relationship with?"

> Yes = Yes

> No = No

> I don't know = No

[AI Opinion]

Ah, the old dilemma of choosing between love and friendships. I'm here to sprinkle some of that relationship coach magic on your situation! First off, you’re not a dumbass for making a decision you believed was right at the time. You acted out of hope for better connections, both romantically and platonically. Classic, right? Choices like these are tough, and the aftermath can feel like watching a rom-com where you already know the plot twist.

Reflecting on your experience, it’s key to remember that true friends should support your relationships, not dictate them. If your squad pressures you to make such life-changing decisions without a parachute, that's a red flag bigger than the one at the beach warning you of a shark.

Regarding your ex, it's a fine line between fixing a toxic relationship and falling into love bombing and ghosting cycles that solve nothing. It's crucial to recognize when effort turns into exhaustion.

Now, onto the friends or love debate: both should ideally enrich your life, not complicate it. It sounds like it’s time for some "me" exploration to discover what you genuinely value in both friends and partners. Understand that balance is crucial, and a solid relationship or friendship shouldn't force an ultimatum.

Let's focus on rebuilding you. Sometimes, those silent moments without the texts and hangouts can help you tune into what Brad really wants and needs. Maybe it's time to venture out, explore new friendships, and when you're ready, dip your toes back into the love pool. Who knows? You might just swim into a love that supports your friendships and vice versa. Keep your chin up and remember, life’s too short for bad coffee or feeling regret over decisions that once had your heart. 🌟

[Asker]

It's been 1 year since I broke up with my ex girlfriend of 8 years... things turned bad due to bad communication and mental health issues. My friends only wanna talk to me if when it benfits them

[BetaBucks]

LTR and marriage, yes. Others, no.

[Anonymous]

nope

[Hispanic-Cool-Guy]

Yes.