If I had genuine close female friends who would fit my values and they would be able to warn me of things I cannot see... then probably yes. With that said, these days I just have 'acquintances' who I don't see eye to eye, who prefer spending most of their time elsewhere except for the occassional meetup to share or rant to me about their life choices... . I don't feel excited to meet them anymore. The illusion has faded out. I already know too much and that they will never see me as a close friend.
If I would meet someone special who I could have similar companionship of a close friend with the added feelings and attraction would be nice. However, I have to be wary of the fact that people, most of them, don't want to be that close to anyone and have diversified social game and circles. Putting too much faith on a person like that means I will be devastated when things don't work out, because so far, no one liked me back enough. I prefer being alone if it's necessary to keep myself grounded.
The word "more" is a relative term. The relationship a person has with their friends is almost always different from the relationship they have with their partner. Neither is better than the other, just different. Some things are more easily shared with friends than their partner, while other things may be just the opposite.
Your partner should be your top priority over your friends no matter what , if you are choosing your friends over your partner? Your relationship will more than likely not last the long haul and be prepared to be single again.
Navigating the tricky waters of love and friendship, huh? I'm here to sprinkle some of my relationship wisdom on this classic conundrum. Imagine you're the captain of a ship sailing through the Ocean of Love (yes, let's make it that dramatic!). On one side, you've got the Island of Friends, and on the other, the Isle of Love. If your crew from the Island of Friends starts raising eyebrows at your chosen co-captain from the Isle of Love, what do you do?
First thing's first, don't jump ship or throw anyone overboard just yet! It's about finding out *why* your friends are giving the side-eye. They've been your lighthouse for a while, right? Maybe they're spotting some fog you're sailing into that you don't see. HOWEVER, your heart compass is key here too. Sometimes, friends might miss the mark, blinded by their own expectations or experiences.
Bottom line: weigh their concerns, reflect on your relationship without rose-tinted glasses, but also remember, your ship, your rules. In the end, choosing between friends and a partner shouldn't feel like a Titanic moment. With open dialogue, reflection, and maybe a dash of lovebombing (because, why not?), you might just navigate to a place where everyone can dock happily. 😉💕⛵
If its even remotely serious it always must be your partner that matters not just more , but far more , if you are picking " friends " , you don't have a partner , you may have a fck buddy , but its not a relationship.
Your partner is ultimately the one you spend most of your time with and gets to know you best. They're also the one you potentially have a family with. When you die, who do you usually say you'll wait for on the other side? Your partner. Not your friend.
Although the time that you've spent together and how close with your friends you are is taken into account when deciding who matters more currently, the answer is usually your partner, unless you haven't spent much time with them.
Don't really have the friends these days as I moved states to be with my current partner.. but I've been in that situation before and I chose my partner (ex) that was a mistake, should have chose my friends... But the partner I have now I'd probably chose him especially because we made a family together too so he's a lot more than just a "boyfriend"
If my friends don't like my partner, I should probably be thinking about why, because I'm friends with some lovely, supportive people. If they don't like the person, there's probably a reason for it. Overall, I think it mostly depends on who's been in my life longer and who I trust more (which will probably be my friends atm).
Hardly, this is how girls get away from the bad guys that they think are the good guys. Sometimes your friends see shit that you've blinded yourself to because you're enamored with your partner or the person shows very different behavior to them as to you. I wouldn't classify someone who does those things as "a good guy". If my friends sit down with me and say "we are genuinely concerned for you" then I'm going to respect that and hear them out. I chose those people to be in my life because I care about and trust them and know they feel the same towards me. They're aren't going to try and stop me from dating someone who's actually good for me.
So if your friends gaslight you into thinking your perfect and kind boyfriend sucks, you'll think he sucks? Seems like friends showing true colors and exercising control over you. Also, it seems like you don't trust your judgment of people to know what's good or not. I hope you don't rely on everyone else to think for you
Why are you assuming that I'd have a "perfect and kind" boyfriend or my friends, who have stood by to help me through actual gaslighting from a man, would intentionally sabotage me? That seems like a rather overly dramatic and biased narrative... I trust my judgement, but I also trust the judgment of the people I keep around me, and think it's worthwhile to figure out why those judgements might diverge.
I understand that most people ask questions on this site hoping to receive a specific answer, but aren't you trying a little too hard? Imagine a circumstance where I'm dating a man who is kind a polite to me, but rude and derogatory to other people when I'm not present? Or imagine I'm involved with a man who actually is gaslighting me, and the people around me are able to see that because they aren't emotionally involved the way I am? You can't assume that a partner OR your friends will always treat you correctly, so my answer is that I'll look at it from both perspectives, rather than unilaterally trust one side or the other. You're the one who's promoting a mindset that doesn't involve making a rational, independent judgement.
It honestly depends. If it's one or two friends, and the rest find him alright, I wouldn't care and stick to my partner but if he rubs a lot of them the wrong way including family, I'd be questioning my taste at least a little.
I don't want to be with someone unlikeable and problematic.
partner definitely, I love my partner but am fond of my friends. My thoughts and priority are always on my partner who I don't want to live without whereas my friends I can do without if need be.
If a had a partner, then partner. But when you’re single, friends is all you got. Boys come and go, but friends who enjoy your company will always be there
Well I don’t have a partner and haven’t had one for almost 10 years now so I’d say my friends matter more to me but my family and country matter far more.
if they don't like her that's on them. i'm not going to cut them off but i'm also not going to cut her off. my happiness comes first and that means no one gets cut off
:/ woman, why you act like this? You could participate with the question, or not. But you instead argue against it. This should be a wake up call to say "Hey, am I the problem?" I certainly hope you don't act like this is public.
Yes. I'm always honest. It's not meant to be an attack on you. It's my observation of your actions. I'm sure you are a great person and are beautiful and happy. But I'm gonna be honest and tell you your comments have been pointless.
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