Why do people prioritize relationships over friendships?

[Anonymous]

Friendships are easier to maintain and offer the same emotional support as a relationship, plus if you have a bad friend it's easier to drop them than the break up mess.

Everyone here says no one needs a relationship but then they spend so much time maintaining and worry about one when it's not needed

[Anonymous]

Yes! Especially women, they like to throw their friends on back burners for their relationships until something happens in the relationship. Then all of a sudden it’s “hey we haven’t hung out in a while are you free?” It’s super annoying, that some of these women are so far up there boyfriends asses that they treat there friends like shit until something goes wrong

even when I was in a long term relationship, I always made time for my friends. Yet they could never be the same, we’d plan to hang out then they’d just go ghost and they’d be hanging out with their boyfriends. Like at least have the decency to let me know you made other plans.

[beenherebefore]

I prioritize my relationship because this is the person I'm going to spend the rest of my life with no matter what. I personally don't think friendships are easier to maintain and do not offer the same emotional support at all.
My Partner knows way more about me than any of my friends ever will, he's the one I go to when I'm struggling with something and knows exactly what to say because our proximity is way different than the type of relationships I have with friends.

[Asker]

I guess how are you able to even get a relationship when you don't value love from yourself or your friends to be the same?

No one needs a relationship but it sounds like you put an astronomical amount of worth onto your partner

[beenherebefore]

Where did I mention that I don't love myself? I love myself way too much, you're too quick to judge. And yes, putting effort in my romantic relationship makes me happy and fulfilled and there's absolutely nothing wrong with it.

[Asker]

Would you be just as happy and fulfilled without a relationship?

[beenherebefore]

Absolutely! I don't need a Partner to make me happy but I cannot lie life is so much better with him.

[Asker]

Right but if he was gone, you'd be happy still, right?

I ask because people always question those who claim to want relationships because they often think relationships make life easier when they don't, they're usually delusional.

You saying life is better with a partner is shocking

[Abbycado]

@HollyK21 your thoughts? I don't think it is any easier to drop a bad friend than break up. I also don't find the emotional support claim true at all.

[Asker]

People needing relationships for emotional support is an incel myth that is sadly normalized in society due to patriarchy. You can learn to love yourself and focus on good friends for emotional support instead of looking for a partner but so many, usually men, want the partnership instead.

If you think relationships should be the primary form of emotional support a person has, you either need to work on yourself or get better friends

[HollyK21]

I don’t think we should rely on anyone for emotional support, friend or otherwise. Is it nice to have someone there for you in times of need? Absolutely, but that isn’t the main reason for me to maintain any sort of relationship. A friend won’t be my life partner, they’ve got their own lives and families to worry about. At least in a relationship you are each other’s main priority, that’s not the case with friends.

[Asker]

What would be the point of a relationship if you're not supposed to draw emotion from it? I agree that no one should rely on others for emotional support. I'm actually against the whole therapy boom and would rather it go to natural selection.

[HollyK21]

I never said you shouldn’t draw emotional support from a relationship, I just don’t think that’s the main reason to maintain one. That seems to be your biggest talking point when it comes to being with someone.

[Abbycado]

@HollyK21 it sounds more like this is his justification for not being able to get into a relationship.

Saying things like friendships are just as good and bringing up the term incel are warning signs in my opinion.

[Abbycado]

see?

At what point does a man go from a virgin to an incel and should be shunned from society? ↗

[Asker]

@Abbycado I'm happy alone, it's just that many of my friends have been coming to me with relationship issues over the years and it confuses me why they emotionally invest so much when they don't have to.

You're incorrect and any psychologist will tell you friendships and family can be just as emotionally fulfilling as relationships.

Incels claim they need relationships for happiness and emotional support, do you agree with them?

[Asker]

Also I have nothing to do with that post

[HollyK21]

Now THAT makes perfect sense Abby. Paired with the post you just sent, it feels as though he’s trying to cope. Since he’s a virgin I’m guessing he has little to no experience with women and therefore adopted this odd way of thinking. Friends aren’t meant to fill the position of a girlfriend/boyfriend, husband/wife. I couldn’t imagine one of my girls relying on me in that sort of way.

[Asker]

@Hollyk21

You said "I don't think we should rely on anyone for emotional support" does that include partners?

[HollyK21]

Also anon, please don’t lie. The age range in the other post is the same, as is the verbiage used. This community is not very big. Like at all, so it’s painfully obvious.

[Asker]

I'm not a virgin, and I'm a trans man...

It's gross that you're writing my history when you don't even know me

[HollyK21]

I said “I never said you should draw emotional support from a relationship”. To me that’s different than solely relying on someone.

[Asker]

In any case you said "I don't think we should rely on anyone for emotional support" and I agree, then you disagree when I agree with it. I'm confused as to what your point is

[Asker]

How is it different? And will you apologize for lying about me?

[Abbycado]

Holy, I’m going to mute this. There is really no point. See ya, girl.

[HollyK21]

Same Abby. Bye anon.

[Nikki1989]

Find yourself a meaningful relationship first before making ridiculous assumptions. You obviously have immature insecurities, but that is hardly an excuse.

[MemeSupreme]

i'm gonna care more about the relationship where im WAY more vulnerable lol

[Asker]

Do you agree that you need to be happy alone before getting into a relationship?

[MemeSupreme]

idkk about happy but i get wym

it helps

[RedWine9]

I believe it's societal pressure. We're taught this from a young age.

[Unycorn]

You don't have sex in a friendship

[Anonymous]

Because men look for mommy and women look for daddy to marry

[Mariogirl09]

Sex lol

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

Amatonormativity