Was I wrong to vent to my friend about my abusive father and our fights?

[Badtobad]

If you read my questions, I am going through a very hard time with my dad, he is abusive and it has terrible impact on me.

I told my friend who is his cousins daughter everything, and how much I hate him. That we fight occasionally and I said it to everyone. She told me I shouldn't be talking bad about my dad because he's still my dad and my family situation is starting to take a toll on her and she has her own problems to deal with.

I told her that she, and everyone is on my dad's side and they are eager to back him up and they would die for him and she told me I am being a bitch for no reason and that I pissed her off.

[Coercion_Is_Trauma]

Being afraid of criticizing one's own parents is what makes oneself a tyrant.

Venring is only bad if it is used to suppress feelings, like some people expect to suddenly feel euphoric after venting... and they make it into a gossip addiction. But healthy venting is what trigfers yourself to grieve even more, and only after induced sorrow the trauma lifts. ㅤ

[Finchie40]

No you aren’t wrong to vent your frustrations , you just vented your frustrations to the wrong person , your cousin is clearly no help to you whatsoever , so just find someone else to vent your frustrations to , since your cousin is no help

[Badtobad]

I don't know why she got so pissed

[Finchie40]

If she loves your Dad than that’s probably why , cuz it’s her Uncle , so she probably looks at her Uncle as a great guy. When I use to tell my cousin that my Dad was an asshole , he would defend my Dad and say he is a great guy , He is a great guy to him because he doesn’t live with him , so that’s probably how your cousin looks at it as well

[Badtobad]

Exactly but he's not her uncle, her mom's cousin

[slatyb]

No, but she was the wrong person to talk to. Talk to a friend outside the family, or if possible see a professional counselor. in my opinion you need to leave this environment.

[LunarEclipse433]

Absolutely not. Everyone needs a good friend to vent to. And if someone vents about private matters to you, know they consider you a good friend

[eagle1951]

i'd say nol you were not wrong