So I've been dating this guy on and off 3 years. It's been very up and down.
We had been dating consistently again for several months. To begin with, he was being really nice, taking me out for meals and being really kind.
Things took a turn about 6 weeks ago, he started putting me down , constantly mocking me, saying I wasn't allowed to ask any questions and would snap at me if I instigated affection but equally get mad if he felt I wasn't being receptive to his advances. He would also say things like I'm "getting on" for a woman because I'm 26 and have no kids (for context I'm an educated professional in the UK). He would make chauvinistic comments about me being on a biological clock and when I got upset he would say I was over sensitive.
Things progressively become physical as well, starting with him sitting on me (putting his full body weight on me) to pinching me really hard and shoving me onto roads.
When I confronted him about the physical abuse he repeatedly called me a gimp and said he didn't have to explain himself because he was drunk. When I said that being drunk doesn't absolve him from responsibility , he just said "whatever, don't talk to me like you're in court " (I'm a lawyer).
At that point, I said he clearly doesn't respect or care about me at all and blocked him. He has since blocked me back.
I'm sad the relationship is over as he could be nice and we did have some good times. Was I over reacting?
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Incredibly abusive. No doubt about it. I’m sorry you had to put up with that. The thing is you deserve respect and kindness from your partner. And when that doesn’t occur (everyone can have bad days) and you bring up something that is bothering you, he should be incredibly receptive to that, apologize, and do better next time, while also listening and doing his best to make it up to you.
I know you mentioned about the good times that you’ll miss. And that’s completely natural. Breakups are hard and painful. But keep this in mind. Those good times, aren’t who he truly is. He showed you his true character, and it’s abusive, rude, arrogant, etc. The good times were him being fake. I know that’s difficult to hear, since in the moment it felt so good. But just try to be glad that he showed you who he truly is and that you were able to get out of the situation.
You did nothing wrong here. You didn’t overreact at all. He’s a bad person. So sorry you’re going through this. You’ll find someone much better!
of course not yoy are not overreacting and what's with the ticking clock thing... duh i love babies i find them cute but dear i'm not desperate a girl can freeze their eggs and if it's sex i have more fun in taking the matters in my own hands so... you know guys like that they have personal issues they hate the world and thry take it on you.
that's clearly abuse. i'm 37 and i'm not even bothered i have strong faith though and certain with Jesus so my suggestion is to strengthen your faith. Gos is a provider
i repeat GOD IS A PROVIDER. it may not be in the manner you want it to be and it may not be in your timeline but He provides.
You need to move forward and forget about him. He is abusive and you deserve more. Don't ever allow a man to disrespect you physically or mentally. He deserves nothing