My sister keeps making comments about my weight?

[Anonymous]

I recently moved in with my older sister, and she's started making comments about my weight. I know I've put on a little weight since its that time of the months and just in general, but I don't feel like its that bad. She keeps saying that I need to go to the gym with her, or when I eat she calls me a fatty. She says it jokingly, but it really bothers me. She's very extroverted and I'm the complete opposite so I don't know what to say to her. She'd probably just laugh if I said it bothered me.

It's gotten to the point where I feel kinda gross when I eat anything. I just feel fat for eating. I'm 5'4 and 119lbs. I know this isn't fat, so I don't understand why she keeps saying that I'm getting fat, or that I'm chubby. It's really, really bothering me. Like if I say my pants are tight she just laughs and says she could fit into them or something like that.

I really don't know what to do about it.

[Anonymous]

maybe she's jealous cause you gained some weight and you look better than her( 119lbs at 5'4 is right on the money weight wise) or it could be that she's super focused on her own weight and you're a reflection of her or it could be that she sees you putting weight on and is trying to stop it from getting out of control (that freshman 15 is only the beginning sometimes and you let yourself go) so she's drawing your attention to it in a way that she perceives as nonthreatening.

if it's truly her joking tell her it's not funny or if she's just being overly critical because she's jealous or she sees you as a reflection of herself then pick out something about her and mention it all the time(her teeth, her nose) and if she says anything say "oh I just thought that's what we do now cause you pick on me about my weight so I thought you'd enjoy the same kind of joking about your nose" with some people they have to get a taste of their own medicine before they realize...ok maybe it's not as subtle or as funny as I think it is.

[ShesSoSilly]

I think all you can do is either talk to her about it and let her know how seriously and strongly you feel about it and hope she considers your feelings and listens.

Or ignore it the best you can and focus on the good things about yourself and in your life.

I personally would let her know she needs to stop because its upsetting you and isn't okay and she might be joking but I'd let her know that it hurts. If she seriously cannot stop after you've had a talk like that with her I wouldn't have anything to do with someone like that and she obviously has some issues of her own.

[CatholicVirginia]

She thinks she's doing you a favor by pointing it out and drawing your attention to it before it gets carried away. She doesn't want you to look at the scale one day and find out that the extra five pounds has turned into fifteen. She thinks she's helping you by being lighthearted.

[eman844]

she's being nothing but a total witch, it sounds like she has some serious self confidence issues and is trying to vent it out by making you feel bad, that or she gets some sick kick out of making you feel bad, you need to just tell her off. she's a mean person

[Anonymous]

You should tell her to back off, but you should also go to the gym with her. Seems like she's trying to guilt trip you into going with her. Maybe she just wants quality time?

[Deft_maiden]

ask her for clarification. Why is she saying that? No reason to attach emotions to the subject matter. Be assertive and express how it makes you feel. You have no idea what the source is. It could be her own deep seeded issues; So don't take it personally. Remember people say all kinds of sh*t. That does not make it true!

[sloaneified]

As an older sister I think she's just trying to be helpful, and she just wants you to look

Good an feel good. But if it's really bothering you and hurts your feelings, make that clear to her. Tell her you're content with the way you look and uou don't need her to butt in.

[cjwright79]

I'd tell her to f*ck off and go to hell. She sounds like a deranged f*ckwit with serious emotional issues.