My friend is making weird comments about my weight?

[Anonymous]

I’m pretty skinny, and I have small boobs. My friend has big boobs and is curvy, and also has a larger frame. I think we both are attractive. She seems to be alright when it’s just us two but when we get in front of other people she always brings up the fact that I have small boobs, or that I’m “so skinny she can stuff me into her handbag.” She always finds a way to bring up my weight and says I’m too skinny. Especially when we’re around guys, it’s always comments about my body. It’s hurtful and embarrassing. Should I say something?

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+1 y

It’s weird because when my other friend put me down this friend told me “she’s just jealous of you, ignore her.” But now she’s turning around and doing the same thing!

[Anonymous]

Somehow, I have the feeling that you are just trying to be nice by referring her as “curvy”, when she is probably just fat. I know this because I have been friends with someone as toxic as her. The reason they did that to us is because they are insecure of their own body, and they feel like we get more attention from the opposite gender. When you go out together, there gotta someone who always attracts the men more than the other. It is impossible for both of you to get equal amount of attention. I cut my friend off as she was just draining my energy level and using me as a “punching bag” to make herself feel better which is not fair.

[Asker]

She’s actually curvy, a bit like Kim kardashian/Marilyn Monroe type of figure kinda. I think she’s really pretty as well. Just her comments do not make me feel good about myself since I’m so naturally skinny. I’m sorry your friend said those things to you, you don’t deserve that :( sending hugs

[xJayleenx]

I think she’s putting you down in order to make herself feel better don’t let her treat you like that. Do you know how many people wish that they were skinny? Being skinny is the beauty standard in so many countries so I would embrace it

[Asker]

Thank you beauty x

[Dchrls78104]

If you're morbidly emaciated, you should see a doctor. If you're not, be comfortable in your own skin. Either way, make the choice to ignore that individual or else kindly but firmly tell her that her constant criticism of your weight is offensive and unnecessary and that you don't want to be around her if it continues. Ultimately, she's the one with the problem, not you.

[SeekerOfBooty]

Low key she knows skinny is more attractive, so she puts you down to make herself feel better.

[Flower7]

She’s probably insecure about her own body. From your description of her, it sounds like she’s a bit overweight. You should stop being friends with her. She doesn’t respect you and she’s toxic.

[slatyb]

Yes, you should tell her to stop doing that. If she won't, then stop hanging out with her.

[FlaffyCheez]

Yes you should say something. If it makes you uncomfortable you should say that.

[noohair]

She is the one with issues and is trying to validate herself.
And I would not call this person a friend.

[CapnHawk]

No, keep silent. She's trying to divert attention away from her own body issues.

[Asker]

Still doesn’t excuse it though..

[CapnHawk]

It's her problem. Don't make it yours.

[Wise4myage]

Yes, of course you should say something and tell her to STFU if she keeps doing it.

[Pink2000]

I’d rather get made fun of for being skinny than being fat. at least being slim is what’s considered the standard of beauty. She may be jealous?

[Anonymous]

Seems like she’s trying to make herself feel good by saying that about you in front of people

[Danny_dan92]

From an honest standpoint. Who get’s more guys?

[Asker]

I would say both of us, we’re both considered attractive tbh

[Danny_dan92]

She’s being competitive then

[Anonymous]

Jealousy

[In_Trance]

call her out on it