What do I do when she treats me as a girl/gay friend?

[Anonymous]

Got friend zoned hard cause she's seeing another guy...

anywayshe sometimes treats me like I'm her girlfriend and I have zero idea how to respond and not hurt my chances at getting her in the future:

For example:

"OMG Jim and Pam from "The Office" are SO cute"

those kinda texts are what I'm talking about. So what do I do? again I don't wanna hurt my future chances for when she's over this dirt bag

And don't say "oh god there's no escape"... anythings possible if you believe in it

[DanteSparda]

GET RID OF HER

This girl is saying to you "You're not good enough for me to want to have sex with, but this guy I met at a party and knew for half an hour was DEFINITELY good enough."

If you've got any balls at all, you're going to realize that this is not right, and you're not going to put up with it.

There is absolutely no reason to PUT YOURSELF THROUGH this kind of torture. That's exactly what you're doing. Torturing yourself, degrading yourself, and then coming back for more.A Man doesn't do that. A doormat does that, a wimp does that,

YOU do NOT do that

You are a Man. Think it, Know it, Believe it and you will become one, even if you aren't right now.

So you've realized you need to get rid of this cancer in your life. This is the hard part, the painful part. You're friends, she's great. Of course she is, you wouldn't have been interested in her otherwise!

Chances are, she's going to try to talk you out of it. This is the Moment Of Truth. You don't have to like this part; you just have to do it. You're not going to let her use you.

Every time she meets another guy, she's telling you that you just aren't good enough.Every time she has sex with another guy, she's going to come back and tell you about it.

She is going to date other men. You and her are NOT going to date. Do you really want to hear about all the ways he's perfect for her, and you aren't?

If she really wanted to date you, when you asked her out initially she would have said yes.It's just not worth it. By not making the healthy choice and moving on with your life,you're asking for a world of pain, stress, and depression. For what? You already have friends, ones who aren't using you, and who will still be there for you after this woman is gone.

You can't be friends. It's not going to work. Make the right decision, be a Man and move on. There are billions of people on this planet, and you WILL find someone who is what also interested in you too..

hope that helped :)

[gonyr]

if she's using jim and pam that's a good sign for you

they started out as the ultimate friend zone too lol

[Anonymous]

There's no escape from what?

You either answer her texts or you don't. There's no guarantee that she will like you as more than a friend in the future. You can choose to inform her of your feelings and leave the choice of continuing communication up to her; that's the only real way to make it clearly out of friend zone, but you risk losing all communication with her. Is that what you want?

[Asker]

I did tell her my feelings, A LOT of times now, yet she continues to talk to me.

I heard her LDR might fail though cause the guy blows her off alot...

I guess I'm just a second option -.-

[Opinion Owner]

So then she just doesn't respect you and your feelings. I'd back away if I were you.

[Anonymous]

Can you imagine thinking you're really good friends with someone but they're actually resenting you for it the whole time? I agree with other anon girl, stop pretending to be her friend. You're not doing her any favors by sticking around only because you're waiting for her relationship to end.

[Anonymous]

well if she's got a boyfriend and you like her, just start to become distant/ignore her... it will help you in the long run not to take her crap, a response to the jim and pam comment say : um ha ha ok.." (be a d*** basically)

[Little-Hippie]

You have no interest in being her platonic friend.

But you have no chance of being anything more.

No one can win here.

Leave this situation behind.

[AndyWes]

Walk away. Seriously. Stop talking to her, hanging out, texting, and just fade into the mist for six months, minimum. Preferably until she breaks up.

[Anonymous]

Stop pretending to be her friend.

Tell her that you don't give a darn about The Office.

[Anonymous]

Show your penis and see where that takes you