My friend is lesbian and I think she likes me, what should I do?

[Anonymous]

Please serious answers. This girl is my best friend, and I don't want lose her. I think she's lesbian because for example

when we watch movies together she often choses movies with gays or lesbians.

She looks at me strange when we are in swimmingpool

or happened 2 times that she kissed me on lips

sometimes she comments other girls like " What a hot chick!" ( but she comments boys too)

and she is very beautiful girl and naver had a boyfriend.

do you think she can be lesbian or this doesn't prove anything? and what to do, should I talk with her?

[yopyopyop]

It seems to me that you are a bit too passive with your friend.

For instance, the next time you watch a movie with gays or lesbians, say something like "oh, no, not again homosexual stories. I mean, it's OK, but not every time". Have a dvd ready with some good old fashioned hetero scenario.

Confess her you've watched a p*rn movie (insert a movie name with the classic "muscular plumber guy visits the hot housewife to repair the television set" scenario) and that it arroused you.

You should also start to talk to her about guys you like. I mean, I've already heard girls talking about guys they like, and it's definitely not more subtle than when guys talk about girls. She's your best friend, it's normal that you did. Pretend to ignore your doubt about her and just tell her about your sexuality, without asking about her.

If you have a crush for a guy, make her your confident about it. Don't spare details : what you'd like to do with him, like holding hands, french kissing, talk about his willy and so on. Make it hormonal, lol.

All these things are indirect yet obvious hints. The last time a gay friend of a girl friend showed interest for me, I did it like this. Told him about this hot chick I had met and would like to go out with, and such. It worked and I'm still friends with the guy. This should help.

[Serotriptomine]

I think it's safe to say that when she kissed you twice on the lips, that she's into you.

You could ask her about her behavior, or if you want to get straight to the point ask her.

"Hey 'name' so I might be totally wrong but, are you attracted to me?"

"Annnnd are you hinting that you'd like to date / do 'x' with me?"

You won't lose her as a friend for asking those questions.

[Anonymous]

If she kissed you twice it definitely sounds like she's attracted to you. She could be bisexual too. It happened to me with my best friend growing up too. She told me one day that she realized she was bi and she wanted to be with me. I guess it's pretty common for a girl who discovers she's attracted to other girls to fall for her best friend because they already love their best friend and have a close bond with them, so they're just transforming that love into something else. Talking with her would be a good idea, it would be best to get everything out in the open if she does like you.

[nina001]

she kissed you twice on lips! great what mean that? you will kiss her some on lips too.

[Dobie_Gillis]

If you can't accept her for who she is, it's time to end the friendship.If she hits on you or does anything else that makes you uncomfortable, tell her then and there. If she can't respect your feelings, she should be prepared to suffer the consequences.

You could just confront her and call her out on her orientation, but if she's not totally ready to come out it will not be a comfortable conversation - if she can even be truthful with you (and herself).

I have a few friends who are gay and a couple of them have very blatantly hit on me and still flirt with me from time to time. They know I am not interested and have told them so outright. I'm no bothered by their actions than those from women in whom I have no interest.

[Dragan]

I'd asked: "Are you a lesbian." This is the shortest and the best solution. I told her that I would like to stay a friends.