Why do men prefer hot women who treat them like crap?

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I could understand when she is hot, and you want to have sex with her but why get in a relationship with an abusive woman? I know so many guys who get in a relationship with women who tell them what to do, and hit them, and yell at them, and humiliate them and they take it just because she is hot. Just this previous Saturday I was out with a few friends and this guy got mad at his girlfriend because she smacked him across the face. And then it was him who ended up apologizing to her when she started crying. And from what his friends were saying, she is like that with him all the time. She smacks at him, yells at him, and tells him what to do. And then they fight about it, and it's always him who apologizes to her and he comes out looking like an a**hole. And the messed up thing is, he is 34 and she is 24. So he's letting someone ten years younger boss him around. Sure maybe he thinks he lucky because he has a hot woman who is ten years younger, but why put up with all that just for sex? He's constantly stressed, so why would he stay in that situation? And he has a five year old son. Why would he want an abusive woman? What if she slapped his little boy? And he is a hot guy, so he can do better if he wants. I always see that's the case. It's usually a hot guy who could have any girl he wants that puts up with it. I've seen it with ugly guys too, but it's more understandable for an ugly than a hot guy even if it's stupid.

There are plenty of other beautiful women out there who aren't abusive bitches.

beastman88 · Accepted Answer

just because he's so pathetic and has no respect for himself. I see this happen all the time especially girls going for hot guys. I see girls put up with my friends crap because he's "hot" or whatever. he always cheats on them with other girls yet she always comes back for more. its sad and pathetic. I have no respect for her whatsoever. I doubt my friend has any respect for her either except for his only use for her being that after party lay so his sad pathetic self doesn't feel lonely afterward. its really insane how much my friend gets around, I don't know how he does it. he's went through 3 girls in 2 weeks once. possibly more that I don't know about. he has a good job and some money to. then there's me can't find a relationship to save my life, I've been broken up for about 6 months I just feel  cursed since my last relationship. its douchbags like my friend that just seem to ruin girls to any kind of decent relationship with good men. he tries acting all depressed about his ex when he was sleeping around with 3 diff girls when it was his own f***ing fault. I really think he's a masogynist. he never had a good relationship with his mom, his mom is a complete f***tard, thief, loser. he treats me well I've been friends with him since day one. lucky iam not a girl I guess or else thatd be a complete diff story. he's moving away in a few months anyway so I won't have to put up with his dumbass anymore. its just sad that people whore themselves for good looks and money.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

It embarrasses me to say this, but I was in a relationship sorta like that once, except she was older than I was. She hit me a couple of times and I couldn't retaliate without looking like the bad guy, and made me pay for her parking and most other things and rarely paid for things herself. And she manipulated me into letting her smoke out my apartment window at a risk of a huge contract violation. TBH I think I was in that relationship because I had really low self esteem and I had not had a respectable relationship in a few years and wanted to feel loved by someone. The sex was good too. When she was in a good mood she would clean my apartment and cook for me. But when she was drunk, she was out of control and got 86'd from bars. She was a bad person when sober too and would get very angry about not having her way and tried to control my life. My friends warned me about her and told me to cut her outta my life. I eventually did, although it was hard I have not been a more happier and more liberated man.

So in short I think it is all about denial and low self worth that would cause a guy to stay with an abusive woman. He most likely focuses on her good qualities and denies the reality.

emmabee11 · Accepted Answer

They don't... they only love them temporarily until they learn their lessons and move on but they always love the good people for much much longer :) I often see guys asked "Why do the good guys finish last?" well... if a guy or girl came to the good person first they will not likely appricate you until they have learned all the lessons they need to learn, and have learned more about themselves in the process, they learn what they really want but at the early ages we have to sort through a lot of crap and especially around our early 20's people are grabbing onto us in fear trying to stop us from reaching out for something better, that is why hardly anyone even in their late 20's know what they want. They could also be used to their family always arguing too so they got used to that behavior and are naturally attracted to women who cause drama but they eventually know they have to break out of these bad habits too, and some people are just giant idiots but still... people just need time to sort through it all to know themselves better, it's the process of life to learn about ones self and we all need to figure out what we don't want too, eventually they will break up as he will get fed up of her slapping him and acting like a drama queen, there is only so much people can take really, but he will learn a lesson of what he doesn't want from a woman.

Vesuvius87 · Accepted Answer

Same reason why some women put up with abusive men and jerks: low self-esteem.

In their minds, they think they can't get anything better and will settle for less. They would rather be miserable with someone than be alone.

peace-love-couture · Accepted Answer

For guys, appearance trumps personality and character. It's no different from how girls will put up with being treated like sh*t from a 'bad boy.'

joystickhappy · Answer

For me it doesn't matter how hot a girl MAY have seemed, if she is mean to me she is instantly ugly. I would never put up with that no matter how "hot" she may be. If she's gonna be a jerk to me she can go find another guy who doesn't care what she's like. Looks may be what attracts me at first, but personality is what makes me want to stick around. If we just don't connect or she's mean then I'm no longer interested. Also I wouldn't have sex with anyone unless I've know them for a while and feel a connection. I want to be with someone who makes me feel good about myself, and doesn't make me feel like sh!t all of the time. I'm always proud to have a sweet girl by my side!

Shablul · Answer

We men are more visual than you. It's kind of sad actually, we'd be willing to do almost anything to sleep with a girl who looks awesome naked (we'd love to sleep with anyone who isn't unattractive, is more like it), and to keep sleeping with her as long as possible.

Meedo · Answer

Hey I forgot... I think also if men hit women she can get them reported easily... like if he defends himself.. but its not easy to believe a woman can abuse a man .  Like it brings a man shame and stuff. Some times it is hard to be a man lol

PhilaPenn · Answer

He deserves whatever happens to him. Lol, this guy kinda seems like a loser. Women can only abuse men if they are allowed to get away with it. Lol, I can't fathom a woman slapping me in my face in public...is she crazy?

douchebag4eva · Answer

LOL I'm sorry WHAT? You mustve meant why do women prefer hot men who treat them like sh*t

RedSmartie · Answer

Guys see sex as the most important thing.  They see a girl with an awesome body and they will want to bang it as often as possible even if she has a wicked personality to go with it.

htarmort14 · Answer

I don't know and honestly, if he is not my friend, I don't care. Why? Because it is his deal. If he get off on sadistic or pain or whatever. That is his deal and tolerate.

Anonymous · Answer

Basically he puts up with it because he doesn't think he can get any better. I don't think she'll leave him if he decides to put her in her place but not putting up with her crap, unless she just purposefully just goes for guys that she can take advantage of like that.  I thought girls like it when a guy knows how to handle them whenever they're having a temper tantrum and doesn't put up with her childish behavior.

Anonymous · Answer

You know I used to wonder the same thing about girls who put up with supposed good looking douche bag guys.

So I decided that I would become hot, except be awesome and kind. It is turning out well so far.

Meedo · Answer

it could be anything... you named a few reasons yourself.. some people have low self esteem even if they are hot.. they won't recognise it.

drummerdude25 · Answer

I'd prefer a beautiful woman who treats me well and with respect... and I would, of course, do the same for her.

finallyfabulous · Answer

We accept the love we think we deserve That or she is a really good f***

Moloch · Answer

It's not about hot women who treat them like crap, it's just about hot women.

Anonymous · Answer

Same reason women date hot jerks.

Anonymous · Answer

Men love flaunting arm candy.

Anonymous · Answer

Because they're hot.

Anonymous · Answer

to get laid

Anonymous · Answer

The sex is bangin

Why do men prefer hot women who treat them like crap?

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