I think my sister got her period while staying with me. What to do?

Question

My parents are out of the country and my sister is on spring break, so she is staying in a different state with me. We are usually close but all day she has been avoiding me. I couldn't figure out why and then I saw blood on her pants. She has been in bed all day. Do I go buy her something? Wait for her to talk to me? My girlfriend and me just broke up so there isn't a girl she can talk to. My college is on spring break too so all my friends are out of town. She's 14 and I don't want to make her feel uncomfortable. She is staying with me a couple more days. If this is the case she will need something.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Let me be honest, when I got my period for the first time I tried to hide it. I knew what it was (pretty sure that at 13/14 every girl knows what it is), but I HATED the though of having any sort of talk with my mom that involved my private parts. She obviously caught me.

So she went full berserk and acted like it was my birthday, cheered, clapped and hugged me. Awkward.

Then she spent the whole week reminding me to change my pad every two hours. Also very awkward.

So if this is her first, don't even try to ask, because she'll be awkward. I know that at 14, I would.

I was awkward about my period for YEARS. Honestly, I only started buying my own tampons at 17.

ANYWAY:

If I was you, I'd call a girl friend of hers, tell her that your sister looks sick but doesn't want to talk to you, so you thought she might enjoy the company.

Then, hopefully, your sister will tell her friend and her friend will help her or ask you for help.

If there's no way to contact a friend/someone she can talk to, just go into her room, the most casually way you can and say something like ' Look, if you're having your period I can go to the store for you. Oh, and by the way (something random here, like, "I'm doing the laundry, where's the soap?" or "I think I'm going to make myself some waffles, if you want some just tell me") ' - that way you can offer your help AND look like you don't care at all, so she will be a little less awkward.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

I agree with sef0181; get a box/bag and pretend it was your ex's. If you want to make it more convincing that you didn't go buy them just for her, you can open the top of the box/bag so it doesn't look perfectly new. Pads are probably a better idea than tampons, though, since with tampons girls have to worry about how they fit, inserting them properly, not leaking, and stuff like that. Go to Walmart, Meijer, or some other multi-purpose store rather than a drugstore like Walgreen's, because the drugstore charges much more for the same product. I'd recommend Always (brand) Maxi (size- it's the largest), because if the pads are too small or thin, she'll have to change them more often. You'll find them in the Personal Care section with the feminine products. You can always ask a store associate for help finding them.

Also, if she's stained some of her clothing, she'll probably need some way to get to clean clothes and underwear and not want you to know about it. Make sure her luggage or whatever her clothes are in is available nearby, where she can be as unobtrusive as possible getting them. This will probably help her feel less uncomfortable.

Have hot drinks available, since sometimes they soothe stomach cramps girls have. (Ice cream makes mine worse; for some people that isn't the case.) Also keep Tylenol (acetaminophen) available if she needs it.

ArabianPwincess197 · Accepted Answer

I know what she's going through the process is painful.

You could inform her you're going to the store. Go to the store and get her a tub of her favorite ice-cream, chocolates and some always pads - they are soft and comfortable and not too bulky because they are long. Then go a rental store and rent couple of her favorite movies. Then you can go home and watch them with her over a tub of ice-cream. Or you can leave her to watch them while eating ice-cream. Though watching the movies with her would give you some quality time with her and secretly she would be thrilled and appreciative, it will raise her mood too.

If you have some money you could book a day at the spa for her. So after she's finished her periods she can go and relax.

Also give her a 2 tablets of Paracetamol and a hot water bottle like the users below suggested. Hopefully she would be well soon. I know when I'm on my periods it makes me cranky and moody. So if she does get upset then its because of her hormones which are all over the place lol

Also invite her friends over. She'll be more comfortable talking to them about a topic she can't talk to you about.

gotc147 · Accepted Answer

I would go to her and say that you're going to the store and ask if she needs anything, if she says no then that's that.

Every woman goes through it, they all know how to handle it, let her take care of herself, if she really needs something badly she'll ask you for it.

footballfan993 · Accepted Answer

Just casually bring it up in conversation, and then if she thinks that she is on her period, you should go out and buy her pads and tampons. so she can try them both and find out which one she likes

sef0181 · Answer

I would say just go buy a very tiny box of pads or tampons. Then I think I'd act like you were cleaning the bathroom, found your ex's and ask your sister if she wants them/will give them to someone who will use them because you obviously don't need them. If she says no just stash them somewhere in your apartment because I can guarantee one day in the future you will save the day for a female friend/girl friend/sister/mom/etc when there is an emergency.

celestialdaeva · Answer

Take her to Walmart and act like YOU want some privacy shopping.  Give her $20, tell her to go shopping and buy whatever she wants, then meet back up with you in 20 minutes.  If you act like you're doing it to get her out of your hair, she'll be able to discreetly buy what she needs with a glimmer of hope that you don't know what that is.

Hidden_P · Answer

Get her some pads, and just look after her. Don't flat out give them to you, just put them on her bed when she's not in the room and maybe a note like "hope this helps".

Don't get her tampons because some women get TSS, best let your mother help her with those things.

I know it's kind of horrible on you (responsibility and not really a conversation you want to have) but just try and be grown up and mature and talk to her if she comes to you. I got my first period when my mum wasn't there, my dad had to help me threw it. I knew a little but I was so at sea at what to do, when to change it.

All pads come with instructions, so let her figure that out, just try and be supportive :) Her tummy will probably be hurting, so maybe a hot water bottle!

Darkfairie17 · Answer

I would go out and get her some pads, if she does not have any. Bring her something to eat, maybe get her watching TV or a movie to keep her mind off of it.

Get her some midol for cramps as well. I'm sure she knew this was going to happen one day. But it's hard when it's happening for the first time and your mom or another woman isn't there to help her.

Don't try and talk to her about it, she will probably be embarrassed. Just get her a few things and maybe have a friend of hers come over after.

Anonymous · Answer

Go buy her pads. If this is the first time she has ever had it then she probably doesn't know what to do but she can't talk to you about it because you are her brother. Just put them on the back of the toilet or beside the sink so when she goes in there she will see them. You can also put a bottle of ibuprofen somewhere else in the bathroom so she will see it. Not next to each other. She most likely doesn't want you to know about it that is why she's not talking to you. (I know I didn't want my brother to know). I would suggest not getting her goodies or doing anything you wouldn't normally do, she may get embarrassed knowing that you know about it. Maybe take her to her favorite fast food restaurant for take out or see if she wants to get ice cream one night, but don't go and pick up all kinds of sweets and things to give to her she will know something is up

Anonymous · Answer

Well, no need to call the fire department or animal rescue, just go get her whatever brand of pads she needs...

Why does she need to talk to anyone about it? Is it her first period? Just knock on the door and ask

(1) Are you still alive?

(2) I have a nice glass of water (or juice) for you, can you please eat something? (Hydration is important)

(3) What pads do you need?

(You might look in your parent's room/bathroom to see if you MOM has any pads around the house. If not, pharmacy Kotex/Always long, ultra thin are the best choices for a girl her age. Nothing...bulky.)

RedSmartie · Answer

Buy her pads and chocolate and tell her that it's okay.  She's probably just upset because she feels uncomfortable going to you about that kind of thing.  It's understandable.  If you let her know that it's perfectly normal and that you're not grossed out she will probably calm down.  Your period doesn't change your whole personality.

Anonymous · Answer

i guess you should tell a close  female friend of urs and tell her to visit you and talk to your sister and let her try to stay with your sister and you go somewhere and leave them alone and let your friend act like " oh I see some blood  , you got your period ! I won't let anybody knows , I have a pad ..  "let her grapes it out of her bag and give it to your sis " finally let your friend buy  some and give them to your sis and ask her to act like she sends your sis regularly secret bags and ask you to give her them and act like you dnt know what is inside  .. I guess your sis won't be shy of another girl .. it would be better than her bro to do this and ofcourse dnt let her know that you know :P

XNicholex3 · Answer

Don't even ask her... It will probably be too awkward. Just go out and get her some pads and some pain killers and put them in her room, she'll be okay. If you are not very sure which pads to get, simply ask a worker at the store and they would not mind assisting you. I actually think that is pretty sweet of you to be concerned for her, not many guys would do this.

Arwens-Fire · Answer

Yeah...she probably doesn't want to talk about it but,go to your local pharmacy and buy her some sanitary napkins.I say you should buy pads instead of tampons because tampons can be confusing and she might need to speak to a female about insertion.So,buying her some pads would be the best bet.Also,while at the pharmacy maybe you can speak to a pharmacists or just a female about how to approach the situation.But good luck.

toulouse · Answer

shes 14 years old.

wouldnt she think to bring something with her. just because she spotted a bit has blood doesn't mean she didn't bring anything.

also she could just stuff to into her pants and go buy some pads. she's probably in her room because she ha cramps. not because she has nothing to use fr her period.

anywasy just get some and put them in her room.you don't have to talk about it. just leave them for her.

just keep it simple.

adb22 · Answer

I would go to the store and tell a female sales clerk what the situation is. She should be able to help you pick out the appropriate feminine products...then I would take them home and place them in the bathroom so she can visibly see them. If the thought of bringing it up to her freaks you out, then write her a quite note explaining that everything will be okay, etc.

heybreyd · Answer

What a nice brother you are. I think you should go buy pads and/or tampons, and pretend you found it in the bathroom, and then you can put them somewhere your sister can see them. Ask why she is always be herself, ask if something is wrong, or if she is sad, ask her if she need anything or if you can do anything for her. Let her know that she always can come to you. Maybe make her breakfast in bed with a cute note or something :)

GuitarStraps · Answer

I liked the idea someone else had about going to the store and letting her secretly get what she needs on her own.

But, other than that just be real about. Ask if she's having her period (In a nice way) and tell her it's okay and you understand. Then get her some pads (NOT tampons).

It wasn't awkward for me when I started. I didn't start till I was 14 so I was thrilled when it happened, cause most of my friends had already started by 12 or so.Until then I always thought something might be wrong with me.

Just don't treat the situation like it's awkward. Act cool and understanding and maybe she won't feel awkward about it either.

Parkanya · Answer

I have an older brother, but for him to buy me pads on my period would be embarrassing, but if I run out of some I would be really gratefull of him buying me one. (you can put the pads somewhere she can find, on the toilet or her rooms. and do not tease/mentioning her about it.) (:

Give her warm water because it will sooth the pain.. (I think that's why she is in bed all day), chocolate and ice cream (or anything she likes) in case she's in bad mood. When I was on my period, I would be very lazy and it's not very comfortable to go on a walk so I would rather eating and reading all day.

you see her blood.. oh god, she would be very embarrassed and worried if she knew you see that thing. Don't act weird (like suddenly, you becomes super nice..) just be yourself and act like nothing happened. it would put her at ease.

oh and the best to wait for her to talk to you about it if she wants to! You're an awesome brother! :D

Snow-Wolf18 · Answer

If you talk to her about it, she'll be terribly embarrassed. You should just get her some pads, Midol for any cramps, and leave them somewhere she can easily find them. Buy her a few of her favorite things like food she likes, magazines, or even movie she can watch so she can temporarily forget about her period and feel a bit better. I know my first one was unpleasant, so hers might be as well.

Also, I admire your concern for your sister. You must be a wonderful brother. :)

Anonymous · Answer

for the longest time I wouldn't tell my mom I had my period so I just used a bunch of folded up toliet paper when it happened... I still do this if I'm too lazy to buy pads or if its a light day... I think you should ask her if she needs anything at the store and if she doesn't then let it go, just be nice to her and maybe make her some food she likes... I know for me talking about it with my brother would be really awkward.. but I guess it depends on your relationship.

beccam94 · Answer

Go buy her some pads or Tampons..If she had blood on her pants then she needs them...And you might want to buy her some Midol or some pain pills also. And like the other girls said, Every girl loves Icecream and Chocolates ;) Lol

snowangle · Answer

Just go buy a small pack of pads, on the off chance she didn't bring any herself. If she seems embarrassed, let her know that it's a normal thing and not something to be ashamed of, and that she can talk to you if she needs it.

kalylatina · Answer

You don't have aunts she can talk to.. even if it's over the phone.. just call up an aunt and tell her the situation she'll know how to approach her.. if not then buy her pads and advil she'll def need both

MillieCookie · Answer

Aww you're so sweet! It's nice that you care about your sister. Buy some pads for her but pretend they were your ex's and also some Ben & Jerry's.

CheshireCat89 · Answer

Just wanted to say you have my sympathy, my father had to do this for my sister when she was 12. She was super embarrassed of the whole situation, but later he earned awesome dad points in her book.

katkaintkwit · Answer

get her some pads. she probably wouldn't be comfortable with tampons lol and ibuprofen and just sit it on the night stand or somethin. shell take it from there. call and tell your mom

Anonymous · Answer

You probably couldn't go wrong with getting her some of her favorite chocolate or ice cream. Also, just say you're running to the store and ask if she wants you to grab anything for her while you're there. That's about all you can do.

teasegirl · Answer

you sound like the best brother ever! Pads, midol, and a hershey's bar.

JamielovesKU · Answer

Go out and buy her a few things, maybe deodorant, razors, and tampons/Pads that way shell be more comfortable.

norasq · Answer

she doesn't have friends? let her call a friend  because id be VERY embarressed for my brother to do that...

Anonymous · Answer

What a nice brother you are. My brother would kick me to the side of the road and tell me its my problem.

swerveRay · Answer

Aww your such a good older brother. I'm happy everything worked out.

JanuaryX · Answer

Awgh. :) You seem such a good dear brother. :) Buy her pads and comfort food. :) And Advil!

Anonymous · Answer

Well, she's 14 so she might feel awkward asking you directly. I think it's a good idea to pick up some pads, midol/advil, and maybe some chocolate or her favorite ice cream.

Anonymous · Answer

Offer her some comfort food. That would generally be sweets, ice cream and some carb loaded food. Then give her space and don't ask any questions :)

hunterslilangel · Answer

my bub would have jst bought em for me & straight up said here I think you need these & you don't lets go to ER! I mean she's bleedn you saw it go figure it out ya knw my brother nvr hesitated to imbarass e if it was for my own good!

missammyy · Answer

She's going to be embarrassed if she does have her period and nothing for it.

Maybe get some pads and mini tampons and leave them in the top drawer of the bathroom so she can see them/use them when need be.

Don't be weird. :)

ElletheMom · Answer

What a sweetie you are!

Heed all the answers below. I agree with not asking her but go out and get the necessaries (otherwise she will be mortified)

How about throwing in her favorite magazine with all the other "goodies"?

Anonymous · Answer

Don't let her know that you noticed... do exactly what celestialdaeva said.

Anonymous · Answer

I'd get her some comfort food...whatever she wants. I'd also get her some tylenol or advil because sometimes cramps can be a real downer.

Anonymous · Answer

what did you ended up doing?

tiredofwaiting · Answer

i think you should leave it to her friends.

larry69 · Answer

Tampons or Pads, chocolate,midol

Anonymous · Answer

such a caring brother

Anonymous · Answer

aw. you're the best brother ever lol

Anonymous · Answer

Hot water bottle. Chocolate.

kalylatina · Answer

So nice of you :)

swerveRay · Answer

How old is she?

Anonymous · Answer

Give her chocolate

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