Need advice asap I got my girlfriend sister pregnant what should I do?

[Anonymous]

Am looking for real advice so trolls stay away. Pretty much my girlfriend asked me and her sister to spend a day together to try making amends with each other so for her sake we argeed. I say this now i really dislike her older sister becuase she told her family a lot things about me that just wasn't true. All I will say is because of her lies something really horrible happened to my girlfriend that I just can't forgiven her for long story. The only reason I argee to even spend any time at all with my girlfriend family is for her... she hasn't spoke too her family in two years after the mess her sister cause so I just wanted her to be happy. I'll keep this short so the story doesn't go on forever if you want details just ask.

So pretty much me and my girlfriend older sister got shit face drunk and had sex. the next day I wake up in another room not remembering a thing. i did asked my girlfriend sisters what happened she lied and said nothing happened i just kept falling over made a joke about me being a light weight and said she just put me to sleep so I don't hurt myself. 3 weeks later I get a Facebook message from her saying she pregnant and it's mine wants to keep it and is unsure what to do. I didn't take her seriously as first at all since I wouldn't ever cheat on my girlfriend let alone with someone a hate so much I wanna kill. So I played along asked a few questions I started remembering bits and pieces as she told the story. after I realize she wasn't lying I told her we need to tell my girlfriend asap together now but I'll give a week to think on it. What makes this worse is the fact I already have a kid with my girlfriend she's 12 months now am having one with her sister I regret... Drinking to make my girlfriend sister family happy and the fact i got so drunk I didn't even remember having sex with the girl till now. I only this was the first time I ever drink anything in my life and this happens this is why people shouldn't drink.

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already known the right thing to do but am going fucking crazy... and no matter what her sister says am telling my girlfriend. The problem is am unsure how things will change from her since I now will have two girls with my girlfriend and her sisters. So what her sister now gonna be my baby mom? Her parents already hate me from lies her sister told this will just make shit worse. All I known is I wanna rasie my kids in one house not two but this is just so fucked up.. all from drinking and trying to be nice.

[TarrAva]

You got yourself a situation here and there is no way around but to tell the truth to your girlfriend. If you don't, the truth will come out a way or another (pun intended).

If you don't tell her first, not only do you lose the her trust but also and most important you lose her faith in you. You goofed being drunk, don't be coward being sober. That is something that she will not be able to forgive you if you are being dishonest on top of being unfaithful.

First talk to your girlfriend about how it could happen and don't leave out details. She will nail you if you try to lie or cover up. Just be as honest as it is only possible, even if it will hurt her and you beyond what you can imagine. In a case like that, a breach of trust is something so important that you need to straighten it out. You have to come up with solutions on how YOU intend to fix this issue. It is not like something you can get off the table like if you stole $5.

You must show true remorse (if you are having remorse). Girls are excellent at looking through you and she will realize that you are bulls**ing her by just telling something to shut her up. That would be mistake #2.

Then you will have to talk with your GF's sister and also come up with a solution that satisfies all 3 of you, but mainly the girl you got pregnant.

There is nothing more important at this point than to be honest with all parties. I don't event talk about her parents. That is another issue you will have to face.

You must realize that there is a very high likelihood that you will be losing someone here. You must weigh every word you use very carefully in order not to make things even worse. In any case, you must not get angry when talking with either of the girls because anger is a very bad counselor and you may make things even worse. You will take some beating (mentally) but at this point, this is the least of your worries.

Finally, you will have to come up with a plan on how you see the future with one or the other girl, provided they don't send you to hell in the first place. In any case, you will have a hard time ahead of you.

Remember, only by being sincere about the whole situation will you find a possible solution. If you start with embellishing the situation, you are lying to yourself and the others and you will make things only worse for all.

[Asker]

I already have a daughter with my current girlfriend and we been together for along time. I spoke to my girlfriend about it she's wasn't really too mad and finds it funny she told her parents and they are trying to force my girlfriend sister into killing the kid so she's happy she's getting back at her sister for what she did. And yes am supprting her sister even if I don't like her

[TarrAva]

I have been called a f**ing feminist and a number of very degrading adjectives for supporting women but I never, never agreed to have abortion done following an "accident".

So, I am not supportive at all of her parents for "killing the kid".

You already went into the right direction by telling your girlfriend and to my surprise, she took it relatively well. This is already a huge weight off your shoulders. Now, you must decide with both ladies (not the parents that I find less than helpful) what is the best course for you, your actual baby and the baby to be.

You may be able to cut a deal with one or the other ladies for custody of the new baby based on a financial compensation. Whatever you do, I am sure that your decision will be to the best of interest for the kids and the ladies. Your priority are clearly coming last in this case.

That does not mean you cannot be happy later but right now, you must concentrate on sorting out your priorities which are limited to finding a compromise on how to continue with one, the other or both ladies AND their babies. Good luck to you!

[Lisagne]

1 question for the sister and yourself, are you guys keeping the baby? If so, would you be taking care of the baby, give support, money? You should obviously tell your girlfriend. And yes she's going to be mad, but she be even more mad if the baby is out.

[Asker]

Just told her she finds it very funny and just told her parents to try getting her sister in trouble...

[Lisagne]

Whuttt

[Asker]

I known it's crazy

[Soft4u]

Above everything else accept the responsibility, grow up if you aren't already and be really good to the girl you got pregnant, she's going through it also be considerate of how she feels.

[Asker]

An a troll this isn't real

[king34]

Your a dumb ass... like I will never understand how people are this stupid... I'm glad I'm not that stupid... but in all seriousness I don't care what your problem is with your gfs sister but you need to get past it because its probably not that serious and your child doesn't need to grow up in a hostile environment... So it doesn't matter what she did to you, man up and get over it...

But overall your fucking screwed... like I'm glad that shit ain't happen to me (even though it wouldn't cuz I don't drink and I'm not retarded) but good luck fool

[Asker]

It is that bad they killed my unborn children ,2 years ago long story.

[king34]

Wow that's bad... if you don't think this one is safe then keep a eye on her and fight for custody when its born

[Asker]

Yeah I think this one is safe but now you see why I dislike her sister so much.

[partydelights]

However difficult it is for you, it's time to face the music.

Gather the two sisters, and preferably their parents and then sit down and discuss.

All. of us here can only sympathize. So be a man, discuss the matter like a man with their family, and then bear the responsibility.

[Asker]

Pretty much what the plan is with or with out her sister.

[partydelights]

Oh no. Its basic human respect. At least make her feel remembered.

[Asker]

That's why I give her a week to make a choice so we can tell her sister together.

[partydelights]

This I this is a noble move. Just resolve it together. All three of you are responsible or in the relationship.

[Friendship_7]

The sister is not your problem. She told you that you did not have sex with her then - So you are not responsible for another man's child.

[Asker]

I got bits and Peace's coming back to me we did have sex.

[MlleCake]

Get a lawyer. Insist on DNA test. And sit down for a good long talk about it. She never has to tell anyone it's yours, or you can both come clean about it. That's a decision for you to reach together.

Be prepared to pay child support.

[Asker]

Already paying child support kind of since I have a kid that lives with me.. and DNA test may be best since I really don't remember having sex with her at all.

[Anonymous]

What can you do? You can't make her abort the baby or give it up for adoption. You can only hope she ain't gonna go to court over this and demand you to pay child support for the kid. But you got yourself into this, you'll have to deal with the consequences. Why drink so much and got yourself drunk at all to begin with? Why didn't you stop at 1 or 2 drinks and tell them no you're not gonna get drunk just to make them all happy?

[Asker]

I didn't even realize I drink that much since it was my first time drinking ever

[Opinion Owner]

At least you're manning up about it. Most people would not be willing to do that and back down and rather bury it and try to hide it and keep secrets. Your girlfriend should give you respect and be grateful of you for being transparent about it. Better to man up and admit one had fucked up than lie and try to hide how one had fucked up and pretend that lying hiding about it would be good thing. I mean if your girlfriend found out the truth by herself eventually that you had lied to her and hid the trutg from her for years then you'd be even more fucked than you already are now.

[PondyPand]

Don't get drunk and fuck her family. Tell your girl.
Honestly, I'd just split from the family. Your girl deserves better and the sister lied at the start.
You fucked up and were an idiot.

[Asker]

Am a troll this isn't real😂

[WhoDatGuy]

What a class act you are. And your breeding ffs. The human race is doomed

[Asker]

😅 bye am a troll by the way

[Naughtyboy71]

Oh boy you dug a deep hole for yourself now you going to be a father
with your girlfriend sister you may luck up both want to fuck you both

[xJust_A_Girl_x]

You have to tell her. And are yous sure about this because you did say that she lies a lot

[Asker]

Am not sure about it since I honestly don't remember it even happening

[xJust_A_Girl_x]

You should make her take a pregnancy test right in front of you to see if she is telling the truth.

[xJust_A_Girl_x]

Do u remmeber having sex wuth her? If you dont is there a possibilty that she could have drugged you?

[Asker]

I don't remember having sex with her but I also haven't drinking anything before.

[Asker]

Doubt she drugged me why would she? and I think I just had too much to drink

[xJust_A_Girl_x]

Whayt the fuck ur were joking what

[Asker]

I never said that

[xJust_A_Girl_x]

I read ur comment #caught

[Asker]

I was joking so they leave me alone they are being ass holes

[xJust_A_Girl_x]

Dang im sorry

[Anonymous]

Tell your actual partner and be fucking carefull. Cause if I were her then you wouldn't have a head anymore. Be thankful if you are alive for the next 24 hours. You are a low disgusting person who should grow up. She deserves better than you!

[Asker]

So I should grow up for getting drink the first time ever and blacking out and not remembering a thing. Her sister lied about it till she got pregnant so if she didn't get pregnant I would even known it even happened.

[Opinion Owner]

You cheated there are NO excuses. So yes grow up stop drinking with others if you can't handle it

[Asker]

I think you need to grow up this isn't a real post and am a troll. Pss if this was real drinking doesn't make you not grown up even you own up too it.

[Opinion Owner]

And that's comes from the troll. You need to learn from your consequenses it's a part of growing up

[Opinion Owner]

Stop trolling what's the point with the trolling?

[Asker]

Clearly the person would learn from the actions after the fact. And to fuck with people

[Opinion Owner]

Why trolling?

[TheNiceGuys]

Tell her to be quiet and then forget about it

[Asker]

So let her take care of the kid alone or tell her to kill it

[ChocolateCheesecake]

Wow...

[Asker]

Yup yup

[Itismeagain]

Ur just stupid. Drinking is no excuse.

[Asker]

Naaa your just stupid if you believe this was a real post 🤣

[Itismeagain]

🤷🏼‍♀️ I don’t mind being stupid