I was gonna give you some advice, but after reading all the answers. I don't
really see any point in doing so! I will just say this, I don't agree with the
advice given here. I think it's a HUGE mistake to just let things be, and it's
a even BIGGER mistake to just let things be cool and causal. At the end
of the day, all we can do is advise people to the best of are abilties. But,
it's up to you, to make the final choice. Whatever your heart tells you to do,
is what you should do.
However, I would advise that whatever you choose to do. Don't let your guard down
and don't assume that if you play it cool and casual, throw some flirting in there or tell her
"she's amazing girl "and "you've loved getting to know her over the past couple of weeks". That
it guarntee's that once she decides what the hell she wants, that you'll be the one she chooses.
Because, you could still end up as her bestest buddy and then you'll be the one hurt. So, just
be careful and DON'T assume anything. I'm not trying to be mean or hurtful, I'm just not into
playing dating games. I believe in being up front and honest and laying all my cards on
the table, that way I don't waste my time or that persons time. I'd rather be with somebody,
that I KNOW wants me. Than waste my time playing games with somebody that "kinda, sorta,
maybe, wants me". And, MIGHT down the line decide they want to date me. I guess people
do things different college, I don't know. Good luck and I hope things work out for you and
this girl. Best wishes : )
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"... and I've loved getting to know you over the past couple of weeks."
Stop there. After that, it becomes way too serious and too deep. It sounds like you're ready to commit way too fast, and that might become a big turn-off for her especially since she has already told you that she's unsure of what she wants to do. She'd probably feel cornered and scared, like she HAS to answer right on the spot with a yes or no. Don't do that, don't put her in that position. She's not ready for that yet, so respect that. Keep it light and fun and don't worry too much about it. If you guys really are right for each other, you will end up together no matter what. So don't try to rush it, that might just end up making things not work. Tell her that you've had a great time and that she's an amazing girl, and don't be afraid to keep flirting with her. But not anything more serious than that. It should be enough to plant a seed of thought in her head, so it'll get her thinking more and more about your situation. Being too serious too fast is just going to scare her away. Let her take her time. :)
You can tell her you like her but don't try to rush her into a relationship since she already told you she didn't know what she wanted yet.
No no no. Way too deep man. You just need to stay in contact, light contact.
Don't get all dramatic like its the last time you'll ever see her, be confident that she'll want to stay in touch. She's enjoying her freedom, be the one she wants to enjoy it with, not the one that wants to take it away from her.
oppaoppa has the best answer, IMO. But don't let yourself slide into that friend zone. Don't accept a non-dating relationship if that's what you want. If she's not interested in meeting your needs, cool it off a bit.
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