I hope they find out and you and her both get kicked out - the kid obviously doesn't deserve cheaters as parents but neither do your partners. Karma has a way of showing itself when you least expect it to the icing on the cake would be if your friend and your wife were having an affair to - you'd certainly deserve it. And stop whining - you both knew what you were doing live up to the consequences. Why should your mate who obviously treated you with respect and trusted you have to play a father to child who is offspring of his wife's slutty behaviour. Sounds cool because neither child nor your wife/mate deserve this. But he shouldn't be living in the dark loving a child who he sees as his own only to realize the truth cause truth prevails and when it comes out it'll leave your mate shattered. He could begin hating the child which will only cause the child to feel insecure. So its better if he finds out no than later - you already destroyed two lives don't make it three
IMO both of you need to be honest with everyone in this situation. Is this going to be hard and stressful? Yes, but you are an adult, and you did something wrong and now you must own up to it.
If you are so in love with your wife that you are worried she will leave you if she finds out, then why did you do it in the first place?
Now that there is a baby in the picture, the truth is going to come out eventually.
Do you really think that will be the end of that. That the fact you may be the father of this child, and you'll let another man believe it is his. This is one of those Maury shows. Don't be selfish. If that's your child. You can't pretend it doesn't exist. And believe me. The woman you slept with, who's possibly carrying your child. Will spit it out one day. Wow.
I have an observation for fellow readers. 80'sMan has potentially lost his wife, friend, lover and unborn child and 18 years of child support all through the donation of a single sperm.
I think you'll just have to wait until this wildfire sweeps through your life and afterward you can assess what is left standing, then try to rebuild. Who knows, you could come through it unburned, but as others have observed, karma is a psychotic biotche.
"I pondered as the baseball seemed to be growing larger . . . And then it hit me."
you've been sleeping with your friends wife when you have a wife at home? that's pretty messed up pal. This is what you get, karma is a b*tch.
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Yeah, you stuffed up, readjust your moral code and start thinking about what's best for YOUR child, not whether or not you can or can't cover it up. Stop cheatibg, accept your relationship Or move on but either way have some dignity...And get a paternity test, how do you even know its yours.
If she is so sure it is yours, it means they did not have any sex during that time period when she got pregnant. Unless he is an idiot he will figure it out, maybe not that you are the dad but he will figure out that he is not the dad.
Just do what you've always done, and put it out of your mind when you're with him. You have to admit, that's a definite accomplishment, although I'm sure you have mixed feelings about it. I wish you luck, and I'm sure everything will work out wonderfully.
What is your problem making this stuff up?
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Well, I doubt you will find anyone supporting you on here. That's an asshole move, sorry but it is. You need to confess what you've done. Cheating is awful and you are just a loser.
That's really fucked up. Honestly I'd say get professional counseling to sort through your feelings and help make up your mind. You're clearly in way over your head now.
You'll blow your secret if you act differently. Just act normal. It's not that big of a deal, the kid goes to a good home, so relax.
Advice? You did a shitty thing and now you have to live with it
Put it out of mind. The baby is not yours, now just believe that and you are good.
I am speechless by how pple behave now...what is done is done
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Come clean.You and your friends wife should come clean. You're both already fucked so you might as well come clean.
Try to keep it on the down low. Maybe even move if you can.
Out of curiosity, how hot was the wife? Much hotter than yours? And how was the sex?
Yes keep fucking her and if you were here I would high five you
Call Jerry Springer and ask to be on the show.
that's what you get for bieng an adulator
You are not a very good friend..
your a dumbass bitch
are you happy? or lucky?
are you pals with bill Clinton by any chance?
Your some friend?
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