My boyfriend's friend is spreading rumors about me for no reason.

[Anonymous]

My boyfriend's friend, Mark, never seems to dislike me when I see him in person. he is always really nice and says hi to me, but for some reason he seems to have a problem with me. I am a really good girlfriend and all of my boyfriend's other friends like me. But Mark is always calling him up telling him that he "knows for a fact" that I cheated on him, that I did this, that, etc. He told my boyfriend that I did coke, cheated on him, etc. Usually Mark simply heard this from someone else and reported it, but then he acted like he knew for a fact it was true even though it was only hearsay. My boyfriend said he didn't believe Mark, but it still bothers me that he seems so hell-bent on breaking us up. And Mark only likes really tall white girls, and I'm only 5'0" and Asian, so I know he's not just jealous or into me. What's going on?

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I should point out that my boyfriend won't let me confront Mark because Mark made me boyfriend promise that he didn't hear these rumors from him.

[authentic]

1. One can tell a lot about a person by looking at his/her friends. Is Mark a good friend of your boyfriend ?

2. Ask your boyfriend "Why are you tolerating Mark to spread rumors about me?", "What do you when Mark tells you these lies?" See HOW he answers these questions, look at his facial expressions, get the essence of his energy. This is a good opportunity to understand the kind of integrity your boyfriend has. I would not choose a friend who spreads rumors about anyone, be it my girlfriend or other friends.

3. Ask yourself, "What kind of guy do I want ?" Make no compromise.

4. The best way to deal with rumors is live your life as if they never exist.

[nappycurls]

Maybe he feels as if you are coming between him and his friend (your boyfriend.)

I suggest you confront him the issue and say "What's your problem with me?" and

find out what's really going on.

[Asker]

I want to! But my boyfriend keeps telling me not to...believe me, your idea is probably the first thing I'd do if I was able to. It hurts to not be able to confront a person who is trying to screw me over.

[nappycurls]

Then nobody can tell you what's really going on unless you find out for yourself.

[1FastFC]

Mark is an asshole

[Asker]

Haha, that's true.