Questions: Family & Friends

so I'll admit this now back when me and her date I wasn't ready for a relationship I had no job and nothing going for me. our relationship lasted 10 months until her very Strict patents break us up. our break up was super bad like all break ups even more so since she was my first girlfriend and I was almost the very first place she dated for 1 year. I do belive if I had more going for me in life back then we would have gotten married or lasted longer. we were class mates&online friends for 6 years before dating.. we tried being friends but that failed. we have not talked in years but i do bump into her from time to time if she's with friends she hides behind them but if she's by herself she just stares at me I don't know why. can you get a ex back after that many years?

My 9-year-old brother and his dad (my stepdad) got in a heated argument about this. He was talking to his friends about his favorite color on a video game. Also his dad doesn't allow him to talk to Hispanic or Asian people (black & white people are OK), although he denies being racist because "we all bleed red."

This question is NOT at what age your child should stop sharing your bed routinely. I am asking about those nights when a child comes into your room and says they are scared, can't sleep, whatever excuse, and they want to get in bed with you.

This issue arose in a private conversation recently and I had no context for understanding since I have never had children. If you are a single parent, does the answer depend on whether the child is your gender or opposite gender?