Questions: Family & Friends

Long story short, not to criticize, I'm just giving a description of how she looks and her health. Details: She has always taken jabs at me on the job for being fit. She'll ask me intrusive questions like," Are you still losing weight? What size are you now? You don't need to lose any more weight." I've never asked her for her opinion. Yet she's overweight, feet/legs/arms swollen, high blood pressure , on multiple medications, has glaucoma, can't drive. I've never once brought up how unhealthy she is despite knowing her circumstances. Now her husband has died because, like her, he didn't take care of himself.

Her mother is just as overweight with the same health issues, including heart failure, yet her mother said ," omg you're getting too skinny!" I told the mom, " I'm healthy and not on multiple medications , don't have heart failure, and swollen ankles like you. Are you feeling okay?" She then said oh um well did I say something wrong? "I said," Oh no, you didn't bother me. I'm just saying. Now they're trying to be all nice to me, but I'm keeping my distance. This is a work setting, by the way.