Questions: Family & Friends

Mine is my dad & in a way I feel bad about feeling this way towards him. He’s a good person but out of everyone in my life he’s always annoyed me the most I lose my patience quickly. I think it stems from when I was younger, my mom divorced him after cheating & I feel like he took his frustration out on me. I’m his only child & my parents are good friends, he lives in another state but I get irritated when he calls too much. It’s known that his side of the family is shitty, he’s single (by choice) & my moms family has always pointed out that I’m all he has which is too much pressure to me. Back in HS/college he used to take his frustration out on me even living in another state & one day I cut all contact with him. We didn’t talk for 3 years & since speaking again we’ve been on good terms. I just lose my patience with him so quickly, he asks the same questions over again & it’s like he thinks he looks cute playing clueless every once in a while. My mom said he does that with me bc he doesn’t know what else to talk about with me, what if I was married or had a man? Would I still be expected to make sure I’m at his beckoning call? I don’t know if I can ever move past this 🫣