Do you believe that every woman should become a mother? Or do you have any ideas why people assume that all women want to be mothers? I mean I would like to get married but I don't want to become a mother. I think it is a kind of a social pressure. What is your opinion?
I grew up with a great mother. She was always supportive, always happy to see me happy, she truly loved me with all of her heart and there was never a time I questioned that. I had, undoubtedly, an amazing mother who treated me with respect and gave me the right amount of freedom I needed as a child and teenager.
Now, this is the important part.
I cannot stress this enough.
Every single friend I had growing up. EVERY. SINGLE. FRIEND. All had mommy issues. I think that I attracted them into my life because they could somehow subconsciously tell I grew up with a good parent that gave me a lot of freedom that I needed to grow well. Every time I would introduce my teenage friends to my mom, they would end up being more friendly with her than with me at times. My mom emotionally adopted all of my friends, all of whom had mothers that were intensely controlling, used shame and manipulation to promote obedience, or were just straight-up neglectful.
These women, while some of them were trying their best, were not good parents. And they ended up being not great mothers, and a lot of them didn't really try to change that because they didn't really listen to their children and now that we're all adults, I'm the only one who keeps a regular contact with my mother while a majority of them don't speak to their mothers at all or avoid them as much as possible -- but still also talk to my mom every now and then.
Some women, even though they do want to be a mom, they are using their kids to meet some kind of need for themselves and when those children can't meet those expectations or can't fill that need for whatever it is they're wanting, they end up rejecting their kids and that can really hurt. I don't know if it's abusive, but I do know it's enough for them to never come home unless holiday obligation dictates it and even then it's not for long.
So no, not every woman should be a mother.
No.
Because there's plenty of women who can barely look after themselves - drug addicts, in and out of jail career criminals, alcoholics, severe mental or physical disabilities - and them having a child is not humane, it's inhumane. Not just to the child in being brought up to such a mother but by essentially forcing someone, the mother, who does not have the capabilities to be responsible for their own care be responsible for someone else.
No
There's plenty of women who grew up in abusive households & because of this they don't have the psychological abilities to care for someone else properly. My mother is a good example of this. She's a GOOD mother but she NEVER should've had a daughter because she verbally abuses me constantly, something that her mother did to my mother and her sisters. And which my great-grandmother did to my grandmother, once saying to my grandmother (when her brother died) "why couldn't it have been you".
So that's at a minimum three generations - my great-grandmother, my grandmother & mother - of women being verbally abusing their daughters. I believe there was physical abuse of grandma by great-grandmother & of great-grandma by her mother as well.
This is what I've learned from living with my Great Grandparents. Kids used to serve a purpose. They weren't just human pets, that you'll end up having slave away for and watch them grow up just to keep hitting you up for more expensive items... I fear that's the direction households have been heading toward for a while.
I was looking at pictures with my Great Grandfather... his family when they were kids... I shit you not, there were like 25 brothers and sisters. I asked why there were so many of them and he explained that on a farm, more kids means more help with the work. I got a taste of this myself when I got put in a foster home... we were basically slave labor, and at least at that house, they would get kids and put them to work... they get paid by the state for the kids and they get paid from the slave labor. It wasn't that bad... I'd just feed horses and goats and do that kind of stuff. ... but it still sucked ass... shit like having to dry the shower off after a shower, redundant and seemingly unnecessary rules. I was no longer alowed to do things like watch television. I've digressed... sorry.
Not every woman should become a Mother. 9 times out of 10 I'm finding serial killers had horrible and just plain weird Mothers. My Mother was a piece of shit herself and fortunately only lived with her for 3 years of my life. Some women know they wouldn't make a great mother... I know one woman that pretends to be a Lesbian only around her parents to avoid the pressure to have kids issues... she loves dick though when her parents are not around.
What I will say about this is this modern idea of separating procreation and becoming a parent from self-actualization and thinking you'll be good just having a career and making money is not going to end up rewarding you later in life...
Things change a lot- women at some point in time come to a point where they have done what they thought will make them happy; but in the long run those same women get to an advanced age where they have a career and money but no children, no grandchildren, and sadly after the years less and less family... And they realized that their job and their money is not what will actualize who they are and it's too late and there's nothing to do. And that's a miserable place to be.
I do not think that every woman SHOULD BE a mother at any point in their life- I really think that every woman to their own benefit should aspire to be-but ultimately what i think is of no consequence.
What I emphasized above is just what i think of the trend nowadays which is to undervalue parenthood to push women on careers that simply may or may not be fulfilling for them in the long run-A guy squires value as he get's older in maturity, experience, money etc he can make a kid anytime- For women the clock is ticking, just don't let it tick until you realize you were lead the wrong way and you're not happy and it's too late to have kids...
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The decision to become a mother is a highly personal and complex one that is influenced by a variety of factors. While some women choose to have children, others choose not to for a variety of reasons. There are several reasons why not every woman chooses to become a mother, and it is important to recognize and respect these decisions.
One reason why not every woman chooses to become a mother is simply that it is not the right choice for them. Some women have chosen to pursue careers, travel, or other interests, and they may not have the desire or the time to have children. Other women may have health issues or other personal circumstances that prevent them from becoming mothers.
Despite the fact that becoming a mother is not the only path for women, society often places immense pressure on women to have children. This pressure can come from family members, friends, and even strangers who ask women questions like, "When are you planning to have children?" or "Don't you want to experience the joys of motherhood?". This constant barrage of questions implies that women should desire motherhood above all else, and it can lead women to feel like they are not living up to societal expectations if they choose not to become mothers.
This societal pressure can also result in women feeling guilty or ashamed if they do not have children. Women may feel like they are somehow lacking, or that they are not fulfilling their purpose as women if they choose not to have children.
Those are some of the reasons why people may believe that women want to be mothers.
Every woman that wants to and can afford to have a child. No one should be forced into it, and no one should have a child they can't take care of. That is child abuse to have a child they can't take care of.
If you don't want to have one, then don't... that is okay.
I do believe it has to do with upbringing, if people were raised that way, many want to become parents. Perhaps it is more family pressure than social.
I've felt no social pressure ever, but sometimes family pressure comes into play.
s No, I don't think that every woman should be a mother. Some women have kids and they're happy with them, while others don't and they're also happy.
Women who have the opportunity to choose whether they want children or not, should be more careful with their decision. They shouldn't fall for society's pressure.
All my sisters (except for my younger sister) have kids. They're always pretending that they love being mothers but I know that deep down they regret their decision. Bringing a human being to this world is an huge responsibility and it shouldn't be taken lightly.
Many people assume that a woman should be a mother because in their minds a woman is nothing but a housewife and a mother. That women were only made to have babies. To me that's disgusting and ridiculous! If a woman wants to have babies, it's fine. But if she doesn't it's also fine. People should stop pressuring women into having children.
Firstly, I love the question, and happy women's day. I believe this stems from society's view that the role and purpose of a woman is to get married, have children, and be a housewife. Fortunately, this view has been changed and it's been a norm that we get to choose how we live our life. For me, I do want to be a mother but I also don't like to be pressured that at my age I should have one soon. I like the idea of having my child/children but realistically speaking, I'm not yet ready as there are other factors to consider like psychological and financial capabilities. Like one of the responses to this question, not all women are fit to become a mother. There's no shame in choosing to be a mother or not, but there is in being pressured and forced to become one.
Probably not sociopaths/ mentally challenged/ or physically disabled. Not any with milk issues.
Also not anyone who wouldnât want it.
Other wise all women could because pretty much all women are nice and tender/ nurturing. The only mean and cruel women out there are the ones who get hurt and blemished by things of society, and those with mental disabilities.
Otherwise theyâd all make perfect loving motherâs. Itâs not hard for some people to love, when theyâre in their own place of peace, to be able to do that in the first place.
No, itâs your decision and every womanâs decision what she wants to do with her life. Pressuring women into having kids when they donât want to will only result in more bad than good. I personally have never had the desire to have kids and currently donât see myself wanting any in the future (this may change of course, but itâs quite a strong feeling for now). Why should I have a child? Children deserve to have parents who want them and will be the best parent to them. Iâm sure if I had a child I would love it completely, but I know I wouldnât be the best mum (I wouldnât be abusive or anything but itâs just not for me, and although I would try to I could never be the best mum if I never really wanted kids you know?).
People say itâs selfish not having kids, that is not true. Having children is extremely difficult although very rewarding, and people fail to show the difficult parts. Itâs a huge role to take on!
Statistically, most women do.
"Every" or "All" are impossible to say when it comes to things like preferences. But, it's definitely the majority of us.
You realize it's like, a force of nature right? Baby-making is about as natural a thing as they come.
It's more likely not wanting to be a mother that is the "social pressure".
If people feel the need to rationalize not having kids, that's not true for having kids. That should be telling enough.
Who says that? Plenty of women who had no kids yet lived a regular life.
There is social pressure but at some point that will stop, like, if you are 45+ nobody is coming to pressure you anymore.
You can anyway consider having babies and a family and investigating what are the reasons that would block you from starting any family, and you can work on those reasons. Let's say you feel like you're going to lose your autonomy, maybe there is a chance you can change perspective about how being a mother could be, and checking how mothers actually get some freedom for themselves and how this improves after around 8-10 years because kids will grow up. Also, you can select a partner who is a -proper- parent so that the management of the kids would be split in 2 for real and not all on your shoulders, plus some help from grand parents. These are only examples...
But anyway if no matter what, you don't feel ready to be a mother, you don't have to do anything with it.
Is always an option. Depends your working environment and goals.
Example,
Some females just rather enjoy their single life.
Some females just dont want to stress, usually it happens when they had so much stress during their youth.
Some females have goals to reach in their careers knowing having a kid will make you stuck, well you can reach it but now you have two set of minds compare when is one set of mind towards one direction.
Some are in the military depends what are your goals or if you are in some job that requires to be single and no kids.
There are so many people out there that should not procreate. That have a litter of children. I imagine that when you see the window stickers on the back window of mini vans. They are like announcing their fertility with mother and father and god knows how many little ones. With the stick figures on the glass.
Then the sad part. A few friends are unable to have children that i think would make good responsible parents.
So if a woman doesnât want to bare children of their own. That is their and only their choice.
No, heâll no, not all women deserve children some would make terrible mothers.
I canât understand why people want to force motherhood on women not all women want kids not all women can look after kids.
People on Facebook begging for handouts as they canât feed their child why have the kids then if you canât look after them. Itâs just beggars belief really how many awful parents there are out there.
If you want a child and can provide for that child and can love and care for said child then go for it but if not then donât.
You don't have to become one. My parents have siblings who had no interest in reproducing. My sister and I have no interest in reproducing. Yet most got married. My sister and I also see marriage in our future (not with each other, it just so happens our views on reproduction are the same). Luckily my girlfriend doesn't want kids either, and my sister's boyfriend doesn't care either way. He'd hav ed kids if the girl he was with wanted them, yet he doesn't feel he needs to with the person he marries.
You never fully mature into a woman until you do become a mother. Likewise you will never fully understand love until you have a child.
That said if you choose to end your family line and remain a girl. You will be selfishly choosing to take all the great pains and sacrifice every ancestor of yours made for you to even have a life, to live for yourself alone.
Hell no. They have absolutely no obligation to do so. Some people (men and women) aren't interested in dedicating their lives to raising kids. I never did.
My wife and I don't have kids and we're glad that we don't.
People who think that there must be pathological reasons why some women don't want to be saddled with kids are full of crap.
Women can do what they want, especially when it comes to their bodies.
Thank gods for contraception!
Fuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuck Nooooooo.
There are some men and women that should NEVER be parents. Sadly, too many of those become parents. Once that child is born, your life isn't yours. You are there for that child. You do without, so they can have whatever. Now, you don't always have to go to that extreme. But if you are not ok with that thought, then you should never be a mom or dad.
No definitely not, there are too many children in this world whom are neglected, abused, mistreated, etc from moms who were cruel toward them and hurt them, itâs awful. I believe a loving, mature, nurturing, caring woman is fit to be a mom, someone whoâs devoting and kind with patience and compassion, thereâs people who arenât fit to be parents at all and shouldnât be.
I think a woman should only become a mother if that's what she wants. Aside from the person you're with, it's nobody else's business because they aren't the ones who, by default, are tasked with providing and caring for the child. There's also people who are or would make horrible parents because of their behavior, and shouldn't have or have had kids.
No, I think a women should only be a mother if that's what she wants.
I had a lady who had a total hysterectomy at 25 because she did not want kids at all. She said "I'm to selfish of a person to ever be a mom" and I actually have a lot of respect for her because she knows that and didn't want a child to suffer because of it. So no I don't think all women are meant to be mothers.
My sister didnât have career or saving and chose to become a mother? 🤦🏻ââď¸🤦🏻ââď¸🤦🏻ââď¸
she's not even feminine or maternal. 🤦🏻ââď¸
I personally donât want any brats, Iâm happy with my single status. I eat when I want, I sleep when I want. I eat what I want. I play games when I want.
Iâm 25, and so many people I grew up with who are more immature than I, decided to become parents. Most disgusting thing there is!!
There's no logic reason for EVERY woman to become a mother. First there's the natural selection logic, where only women wishing to become mothers do what has to be done to have babies. Other women, not wishing having children, should be left in peace. There's no reason at all to force every woman to become a mother. Actually a plain result, or personal choice, due to whatever circumstances.
