Should Every Woman Become a Mother?

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Do you believe that every woman should become a mother? Or do you have any ideas why people assume that all women want to be mothers? I mean I would like to get married but I don't want to become a mother. I think it is a kind of a social pressure. What is your opinion?

CupcakeTheDestroyer · Accepted Answer

I grew up with a great mother. She was always supportive, always happy to see me happy, she truly loved me with all of her heart and there was never a time I questioned that. I had, undoubtedly, an amazing mother who treated me with respect and gave me the right amount of freedom I needed as a child and teenager.

Now, this is the important part.

I cannot stress this enough.

Every single friend I had growing up. EVERY. SINGLE. FRIEND. All had mommy issues. I think that I attracted them into my life because they could somehow subconsciously tell I grew up with a good parent that gave me a lot of freedom that I needed to grow well. Every time I would introduce my teenage friends to my mom, they would end up being more friendly with her than with me at times. My mom emotionally adopted all of my friends, all of whom had mothers that were intensely controlling, used shame and manipulation to promote obedience, or were just straight-up neglectful.

These women, while some of them were trying their best, were not good parents. And they ended up being not great mothers, and a lot of them didn't really try to change that because they didn't really listen to their children and now that we're all adults, I'm the only one who keeps a regular contact with my mother while a majority of them don't speak to their mothers at all or avoid them as much as possible -- but still also talk to my mom every now and then.

Some women, even though they do want to be a mom, they are using their kids to meet some kind of need for themselves and when those children can't meet those expectations or can't fill that need for whatever it is they're wanting, they end up rejecting their kids and that can really hurt. I don't know if it's abusive, but I do know it's enough for them to never come home unless holiday obligation dictates it and even then it's not for long.

So no, not every woman should be a mother.

APrettyLittleLady87 · Accepted Answer

No.

Because there's plenty of women who can barely look after themselves - drug addicts, in and out of jail career criminals, alcoholics, severe mental or physical disabilities - and them having a child is not humane, it's inhumane. Not just to the child in being brought up to such a mother but by essentially forcing someone, the mother, who does not have the capabilities to be responsible for their own care be responsible for someone else.

No

There's plenty of women who grew up in abusive households & because of this they don't have the psychological abilities to care for someone else properly. My mother is a good example of this. She's a GOOD mother but she NEVER should've had a daughter because she verbally abuses me constantly, something that her mother did to my mother and her sisters. And which my great-grandmother did to my grandmother, once saying to my grandmother (when her brother died) "why couldn't it have been you".

So that's at a minimum three generations - my great-grandmother, my grandmother & mother - of women being verbally abusing their daughters. I believe there was physical abuse of grandma by great-grandmother & of great-grandma by her mother as well.

D_Bone_Steak · Accepted Answer

This is what I've learned from living with my Great Grandparents. Kids used to serve a purpose. They weren't just human pets, that you'll end up having slave away for and watch them grow up just to keep hitting you up for more expensive items... I fear that's the direction households have been heading toward for a while.

I was looking at pictures with my Great Grandfather... his family when they were kids... I shit you not, there were like 25 brothers and sisters. I asked why there were so many of them and he explained that on a farm, more kids means more help with the work. I got a taste of this myself when I got put in a foster home... we were basically slave labor, and at least at that house, they would get kids and put them to work... they get paid by the state for the kids and they get paid from the slave labor. It wasn't that bad... I'd just feed horses and goats and do that kind of stuff. ... but it still sucked ass... shit like having to dry the shower off after a shower, redundant and seemingly unnecessary rules. I was no longer alowed to do things like watch television. I've digressed... sorry.

Not every woman should become a Mother. 9 times out of 10 I'm finding serial killers had horrible and just plain weird Mothers. My Mother was a piece of shit herself and fortunately only lived with her for 3 years of my life. Some women know they wouldn't make a great mother... I know one woman that pretends to be a Lesbian only around her parents to avoid the pressure to have kids issues... she loves dick though when her parents are not around.

lucasnabizada · Accepted Answer

What I will say about this is this modern idea of separating procreation and becoming a parent from self-actualization and thinking you'll be good just having a career and making money is not going to end up rewarding you later in life...

Things change a lot- women at some point in time come to a point where they have done what they thought will make them happy; but in the long run those same women get to an advanced age where they have a career and money but no children, no grandchildren, and sadly after the years less and less family... And they realized that their job and their money is not what will actualize who they are and it's too late and there's nothing to do. And that's a miserable place to be.

I do not think that every woman SHOULD BE a mother at any point in their life- I really think that every woman to their own benefit should aspire to be-but ultimately what i think is of no consequence.

What I emphasized above is just what i think of the trend nowadays which is to undervalue parenthood to push women on careers that simply may or may not be fulfilling for them in the long run-A guy squires value as he get's older in maturity, experience, money etc he can make a kid anytime- For women the clock is ticking, just don't let it tick until you realize you were lead the wrong way and you're not happy and it's too late to have kids...

Harrison_z · Answer

The decision to become a mother is a highly personal and complex one that is influenced by a variety of factors. While some women choose to have children, others choose not to for a variety of reasons. There are several reasons why not every woman chooses to become a mother, and it is important to recognize and respect these decisions.

One reason why not every woman chooses to become a mother is simply that it is not the right choice for them. Some women have chosen to pursue careers, travel, or other interests, and they may not have the desire or the time to have children. Other women may have health issues or other personal circumstances that prevent them from becoming mothers.

Despite the fact that becoming a mother is not the only path for women, society often places immense pressure on women to have children. This pressure can come from family members, friends, and even strangers who ask women questions like, "When are you planning to have children?" or "Don't you want to experience the joys of motherhood?". This constant barrage of questions implies that women should desire motherhood above all else, and it can lead women to feel like they are not living up to societal expectations if they choose not to become mothers.

This societal pressure can also result in women feeling guilty or ashamed if they do not have children. Women may feel like they are somehow lacking, or that they are not fulfilling their purpose as women if they choose not to have children.

Those are some of the reasons why people may believe that women want to be mothers.

Anonymous · Answer

Heck no! Anyone should have a family because they feel exessive familial love and want to share it with children and help them become stable adults.

Well, I think all human beings have a capacity to want offspring. Most people feel that a women who meets the right partner would be happy to have his children (though practically in reality, everyones pretty unique; though the reason people feel a women will likely become a mother is they rather assume its way outside normal behaviour for someone to not want offspring at some stage, and in my experience women not wanting children are one and the same with the women who appear to have missed an opportunity / condition to have them (and like to feel it was their choice) or have had a very bad experience as a child and feel that they would themselves not make good mothers. Even lesbians I know would want to adopt a child (though may decide not to).

I think, what we want changes over time and what we get is often a surprise to us all.

Aerissa_Jade · Answer

Every woman that wants to and can  afford  to have a child. No one should be forced into it, and no one should have a child they can't take care of. That is child abuse to have a child they can't take care of. If you don't want to have one, then don't... that is okay. I do believe it has to do with upbringing, if people were raised that way, many want to become parents. Perhaps it is more family pressure than social.  I've felt no social pressure ever, but sometimes family pressure comes into play.

menina · Answer

No, I don't think that every woman should be a mother. Some women have kids and they're happy with them, while others don't and they're also happy.

Women who have the opportunity to choose whether they want children or not, should be more careful with their decision. They shouldn't fall for society's pressure.

All my sisters (except for my younger sister) have kids. They're always pretending that they love being mothers but I know that deep down they regret their decision. Bringing a human being to this world is an huge responsibility and it shouldn't be taken lightly.

Many people assume that a woman should be a mother because in their minds a woman is nothing but a housewife and a mother. That women were only made to have babies. To me that's disgusting and ridiculous! If a woman wants to have babies, it's fine. But if she doesn't it's also fine. People should stop pressuring women into having children.

Marie-Meh · Answer

Firstly, I love the question, and happy women's day. I believe this stems from society's view that the role and purpose of a woman is to get married, have children, and be a housewife. Fortunately, this view has been changed and it's been a norm that we get to choose how we live our life. For me, I do want to be a mother but I also don't like to be pressured that at my age I should have one soon. I like the idea of having my child/children but realistically speaking, I'm not yet ready as there are other factors to consider like psychological and financial capabilities. Like one of the responses to this question, not all women are fit to become a mother. There's no shame in choosing to be a mother or not, but there is in being pressured and forced to become one.

Rosexøxø · Answer

Probably not sociopaths/ mentally challenged/ or physically disabled. Not any with milk issues.

Also not anyone who wouldn’t want it.

Other wise all women could because pretty much all women are nice and tender/ nurturing. The only mean and cruel women out there are the ones who get hurt and blemished by things of society, and those with mental disabilities.

Otherwise they’d all make perfect loving mother’s. It’s not hard for some people to love, when they’re in their own place of peace, to be able to do that in the first place.

sunflower00 · Answer

No, it’s your decision and every woman’s decision what she wants to do with her life. Pressuring women into having kids when they don’t want to will only result in more bad than good. I personally have never had the desire to have kids and currently don’t see myself wanting any in the future (this may change of course, but it’s quite a strong feeling for now). Why should I have a child? Children deserve to have parents who want them and will be the best parent to them. I’m sure if I had a child I would love it completely, but I know I wouldn’t be the best mum (I wouldn’t be abusive or anything but it’s just not for me, and although I would try to I could never be the best mum if I never really wanted kids you know?).

People say it’s selfish not having kids, that is not true. Having children is extremely difficult although very rewarding, and people fail to show the difficult parts. It’s a huge role to take on!

LivDev · Answer

Statistically, most women do.

"Every" or "All" are impossible to say when it comes to things like preferences. But, it's definitely the majority of us.

You realize it's like, a force of nature right? Baby-making is about as natural a thing as they come.

It's more likely not wanting to be a mother that is the "social pressure".

If people feel the need to rationalize not having kids, that's not true for having kids. That should be telling enough.

quaranta · Answer

Who says that? Plenty of women who had no kids yet lived a regular life.
There is social pressure but at some point that will stop, like, if you are 45+ nobody is coming to pressure you anymore.
You can anyway consider having babies and a family and investigating what are the reasons that would block you from starting any family, and you can work on those reasons. Let's say you feel like you're going to lose your autonomy, maybe there is a chance you can change perspective about how being a mother could be, and checking how mothers actually get some freedom for themselves and how this improves after around 8-10 years because kids will grow up. Also, you can select a partner who is a -proper- parent so that the management of the kids would be split in 2 for real and not all on your shoulders, plus some help from grand parents. These are only examples...
But anyway if no matter what, you don't feel ready to be a mother, you don't have to do anything with it.

Walt832 · Answer

Is always an option. Depends your working environment and goals.

Example,

Some females just rather enjoy their single life.

Some females just dont want to stress, usually it happens when they had so much stress during their youth.

Some females have goals to reach in their careers knowing having a kid will make you stuck, well you can reach it but now you have two set of minds compare when is one set of mind towards one direction.

Some are in the military depends what are your goals or if you are in some job that requires to be single and no kids.

Surely · Answer

There are so many people out there that should not procreate. That have a litter of children. I imagine that when you see the window stickers on the back window of mini vans. They are like announcing their fertility with mother and father and god knows how many little ones. With the stick figures on the glass.

Then the sad part. A few friends are unable to have children that i think would make good responsible parents.
So if a woman doesn’t want to bare children of their own. That is their and only their choice.

CreatingWonders · Answer

No, he’ll no, not all women deserve children some would make terrible mothers.

I can’t understand why people want to force motherhood on women not all women want kids not all women can look after kids.

People on Facebook begging for handouts as they can’t feed their child why have the kids then if you can’t look after them. It’s just beggars belief really how many awful parents there are out there.

If you want a child and can provide for that child and can love and care for said child then go for it but if not then don’t.

Twalli · Answer

You don't have to become one. My parents have siblings who had no interest in reproducing. My sister and I have no interest in reproducing. Yet most got married. My sister and I also see marriage in our future (not with each other, it just so happens our views on reproduction are the same). Luckily my girlfriend doesn't want kids either, and my sister's boyfriend doesn't care either way. He'd hav ed kids if the girl he was with wanted them, yet he doesn't feel he needs to with the person he marries.

Lliam · Answer

Hell no. They have absolutely no obligation to do so. Some people (men and women) aren't interested in dedicating their lives to raising kids. I never did.

My wife and I don't have kids and we're glad that we don't.

People who think that there must be pathological reasons why some women don't want to be saddled with kids are full of crap.

Women can do what they want, especially when it comes to their bodies.
Thank gods for contraception!

godfatherfan · Answer

Fuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuck Nooooooo.

There are some men and women that should NEVER be parents. Sadly, too many of those become parents. Once that child is born, your life isn't yours. You are there for that child. You do without, so they can have whatever. Now, you don't always have to go to that extreme. But if you are not ok with that thought, then you should never be a mom or dad.

Paulalove98 · Answer

No definitely not, there are too many children in this world whom are neglected, abused, mistreated, etc from moms who were cruel toward them and hurt them, it’s awful. I believe a loving, mature, nurturing, caring woman is fit to be a mom, someone who’s devoting and kind with patience and compassion, there’s people who aren’t fit to be parents at all and shouldn’t be.

LickwidSkie · Answer

I think a woman should only become a mother if that's what she wants. Aside from the person you're with, it's nobody else's business because they aren't the ones who, by default, are tasked with providing and caring for the child. There's also people who are or would make horrible parents because of their behavior, and shouldn't have or have had kids.

SpanishRose · Answer

No, I think a women should only be a mother if that's what she wants.

I had a lady who had a total hysterectomy at 25 because she did not want kids at all. She said "I'm to selfish of a person to ever be a mom" and I actually have a lot of respect for her because she knows that and didn't want a child to suffer because of it. So no I don't think all women are meant to be mothers.

mstbooblover · Answer

There's no logic reason for EVERY woman to become a mother. First there's the natural selection logic, where only women wishing to become mothers do what has to be done to have babies. Other women, not wishing having children, should be left in peace. There's no reason at all to force every woman to become a mother. Actually a plain result, or personal choice, due to whatever circumstances.

Daniela1982 · Answer

Are you kidding? Some women are the worst mothers you could have. How many people onG@G hate their mothers? Some women should never have a child or breed in any way. Especially those who kill their children for whatever reason. These women should rot in hell.

lightbulb27 · Answer

your profile says you are married but you want to be married. how many husbands do you need?

No... no way... it's a serious important job you have to really want. Else, avoid it. if it happens, then be an adult.

I think if you don't and when your inner wounds are healed (that's probably what says "don't want kids"), if they ever are, then you have regrets.

Kids are amazing and cute, but it's a job... and an adventure.

Berethor · Answer

You 38, can you still give birth? I believe that unless a woman have big genetic problems, she should be a mother, and that lacking a maternal instinct is unfeminine, I also believe that a man should not marry a woman that don't want children, and that it's pointless, if woman don't want to commit to children then why should a man commit to her?

RavVid · Answer

Undoubtedly there is a presumption that most women do want to and there is a societal presumption they will. Overall it is largely true in my observation and that is the reason for the presumption.

Those who don't want this should not bow to the pressure.

Wade12345 · Answer

There used to be laws in the U. S. against certain mentally disabled people reproducing. They were forcibly sterilized back in the day.

I'm not advocating for that, but the phrase "Be fruitful and multiply" obviously does not apply to you if you are incompetent to raise a child.

Capricornunicorn92 · Answer

No because not all women are meant to be or fit to be mothers. Have you not heard of the cases where mothers leave their children in the car when it's extremely hot outside or that one woman that put her baby in the oven?

Just because you can reproduce doesn't mean you should especially those that have mental health issues.

Anonymous · Answer

You never fully mature into a woman until you do become a mother. Likewise you will never fully understand love until you have a child.

That said if you choose to end your family line and remain a girl. You will be selfishly choosing to take all the great pains and sacrifice every ancestor of yours made for you to even have a life, to live for yourself alone.

Anonymous · Answer

My sister didn’t have career or saving and chose to become a mother? 🤦🏻‍♀️🤦🏻‍♀️🤦🏻‍♀️

she's not even feminine or maternal. 🤦🏻‍♀️

I personally don’t want any brats, I’m happy with my single status. I eat when I want, I sleep when I want. I eat what I want. I play games when I want.
I’m 25, and so many people I grew up with who are more immature than I, decided to become parents. Most disgusting thing there is!!

TJ1892 · Answer

I woudnt necessarily say "every woman should", it is down to the individual and what they want to do in their lives. Some women have always wanted to have kids and have a family many especially now days want to have a career and settle down later on and perhaps not have children at all. As long as people are doing what makes them happy, then there is no right or wrong way.

007kingifrit · Answer

provided she isn't in poverty having kids is always more happiness for a woman. infact above 40 there are only 2 factors that determine female happiness. relationship status and age of children.

its important to have a purpose in life and children instantly fill that role

Razp_Sorbet · Answer

No, not every woman SHOULD become a mother. There are a lot of mother's who should have never had children. Not everyone wants to be one either and nobody should be forced to be if they don't want that.

Straight2thepoint · Answer

That's a long Stretch of a question.

Can you vouch for the orphans, or the murdered ones, the sold ones, the abused ones, the neglected ones... "the forgotten tear"

Some women are wonderful with children but either they can't have one or they never come around to birth one. No one forces anyone. We either created an oops or planned it.

OfMiceandMen · Answer

Some women are not meant to be mothers and some are. Regardless, just bc someone may make a great mother, it doesn't mean they should become one. Last time I checked, the person had the right to choose.

SnowedIn · Answer

No, not every woman should be a mother unless that's what she wants.  But, to one of the things you wrote, yes, I think there is often pressure for women to have children.

exitseven · Answer

No, it is a huge responsibilty. It is not for everyone.

PainusNdeeAnus · Answer

Well look at it like this as a woman you will never do anything in your lifetime that is as incredible as creating new life

If life was a video game Giving birth would be womens signature move I don’t see why any woman would be against that

Sorrento-Sun · Answer

Not at all. It's an individuals choice. Everyone has their personal reasons for wanting children or not. It's their life. They can decide what's best for them.

I only judge people for having kids and not caring for them.

Anemone978 · Answer

No some women are not cut out to be mothers, some could be abusive, some will never have enough love, some are bitches, some are whores, some will put men before their children and their safety. So no not everyone should be mothers...

Sour-rose · Answer

No. I can only imagine that there would be... so... SOOO many bad things happening. :1 things I shouldn't have to say if you think how every woman from being a kid is destined to be a mom. One way or another, like it or not.

Biancam13 · Answer

Not everyone should be mothers, no. Being a mother is a huge responsibility that is not just about financially and physically providing for your child. It is also about emotional support and making the child feel loved unconditionally.

melanieeeB · Answer

Definitely not! If you hate kids, better don't become a hateful mother and do your unborn child a favor and don't do it lol
Or like if you just don't have the wish to be a mom, then also don't become one. It's pretty easy.

Static_In_The_Attic · Answer

If anyone wants to be a mother I’m all for it as long as she isn’t a danger to the baby or herself in any way & she cares for the baby in a way a baby should be cared for.

Summeroflove · Answer

I think that’s a personal choice. It’s your life. So do what you want. There is no law saying you MUST have children. There is also men who don’t want kids.  Me personally I want kids

OlderAndWiser · Answer

If you don't think that you would be a good mother, then please do not have children! We don't need one more bad mother!

Anonymous · Answer

The vast majority of women want to be mothers. That's why if you see a woman and you have no other information to go on, it makes sense to assume they want to have a child. It's called playing the odds. There really isn't much more to it than that.

Anonymous · Answer

No, some women should definitely never become mothers. There are a lot of very selfish women today who are unfit to be mothers.

Having said that, on average, mothers are happier in life than non-mothers. One reason for that is it cures their selfishness, and unselfish people are happier people. Serving others is a key to happiness.

molonski2 · Answer

I don't think every woman has to become a mother , I have two daughters one in Denmark one in Queensland Australia , both tell me they never will be mothers , I believe its up to them.

ElGato31 · Answer

No. Some women don't want to become a mother, some women shouldn't become a mother, some should wait a few more years and grow up first mentally.

Ms_Facesitter · Answer

People wouldn't put up their kid for adoption if that was true. What about the unwanted babies that moms neglected and killed. There's even a case out there of one leaving her baby in a dumpster, alive. Thank god she got rescued in time.

CateM · Answer

Nope! If every woman had children, there would be even more abused/neglected children in this world than there already are

WhitneySnow · Answer

No. Only women who want to become mothers should. No one should be pressured into becoming a parent.

Sunssong · Answer

@pancake Only if they all want too.  @aprettylittlelady87 Women have a right over their lives/bodies

EmmaMary · Answer

No absolutely not... It is quite simply every woman's prerogative what she chooses to do... Period.

katiesmuff · Answer

No I don't because there some women who just do not want any part of having kids and fortunately that is one right women still have for now.

xHoneyxBeex · Answer

No. Only women who want to become mothers should become mothers.

LazerBean · Answer

No, there are plenty of women who are unfit to be parents.

gorydetails · Answer

"every"? absolutely not. There are people who are unfit to be parents. However, discouraging motherhood among healthy, mentally well women needs to stop.

maximumpower · Answer

Absolutely NOT!
Former spouse should never have been a mother.
She's shallow, greedy, emotionally incapable, and conniving.
Unfortunately, neither son nor I learned just how bad she was until it was too late.

jshm2 · Answer

Not every woman can become a mother. Even fewer can cope with being one.

DeeDeeDeVour · Answer

Not every woman  has a "calling" to be a mother.

Quackthulu2 · Answer

Fuck no. Too many damp people on this planet as it is.

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