Is every "kind" of man bad or wrong?

[TwinTonyz]

Some issues are overt, and some have some nuance, but what is a man's best course when all paths carry disparaging titles?

I'm 27 years old, raised only by women. My mother has been single my entire life, grand-parents divorced, uncles kept distant. I was raised to focus on being a good husband. Always be kind, she comes first, provide for and protect, be respectful. That boy was quiet, impulsive, emotional, quick to serve, and eager to please. He was a good friend, selfless, but never appealing so as to be anything more. He'd grow to have footprints worn into his back. It took me a long time to learn that man is abused more than not.

In the last 3 years, I've turned to media to find what I should become. In that time I've made the greatest strides in self improvement. I understand my career path. I've established values and principles. I'm preparing body, mind, and home for the future. Yet I'm lost for how any if this fits into the world around me.

It seems that every single path I could commit to is somehow toxic, repulsive, or preyed upon, but is also a requirement to fulfill standards set for men.

Expanding on the image above:
-Men who are fit exhibit self-control, discipline, sex appeal, and physical aptitude.
-They are pinned as addicts, lacking hobbies, intellectually inept, and vain.
Compare that to the inversion
-Fat men are presented as soft, cuddly, desirable in a dad-bod way, and allegedly more-loyal
-They are also disgusting, lacking self control, and lacking any sex appeal
Okay both extremes are bad, but why not find a middleman
-Average men are just that, average. They're no more or less enticing than the last one, and therein just aren't desirable.

Others:
financially secure ✓
using your wealth is grooming ✗
being confident ✓
misplaced confidence is creepy ✗
clean attractive appearance ✓
has beauty standards ✗
respectful ✓
prudish ✗

With all these brands meant to label men defective, is there anything we can do which isn't a red flag?

[NamerOfStars]

"turn[ing] to media to find what I should become" is the last thing you should do. The media is either controlled or directly owned by people who are attempting to reshape society to better suit their plans and desires. This isn't inherently a bad thing- we ALL want to see the world reshaped into something better- but it is inhibited by people moving the shaking the world in their own way- acting, in short, like men do.

This is a big part of why so much of society has turned on traditionally masculine virtues (while hyping up the few that remain socially palatable) and promoting feminine ones in their place- an unprecedented amount of power has been concentrated in the hands of MANY power brokers, and they're struggling against one another for control. You're not a convert, to be persuaded to one side or another; you're a battlefield.

It's from within, not without, that meaning comes.

[RagnarRedbeard]

You still care too much about pleasing people, but you can’t please everyone. What one person likes, another might see as a red flag.

You also know what’s good and bad anyway. Being muscular and fit is obviously better than being fat and out of shape. Most women are gonna prefer a fit guy, the ones who say they don’t are either lying or they’re fat and out of shape themselves.

You just have to stop worrying about this stuff and do you.

[Guy13]

Thorough ‼️ I need like three reads to get all data thoughtfulnesses processed.