Questions: Family & Friends

I thought it was just a black thing but I now know friends of all ethnic backgrounds whose parents have the nerve as well. Even my friends from HS who range from 21-30 still have parents who will raise a hand to them, despite their grown age. I almost didn't buy my mom any gifts this Christmas. she's hardly one to lay hands but while shopping with her last week, she felt it was okay to do so. I bought my groceries as she said she’d pay for her personal nongrocery items separately. While at the cash register she kept calling my name asking for my card. I ignored her until she pestered me so. Then i finally responded “What? You said before we got up here that you’d pay for yours.” She was like “I don't know who she think she's what-ing right now?” Then she smacked me upside the back of the head in front of the whole store. It took everything in me not to swing back. But i spent the rest of the day cussing her out in my head 😂 She made it worse by constantly following me around for the next 5 mins, all on my shoulder like a bulldog saying “What you gonna do, you gonna hit me, huh huh?”. Then later that day proceeded to “Oooh i bet you’re texting all your friends talking bad about me because my ears are burning.” Then around the end of the day, she remembered I hadn't bought her Christmas gift yet and decided to give a half ass apology. Good Lord. Its really good i believe in respecting my mom cause the devil on my shoulder wanted me to smack that hoe down and give her coal for Christmas. #ToxicParents
#FeelFreeToList #MerryChristmas

I'm in my early 20's and my younger brother turned 18 last month. He's starting to learn do things on his own.

He wanted to arm wrestle me twice. Before we started my mother kept whispering to let him win. I said no and proceeded. I beat him easily both times. He felt disappointed and kept saying ''I can never beat you, I'll never be strong'' and went to his room.

Should I have given him one won at least? Part of me wanted to but then he'll never learn and maybe the next opponent he gets will be tougher than me. I think in life, part of becoming great at something and winning is by losing first.

I found out he cheated in Oct 2018, then stopped and then resumed cheating several times just last month. His mother never liked me and always critcized me. She gossiped about me to others. I had to still be polite and try getting along with this fake, liar for his sick.

Now that he cheated, I cussed the hell out of him. His mother heard it all and started with an ''I knew you were never good enough''. I replied with an ''Oh STFU, f*** both of you, I don't have to pretend to get along with you anymore. I never liked you either, you fake, lying gossiper. I only did it for your son's sake. Go f*** yourself. Same for your son.

If you guys don't like each other but still can have a nice conversation is that being fake?

Most people say that's being a respectful adult but wouldn't that still be pretending to get along? You know very well they don't like you and you can't stand them either. What do you think?

i saw a tik tok where all the women answered yes to that question; however, all the men said no. is it true that men are never friends with a woman simply to be friends? that they always have some underlying desire to have a romantic or sexual relationship with them?
it is just surprising to me because some of my friends are males, and its just a weird thought to have. to me, theyre just friends and literally nothing more... so do they feel the same about me?