Is it normal not to cry at my grandma's funeral?

[Anonymous]

I was never fond of my maternal grandmother. She treated my father like garbage from the time they started dating long ago and would continue gossiping about him during their whole marriage. My father tried to always be cordial with her, even when she was being a hypocrite to his face. She used to fake a smile while talking garbage behind his back to others.

I started distancing myself from her after my 12th b-day and would rarely visit her. What child is going to like someone that disrespects/hates their parents? She denied weeks ago and I don't feel too much emotions. It's like a whatever too me. She didn't acted like a loving grandma either. It's like she had pity that I had to be the daughter of the man she hated.

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No one knows what that lady had against my father sooo much. He's liked by all the other family members. Long ago, she once made my father once cried in anger. Then she bragged about how she made a man cry to everyone in the family. She kept bragging about it for years about it.

Who does that? A man can cry too. Why not? I hated her even more when I heard that... that someone treated my daddy like garbage

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''She died weeks ago''

[kkirk4442]

It's normal to cry at a grandmother's funeral. It's also normal not to cry at a grandmother's funeral. it depends on how one expresses their emotions, and on how close the relationship was. Some people cry much easier than do others, and those that don't dry openly, may cry in private, or grieve in other ways. And if there was very little closeness in the relationship, that is another reason why someone might not cry.

[ThePolishKnight37]

I did not cry when my mother died until the night she was buried. Felt I needed to be strong for my brother and friends. Everyone reacts differently. it may take something like a song or something someone does that reminds you of her that it hits you.

[Anonymous]

I didn't cry at any of my grandparents funerals; I cried either before or after. You cry when it hits you and a funeral isn't timed with your emotions.

[Dchrls78104]

Perhaps I can relate. My older brother was a bit of a bully who treated me along with other family members very badly. At his death few people came to the funeral and I remember no one, myself included, shedding a tear for him.

[Sam_The_Savage]

If u don't feel cry than why need to act fake? All cool babe. No one cares.

[Asker]

I'm not acting fake. I was there without showing any emotions. I feel nothing for the person that treated my father like garbage.

[SupremeWarlord]

Everyone has a different reaction to these sorts of things. Not crying certainly does not mean that you're a bad person.

[serious]

Yes it is.

[JessieBellll]

Of course