At what age should I start considering a surrogate mother if I want to be a dad?

[WhereIsMyLover]

I am probably going to be single for life. I would say likely. I cannot find a young woman without a romantic past, meaning no previous first love or even a male friend she was close to growing up.

I was actually so close one time and found an 17 year old girl (now 18) about a year ago that never even had a male friend before me. But, sadly, I wasn't her type.

I don't want to be old and alone one day. I want to have children of my own at least if I am never going to have a wife.

I then thought of hiring a surrogate mother to produce a child for me so I can still be a dad.

Right now, I am months away from turning 27. When should I start the process of having my own child?

[exitseven]

Havin a child is not like getting a pet. Kids raised in single parent households start life behind the 8 ball.
Everyone has a past. You are not being realistic if yo think you will find somebody who has never dated before. You need to get over thst.

[WhereIsMyLover]

I guarantee I will be an exceptionally great father.

I have 3 options:
A. I will be a single, childless man the rest of my life. Meanwhile, my peers will be married and having kids of their own. Their families will become more of the focus in their lives while I become less and less relevant and have less in common. My parents will grow old one day and not be there, and I will be left all alone.
B. I still will be a single man, but I have a child or children that will at least be there when I am old and gray. I will be able to be a father (and a good one) and still be able to form a family of my own.
C. I somehow manage to facilitate my early death so that I don't have to endure a lonely and miserable life.

A woman who has dated is fine, along as she did not develop a romantic bond with that person or had a close connection with him beforehand. For example, a woman that met a stranger online and went on a date with him, that is fine. But a woman who was close friends with a guy growing up when she was young and dated him and had feelings for him, that is not.

[exitseven]

I do not mean to be a jerk but I think you need to get counseling of something to get over this thing about women having a past. You sound sincere and all but I think that finding a mate is a complex process. You have to try a few people before you find what you are looking for. Looking at it from another way is how do you know what you want unless you find out what you don;t want. The only way you can figure that out is by dating several people. I dated about 20 people before I met my wife and she also dated several people. We both were engaged to other people as well. I never thought anything about it. We have been together 25 years.

[Slartybartfast]

I thought about doing that as well, it's really expensive, expect to pay a hundred thousand dollars or more total.

[WhereIsMyLover]

I know. Crazy. I just researched the cost. It is stupid considering many women are willing to have babies for free.

[Apple1996]

If I was you I'd wait a little longer. If no kids by 30 then looking into adoption or surrogacy. I have to say your story is really sad and I truly hope you find a good woman that will give you some babies.

[WhereIsMyLover]

Sadly, it doesn't look like the odds are in my favor. I highly doubt I am going to find a woman who has never had her first love. I doubt I am going to find a woman without a romantic past. It is likely not going to happen.

[Apple1996]

Yeah it's tricky to find a good one that doesn't have a past. Best chance is to look into a younger, more religious girl

[WhereIsMyLover]

I found one like that. But, sadly, when she met me for the first time, she found I wasn't her type. She wanted a taller guy (I am 5'6").

[Apple1996]

She sounds shallow for turning you away just cause of height. Plus she's stupid for not wanting to have your babies. My husband is the same height as you and it's the best having babies with him since our kids are always tiny and easy to push out. I would never mate with a tall guy for that reason

[Slartybartfast]

Oh 5'6"... Yeah you wouldn't stand a chance getting a girlfriend around here. I'd start looking for a surrogate soon.