The basis of friendship doesn't have anything to do with your personal life. It has everything to do with the fact of the kind of bonds you shared together. Unless what you're doing is practically illegal, it really isn't anybody's personal business. However, I think the problem here that you have has less to do with the fact that she's secretive about the person, but the fact that she doesn't sound mentally stable. While she had a lot of things happened to her, and she has a right to that, she's also being a hypocrite that she wants to know everything about you. I think you have to be worried about is that she may be suffering from some form of mental illness that required some help. Not because she's secretive, not because she won't tell you anything, but the fact that she's doing things that doesn't sound normal. Sounds like to me she's trying to gain the identity of other people because she cannot handle her own Identity or she has none of her own. They're things my friends don't always share with me, just like their things I didn't always share with my friends. But I eventually share with them over time throughout the years. Overall you just got to be very careful who you call your friend. A secretive person unless they give you negative feelings and you sent something is not right about them is not the problem. The problem has to do with the fact that you don't know who you're inviting into your life. She's just overall don't sound like a healthy person in overall or red flag. After reading your other comment, you have to respect who the person is, and understand that there are certain things they don't want no. But that doesn't mean that she is entitled to know everything about you either. I think it is very clear you just shouldn't be around that kind of person.
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I think there's a level of secrecy you can maintain with a person, which as you grow closer will generally decrease in size, but this seems very extreme. I don't know that I could keep a friendship, because I would feel like they were always hiding something from me, and if I can't trust them, I'll be living in constant worry, which isn't good for my health or mental wellbeing.
No, that's literally insane. Drop her.
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