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How can I keep my distance from my family even though I live with them in my 20s?

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I studied abroad and I had a job, but I lost it, so I had no choice but to move back home two months ago. I missed my parents and my sister, so at first I was glad I went back home. But now I miss the freedom and the friends I had there. At home I feel like the child I used to be. When I was abroad, I was very spontaneous and natural and people appreciated me for that. Now, I feel that I'm not good enough. When we meet other people and I am spontaneous and bubbly, my mom tells me: "Well, you shouldn't have said that, you shouldn't have exposed yourself that much"..."you shouldn't be that honest, you should be more diplomatic". When we go to a restaurant she tells me what to eat. Or when I come back home enthusiastic, my dad asks me: "Is there anything wrong with you? Why are you so agitated?" My mom says that I'm more charismatic when I am relaxed and not inhibited, but her constant remarks about my behaviour actually make me self-conscious. My younger sister is very bitchy and irritated and it seems that nothing I do is good enough for her. Even when I'm trying to "defy" them and be spontaneous around them, it doesn't come as naturally as when I am somewhere else. I can't find any job in my country at the moment so I'm stuck with them. Every day with them is a fight and I have to defend and justify myself in front of them.

How can I keep my distance from my family even though I live with them in my 20s?
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