My boyfriend (M29) and I (F28) have been together for a year and 4 months, on our 1st date he told me up front that he has 2 kids from two different women and they are both crazy so I knew what I signed up for. We live long distance same state different cities 3-4 hours apart, everyone who is in his inner circle knows about me and my identity. (Past relationships with his BMs it was lustful desires & they trapped him and they sleep with other men getting preggers by them). He had said I have an out and I can leave if i wanted to (he said it on a genuine caring level not harsh at all), but I love him to where I feel like he could be the one. He and I are in a serious relationship, he is the 1st mature and good man I had been with who gives it his 100 & still paying off his debt & child support. I kept telling him worry about his finances & that I didn't want to burden him also I would never want to come between a father and child I am very family oriented. He still manages to fit me in his time visiting me & even still has time with his kids. The BMs know he's in a relationship but not my idenity or anything else & won't tell them until we are engaged or married he wants me to meet his kids too when it happens. Kids are an exception. The BMs are who I have problems with that is using his kindness and gentleman nature for their selfishness threatening taking kids away because they mad/bitter & he's trying to care for their feelings because of fear of not being able to see the kids. He has no filter, a romantic, gentleman & introvered. He says he's protecting me keeping me out of in the middle of drama & I trust him taking his word for it but I still have those fears. I am grateful he still keeps me updated on his life & didn't have to. Have I answered my own question? Am I making a big deal out of nothing? I dont want to leave it is rare to find another match, no one is perfect neither am I we all have our flaws. What would you do? Or how do you handle this? Thoughts?
My boyfriend is protecting me from his Baby mamas (he has two) but they are both crazy he wants to keep me hidden and protected till we're married?
