Honestly I don't think your take is all that true. There have been people that I was not physically attracted to at all until I started getting to know their personality. Inner beauty came first most often.
I feel as though inner beauty is more important. I mean, think of book characters. We have no idea what Percy Jackson looks like or how beautiful Tessa Gray is but we love them for their thoughts don't we? For what they feel inside.
thats false becuase you associate a vision of what you think they look like. i dont know who they are but i can assure you have a mental image of these charecters in your mind so you do associate looks with personality traits
@animus1988 Not exactly true. I can't really visualize peoples looks, I can more hear the sound of their voices, no looks at all. Harry potter wa said to be a knobby kneed boy with broken glasses and messy hair but still everyone fell for the 11 year old boy didn't they?
This is politically correct bullshit. I look for a nice face, okay hair and body shape and i`m happy if the personality is good too. I mean, this is obviously politically correct bullshit because you say inner/outer instead of beauty/personality.
So you would rather an asshole that treats you with no respect that has got good looks. Then a nice person who treats you with respect that doesn't have good looks?
She's saying outer beauty attracts initially, before she can consider being with him if compatible. She's not saying she'd rather be with gorgeous person with an sh**ty personality, but rather a gorgeous person with a good personality.
I think outter beauty matters more. It has a greater influence on how people will treat you, how people will perceive you, what they will let you get away with, who you can date/have sex with, and how easily you make friends.
You need a good balance of both. For instance, doesn't matter how good someone looks, if they are a bitch them there is no way I'm going to date them. The beauty creates attraction, but the inner beauty is what makes them stay.
I think inner beauty is more grounded than outer beauty. Inner beauty is longer lasting, it's what defines a person whereas outer beauty is more superficial it fades with time
Many men hate me. I do not understand why. I keep asking myself. They told m because my looks are very ugly. They told me I am fat when I am not fat in real life.
From my opinion it depends on the standards you just used for "beauty" for example, having a too big nose or something isn't something that can be changed (unless you have a surgery but that's expensive af) so you shouldn't judge someone after that. but things like general health, hygiene etc. things that can be naturally altered, those are what counts as outer beauty for me.
so as long as those are what you meant I agree with your opinion.
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I strongly disagree. The basic reason is that outer beauty, especially for men, is so versatile it isn't really worth consideration. The average female will attract attention from males of many echelons of the social scale. If what you were saying were true, that outer beauty weren't a fundamentally minimal state, then this would not be the case.
Perhaps it is not so for women. I am not a woman. I wouldn't know or care to know for that matter.
They're both important. You should find the person you're in a relationship with attractive, and they should also have a good personality. I've met guys that I thought were handsome, but they had shit personalities so I kicked them to the curb
lmao do people not know how to read, it's stated in bold - they are equally important. they, referring to outer and inner beauty. and I mentioned that nobody in the world is ugly or beautiful, it depends on the perspective of each individual. please read before you comment :)
At 71, I am not bad looking for 71. That said, outer beauty does not last forever. Inner beauty does. Find someone who is physically attractive to you but has an inside that will be desirable to you forever.
Both are very important. Yes outer beauty is the frist thing you see obviously. But then there's the get to know the inner beauty. Suprising there's a lot of outer beauty people that have a very ugly inner side, and that's not attractive at all.
Good to hear! But it's a shame that not many guys think like you. I know real life is different than the high school years, but the physically attractive girls always get the guys attention more. They'd rather sleep with a mean, disrespectful girl with a great body than the other way around.
From a relationship standpoint, yes. But I rather have a great personality and most people liking me for the way I am, than looking attractive and people despising me.
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Honestly I don't think your take is all that true. There have been people that I was not physically attracted to at all until I started getting to know their personality. Inner beauty came first most often.
I feel as though inner beauty is more important. I mean, think of book characters. We have no idea what Percy Jackson looks like or how beautiful Tessa Gray is but we love them for their thoughts don't we? For what they feel inside.
thats false becuase you associate a vision of what you think they look like. i dont know who they are but i can assure you have a mental image of these charecters in your mind so you do associate looks with personality traits
@animus1988 Not exactly true. I can't really visualize peoples looks, I can more hear the sound of their voices, no looks at all. Harry potter wa said to be a knobby kneed boy with broken glasses and messy hair but still everyone fell for the 11 year old boy didn't they?
having messy hair and wearing glasses doesn't make someone unnattractive. you shouldn't be so judgmental ;)
This is politically correct bullshit. I look for a nice face, okay hair and body shape and i`m happy if the personality is good too. I mean, this is obviously politically correct bullshit because you say inner/outer instead of beauty/personality.
So you would rather an asshole that treats you with no respect that has got good looks.
Then a nice person who treats you with respect that doesn't have good looks?
She's saying outer beauty attracts initially, before she can consider being with him if compatible. She's not saying she'd rather be with gorgeous person with an sh**ty personality, but rather a gorgeous person with a good personality.
I think outter beauty matters more. It has a greater influence on how people will treat you, how people will perceive you, what they will let you get away with, who you can date/have sex with, and how easily you make friends.
You need a good balance of both. For instance, doesn't matter how good someone looks, if they are a bitch them there is no way I'm going to date them. The beauty creates attraction, but the inner beauty is what makes them stay.
I think inner beauty is more grounded than outer beauty. Inner beauty is longer lasting, it's what defines a person whereas outer beauty is more superficial it fades with time
Many men hate me. I do not understand why. I keep asking myself. They told m because my looks are very ugly. They told me I am fat when I am not fat in real life.
From my opinion it depends on the standards you just used for "beauty"
for example, having a too big nose or something isn't something that can be changed (unless you have a surgery but that's expensive af) so you shouldn't judge someone after that.
but things like general health, hygiene etc.
things that can be naturally altered, those are what counts as outer beauty for me.
so as long as those are what you meant I agree with your opinion.
I strongly disagree. The basic reason is that outer beauty, especially for men, is so versatile it isn't really worth consideration. The average female will attract attention from males of many echelons of the social scale. If what you were saying were true, that outer beauty weren't a fundamentally minimal state, then this would not be the case.
Perhaps it is not so for women. I am not a woman. I wouldn't know or care to know for that matter.
Agreed, it's equally important.
It's sad that people judge you by your looks automatically though and those who are "blessed" get at least hook ups easily.
I agree. I'm tired of people pretending that inner beauty is the only thing that matters
They're both important. You should find the person you're in a relationship with attractive, and they should also have a good personality. I've met guys that I thought were handsome, but they had shit personalities so I kicked them to the curb
So you're saying ugly people deserve to suffer and be alone for the rest of their life?
lmao do people not know how to read, it's stated in bold - they are equally important. they, referring to outer and inner beauty. and I mentioned that nobody in the world is ugly or beautiful, it depends on the perspective of each individual. please read before you comment :)
At 71, I am not bad looking for 71. That said, outer beauty does not last forever. Inner beauty does. Find someone who is physically attractive to you but has an inside that will be desirable to you forever.
Both are very important. Yes outer beauty is the frist thing you see obviously. But then there's the get to know the inner beauty. Suprising there's a lot of outer beauty people that have a very ugly inner side, and that's not attractive at all.
I'd rather fuck a 6 with a 10 personality than a 10 with a 6 personality.
Good to hear! But it's a shame that not many guys think like you. I know real life is different than the high school years, but the physically attractive girls always get the guys attention more. They'd rather sleep with a mean, disrespectful girl with a great body than the other way around.
Dude, you are 4/10. The best you can get is a fat ugly girl.
@Elliot_Rodger1999 So you like Elliot Rodger and you're gay?
Inner beauty is more important. In the long run unless you only want sex and something nice to look at
I agree. Both are equally important. Nothing ruins a woman that is pretty outwardly but has a disgusting attitude or is stupid. Yikes. 😣
From a relationship standpoint, yes. But I rather have a great personality and most people liking me for the way I am, than looking attractive and people despising me.