Where this take comes from, is my thought process about the seemingly increasing preoccupation with looks in the modern world. We are now living in the era of Instagram model fame where your self worth is measured by how many thousand Instagram followers you have. From the endless "Rate Me?" questions to the "How Do I Need To Change My Appearance?" posts, which are asking how to get a boyfriend/girlfriend or how to get noticed or how to become popular. There are very few questions like "Is My Personality Good Enough? or "Should I Change My Persona?" to achieve certain things.
Apart from my belief that there is no such thing as standard beauty. I believe that everyone is beautiful in their own way. I feel that people should only change for themselves not others because a person's true personality is very likely to come back, if they are putting on an act to attract someone or to get attention. Is it not better to attract someone or to get attention by being the person you are rather than a fictitious role that you must remember to portray at all times or the game is up.
I see these words appear a lot on GaG and to the user that is mentioning them, they clearly mean different things with perceived delineation but to me they all blur into one, can we not just pick one word, say "Attractive" and go with that instead of having a transcendental crisis trying to work out what a person is asking plus what our appropriate response should be.
The way I look at it is, the Republic Of Ireland is roughly 300 miles long and 200 miles wide with 26 counties. If I as an Irish person, talked to people from Cork (south), Galway (west), Donegal (north), Dublin (east) and Westmeath (centre), I would spot the different accents but they would just sound Irish to everyone else who is from outside the country with no major knowledge of Ireland. Here is a map of the island of Ireland for anyone interested, Northern Ireland is a separate country to us.
So in my world we can all agree on the word "Attractive". Now I want to look at the statement there is no such thing as standard in beauty and there can be many different types of beauty which may not appeal to all but definitely appeal to some. In this scenario the beautiful people in the world are not a miniscule subset of the population but a much larger proportion of it.
Note :- In the next two paragraphs I want to show many different examples of beauty. They all look very attractive to me. No example is meant to be better than any other.
(2) There Are Many Points Of Beauty On The Spectrum And Many Ways To Display It:
- Overtly Sexy Or Subtly Attractive
- Light/No Make Up To Made Up
- A Tiny Bit Of Cheating Here Because Of Number Of Pictures Restriction. This Is A Photo Of The Pussycat Dolls To Show Beautiful Women With Different Hair Lengths/Styles/Colours
- Dressed Up Or Casual
(2) Beauty Comes In All Shapes And Sizes With Many Different Personality Types:-
Thick Or Slim
Popular Party Girl Or Shy Quiet Girl
(3) Just Because Someone Is Different To You It Doesn't Make Them Any Less Beautiful
I suppose what I am saying is there is so many different types of beauty, both for male and female that one shouldn't get obsessed by what your version of beauty is. More than likely there will be someone who will like you just the way you are and will be probably more worried about what your inner beauty is like rather than your outer beauty.
We tend to be our harshest critics so the beauty we fail to see can be often seen by other people.
Thanks for reading.