Why is being pale considered unattractive?

Question

Do I stand a chance? I can't tan at all. I'm very fair skinned and it's unfair because being tan makes you look skinnier and hides small imperfections but my skin just won't tan. Is it really so unattractive to not be tanned?

BrianMerritt · Accepted Answer

In the olden days, people loved pale skin becauae it was a sign of wealth. You spent every minute shaded from the sun because you could afford to have umbrellas, carriages, lounges and whatnot.
BUT on a more primal level, a pale face looks sickly. Males are instinctively attracted to females who look like they will give birth well, so rosy cheeks will turn them on. Fun fact, as you approach your time of the month, your cheeks will automatically get more color, and your face will actually change slightly to look younger and healthier. Your body does this so that you will look more fertile to males as your ideal time for mating and conception approaches.
So being tan isn't EXACTLY the deciding factor, it's more about looking glowing and healthy. Too much tan is actually a turn off because on white girls it makes them look like aliens and it screams high-maintenance. Try making your cheeks more rosy and a bit more shiny.

hybridhavoc · Accepted Answer

I have no idea why we have been socialized to consider tan skin as attractive. This is probably related in some way to our fascination with beaches and leisure time, and the association between those things and tan skin.

For the record, there are guys that actually prefer pale skin over tan skin - myself among them. In my experience, pale skin is softer to the touch.

spuitkaas · Accepted Answer

I get you girl. Yesterday I was telling someone about my vacation and she was like 'but you're not tanned' and I was like 'heck I'm tanned' and then showed my belly and she was like 'oh'.
I only tan if I walk for hours and hours in the sun with sunscreen and get that beautiful runners tan.
I've accepted my paleness. It has some cute features like my freckles and that I look flushed really fast, but it also has its negative sides. Like a pimple is 100000x more visible, you will always look 5kg heavier and things like dark circles occur more, but it's always better than fake tanning or sunbathing too much. It's not worth it.
So love your skin colour. Look for the good sides about it wherever men like it or not. It's not worth changing it.

DinaM · Accepted Answer

Because society has changed; it's actually linked to status and wealth.

Back in the day, when everyone was essentially working outside, on farms and such, being pale was considered really attractive because it signalled status and wealth -- it hinted that you could afford spending lots of time indoors so you wouldn't get a tan.

Then later on, after the industrial revolution, when indoors jobs became more common, it shifted -- now having a tan was a sign of wealth and status because it hinted that you could afford taking time off work and spend enough of it outside in order to get a tan.

Mind you, these are generalisations. Individual tastes can, and have, varied throughout the ages.

johanmdsn · Accepted Answer

pale is not considered unattractive and tan does not make you attractive. it really depends on the person and their preferences and besides you shouldn't worry and embrace your skin colour, or youd be getting guys who only want you for appearance. and pale is beautiful to me and literally so many other guys I've talked to i guess the difference is, dark for men seem more alluring, sexy and mysterious, whereas pale seems to men to be more 'pure', innocent and lighthearted.

Neyila · Accepted Answer

it seems that so many people are unhappy with their skin color. there are skin whitening products out there for people with dark skin that want to be light, and also tanning products for people with light skin who want to be dark - proves there is no real definition of beauty. you should just appreciate your own skin and the right people will love you for who you are.

Anon85 · Answer

Not at all. My crushes have all been pretty damn pale. Personally I think tans are a waste of time. They make fairer people look less attractive. Pale people should be pale, tan people should be tan, and dark people should be dark. They look better that way

Ohlordhelpme · Answer

Haha no, it's bullshit really, every white person is born with fair skin. Remember tan skin is actually damaged it might "look better" to some but it won't effect the way people see you. It's only an issue to you because you think people you find attractive are more interested in tan skin, it isn't true and if they are they have more shit to think about than their moral judgment.

fsu19 · Answer

Um you are so wrong. In a great majority of places, lighter skin is seen as better. If you're talking about tanning, some people like the brown shade but then again, I don't think being pale hurts your dating life at all

Bella16 · Answer

You will live a long and healthy life. A suntan is a form of burning and damages your skin, even resulting in skin cancer. You will get fewer wrinkles without a tan as well. I have dark blonde hair and green eyes and I never go out in the sun without protection.

Philyouup · Answer

First, although Tanned shin is nice, it also is guaranteed to look like hand bag leather in a few years. Alabaster skin is no more unattractive than the Tan Bodies its also soft and smooth to the touch. if that is your profile picture, i am unsure of why you would feel unattractive, your a beautiful woman. Dont give away your power, dont let others decide what is attractive or not. Because if thier opinion is making you feel unattractive, they are Soooooo wrong..

BeerFarts · Answer

I think pale skin is sexy. I prefer a girl with pale skin compared to a pale girl with a fake and bake. I've seen so many girls that overdid it with a tan and I just think to myself that they would look 10x better in their natural skin color.

Nic2day · Answer

I think you have a fixation on this. Personally I preferred a white woman because I feel attracted to them. How your imperfections are an issue at all? There's is no such thing as perfection now, therefore... Everyone has imperfections...

fhziljio · Answer

There are enough porn-acresses that are pale. All the redheads or the super pale Stoya and Sasha Grey. They have succes because of their looks for the most part, you will be fine.

MazingAnna99 · Answer

I have fair skin and I take pride in it. You are who you are ❤ don't try to change something like that to gain someone's interest. They're not worth it if they only like you for your skin tone.

lacinovav · Answer

no, pale is considered to be very attractive, in fact. it makes you special. just be proud of yourself. in any case, you can use self tan lotion. but i wouldn't go for it actually

Dale1982 · Answer

There's nothing wrong with it. Never has been never will be. You can look sickly with any colour of skin. It's the dark under your eyes and the grey skin you get no matter who you are makes you look like that

andrewcarey7 · Answer

Being pale is considered unattractive because to most people it makes them look sickly. I like paleness to a certain degree but sometimes it's too much. I'm actually quite pale myself so shouldn't be complaining tbh.

helterskeltermac · Answer

Pale skin is beautiful, like any other skin if you take care of it then you have nothing to worry about.❤️

Pepperbox23 · Answer

I'M PALE TOO!! :D Lol I havre these same worries, but then again, why tan? Don't worry, you're beautiful the way you are :)

Fancygoldfish · Answer

It's not. There are LOTS of men who like women without a tan.

CollieWinters · Answer

I prefer pale skin to tanned skin any day. But that might just be me.

byusuri · Answer

As with all other facets to attractiveness, it's in the eye of the beholder. So, yeah of course you stand a chance. I definitely prefer darker skin. But, I find plenty of pale skinned ladies attractive.

sa230e · Answer

That's news to me. I never had any objections to pale girls.

Chanel1981 · Answer

Nothing wrong with being pale, it will slow the aging process too :)

BrittBratt2416 · Answer

A lot women feel the same way about being dark skinned.

QueenofCups · Answer

I have very fair skin and I consider myself reasonably attractive.

normalice · Answer

I mean, you don't look unattractive to me.  Everyone is the same color with the lights off.

mae_kookie · Answer

in Asia if your pale your beautiful. it depends where you live.

momo770 · Answer

I think it's attractive, everybody has different tastes.

Prof_Don · Answer

Pale is not unattractive at all! Plenty of fair-skinned beauties out there!

Anonymous · Answer

It's not unattractive. Many people consider it beautiful

Benk111 · Answer

Thats not necessarily true but it couldn't hurt for pale women to use a little make up here and there.

Bigdaddyslim01 · Answer

I never understood why people think Pale is unattractive or a bad thing, I find it totally normal and it even looks hot on some people

TheGrandBehr · Answer

Tanned skin is only good when there is untanned skin to compare it to. Its that contrast that's attractive. Pale skin is my preferred.

KaydenChrist · Answer

ew no. I want a girl that can tan. I dont want my kids inheriting bad skin

OlderGuy965 · Answer

I don't think pale is unattractive at all! In fact it's great in my opinion.

Smegskull · Answer

evolutionarily you go pale when you are sick so it is a sign of a weak immune system.

cringelord · Answer

being pale isn't unattractive I bet you're beautiful

Anonymous · Answer

Nope. I'm white like a sheet of paper and guys think my skin is a pretty color

Anonymous · Answer

... and is that what women mean when they say they want a guy who's tall DARK and handsome?

RolandCuthbert · Answer

You are kidding. . . right?

BoostedST · Answer

I like it, quite a bit actually

kreesta · Answer

Pale isn't ugly love. Embrace yourself

OreoMilkshake · Answer

I don't think it's unattractive

COCOCHANEL · Answer

pale is pretty !

MaiaLikesAnime · Answer

Go to Asia and everyone will fawn over you

Anonymous · Answer

pale isn't unattractive, you are

Aleksandra2330 · Answer

no i find pale women to be prettier

Ironic_Pepe · Answer

Haven't you heard! White is Right! :)

DogEatsCat1973 · Answer

I prefer snow white actually gets me going!

Yayeet · Answer

It isn't. Being pale is actually hot

Popo21 · Answer

Pale is more beautiful

TonyRyanAgain · Answer

I don't find you unattractive at all.

MeatPuppet · Answer

No idea. I personally prefer pale skin.

tyronnn12 · Answer

i find pale very attractive!

Glen68 · Answer

having pale skin is sexy and a lot of guys love it

Turkishfromlille · Answer

White face is attractive

Anonymous · Answer

It s considered attractive in some countries

Revolver_Ocelot · Answer

it isn't

Nahid1234 · Answer

Interesting

logan127 · Answer

bro pale girls rule

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