Is pale skin unattractive to you?

Question

I'm self conscious about my skin color. I am pretty pale, and I don't tan that easily. What makes it worse is that I have dark brown hair, I'm the literal complete opposite of the beauty standard here in Sweden. No guys are interested in me, and I think it's mostly because of my hair color and skin tone.

I look like a nerd they present in movies. Pale skin, dark brown hair, brown eyes, glasses and a few pimples. (They aren't really visible though)

Guys in Sweden are very picky, and their type is tan skin, blue eyes and blonde hair. I've noticed that Asian people think I look good, but it's because where they are from pale skin is the beauty standard.

There's so many blue eyed, tanned skin, blonde hair girls here. I see them everywhere I look, it's impossible for me to compete with them. They get all the guys.

So, is pale skin unattractive to you?@

Sixgunsound · Accepted Answer

I don’t see why skin tone or color is that big of a deal. If it is where you are though, what do you bring to the table that the valkyries and shield maidens don’t? Do you have a better personality? Skills that would be useful running a house? Are you good with children, or a good cook? Do you have a good work ethic? I’m trying to help you differentiate yourself from the group of women who only have temporary looks to offer, as they aren’t going to look the same in their 50’s as they do in their 20’s. Men (generally) realize this, and when looking for a life partner instead of a temporary bed partner they tend to ask a lot more questions. Let them get used up and bitter from getting all the wrong kind of attention from boys, you will be ready for them to come looking for you later when they grow up into men. I understand it’s not what you want to hear, but I’ll leave you by with a question: would you rather be a boy’s first date or wait a little and give yourself time to grow into a Roman who will be a man’s last date?

Bailey0506 · Accepted Answer

My girlfriend is Italian and really struggles to get a tan, she's probably one of, if not the, palest person in Italy. She's understandably self-conscious about that because she's surrounded by girls who are super tanned. However, I've always found pale skin and dark hair (both of which she has, quite similar to you it sounds) easily the most aesthetically pleasing look.

Never think for one moment that you won't get a guy, because there are hundreds of thousands out there who would kill for the chance to go on a date with you. You are beautiful exactly the way you are.

Screenwriter · Accepted Answer

IT's what you've got. If you're tanning your skin and you're naturally pale, you're opening yourself up for skin cancer and premature aging. Tanning should only be done to LEATHER. And of course you won't see the damage you've done for 20 years.

Take it from dermatologists. If you're naturally pale, protect your skin, no matter what the "fashion" is. Wear 30 and greater sunscreens. Someone will appreciate you for your personality, not skin color. It's so insignificant, as to be ridiculous. Stop worrying. Those folks are shallow and in 20 years, they'll look like alligators!

TrueConfection · Accepted Answer

I'm pale too. I tried dark hair once and my friends kept asking me why I was wearing white makeup (I wasn't wearing any makeup). My husband has always poked fun at my pale skin too and he adores darker skin.

Guess what! 21 years later and he has aged while I still look young. People mistake us now for sugar daddy/young mistress or even father/daughter (twice). He even went as far as coloring his hair once.

Muahahaha! I WIN! You will too!

MrOracle · Answer

Aside from natural redheads, my next favorite is pale girls with dark hair. But I also never understood why people think tan skin is so attractive. It never made any difference to me. I'm fine if a girl has a natural tan because she's outside a lot - for work or sport or whatever - but otherwise her natural skin shade - from milky white to ebony black or anything in between - is fine with me.

Anonymous · Answer

Most people on here are likely not in Scandinavia; but as a blonde and blue eyed guy myself, we're naturally pale. Only those who tan themselves appear bronzed, but I've never seen that as fashionable.

If you're the person pictured you look great. For a start, you're under 18; that's already a reason guys your age might not be into you yet. Secondly, what are you doing to actively entice guys? Are you starting convos with them? Are you looking at them? Most guys don't just approach women without you showing some interest too.

Good luck, and be careful.

Lliam · Answer

Any natural skin color can be lovely. But I do have a weakness for pale skin on women. It looks delicate and pristine.

Sometimes a light, coppery sun tan can look healthy. But it's not necessary.
Sprayed on orange tans are ridiculous.
I don't care for dark sun tans. It looks leathery. And it's a fact that sun damages the skin and leads to early aging, as well as potential skin cancer.

So, I think you should be proud of your skin color. It's a treasure.

Apulu_Imback · Answer

In my country's beauty standards, as much fair you are that much better! Pale is best! And I'm tan. Yes it happens. I have been told I match American Beauty standards due to my skin color and facial features but I don't match the beauty standards of my country. However I still love myself nonetheless and love how I look. You have an ideal look for Asian beauty standards since you are pale.

SaartjieJane · Answer

Nope.
Being someone with fair/pale akin, most my teen years I got told I needed to tan… imaging going to a black personality and telling them they need to go lighter. It’s incredibly rude in my opinion and I have no problem giving someone the finger if they say that to me.
I don’t think pale skin is unattractive and I would date someone who is pale. Some people legit cannot tan. Imagine not dating a wonderful person all because they aren’t tan or can’t tan or don’t want to tan😂

TransAm85 · Answer

This makes no sense. I am partially Swedish and that is why when I tan, I turn red like a shrimp! I have to wait til it sinks in or the skin peels. My grandfather was Swedish and he tanned like a shrimp too. I have the blonde hair and blue eyes also. I am not ashamed of it tho. I am around mostly my Mexican husband's family/friends and they are tan/black hair.. they call me "camaron" when I get sunburnt! Spanish for shrimp lol

Guccigabbana18 · Answer

I personally believe that some people just look better when they are tanned, while others look better when they are pale. So it depends on the person, but in general pale skin can be just as attractive.

Eg. Lily Collins and Emma Watson look way better pale. So does Megan Fox in my opinion.

But Jessica Alba looks better with a tan. So does Cameron Diaz.

It depends.

menina · Answer

There's nothing wrong with your skin tone. If a guy rejects you solely based on your skin tone then he's a jerk. So it's his loss not yours.
You're perfect the way you are, don't let anybody else tell you otherwise. :)

Twalli · Answer

I have found extremely pale girls attractive. There were two sisters. In my highschool that could only be palee if they were translucent. They were literally white, not caucasian, white. Both were fairly attractive with long brown hair. At the same time, tsn girls can also be attractive

DarkCarousel · Answer

Yes— if that’s someone’s natural skin tone. My older sister used to use the tanning bed so much when she was younger. It hurts me to think about how much damage she could have done to her skin just to appear tan. It’s not worth it.

DryGermanGuy · Answer

Guys preferring tanned skin in Scandinavia... yeah, sounds about right! :-D Fools... Just rock your natural colors and do not destroy your dark hair with bleaching. If you really are in need for more male attention, try to invest in a good wardrobe.

TheUniqueOne96 · Answer

No. Different skin tones suit different people and my ideal woman would have pale skin along with black hair and other darker features like eye colour, as I like the contrast.

Anonymous · Answer

I've never understood the "tanned" culture. I've always found pale women more attractive (maybe i just got too much Irish heritage in me lol). And as I've gotten older now I just look at it even more sensibly. OK so you want to tan and exponentially increase your odds of skin cancer? So your goal is to look like a piece of leather by the time you're 40? I wouldn't want to date someone who puts their vanity over their health.

Blackcosmo · Answer

I've seen such beautiful pale skin so no it's not attractive. It's beautiful!

AviatorTom · Answer

A person's skin color is what it is. There are many more important things about a person than skin color... personality, intelligence, political beliefs to name a few.

Sonorous · Answer

I like to judge these things in a case by case basis. Some people look better with it than others so I can't give a general answer.

slatyb · Answer

i find pale skin attractive. But whatever your shin tone, don’t tan. That’s not attractive. It leads to premature aging.

LeeannaDD · Answer

Just a preference though it doesn't look good on everyone. I think i look better that way so i tan but not overboard

bolverk · Answer

I come from the North of England where being pale is the norm, we are more likely to suffer wind burn than sun burn/tanning, though we are not as bad as the central belt where their natural skin tone as a pale blue, (see Billy Connolly).

Bratsondanielle · Answer

Lol come live with me on my off grid homestead a few months I guarantee you'll get tan

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