Honest question: why are women so obsessed with shoes?

As a guy, it makes no sense to me why anyone would feel even the desire to buy more pairs of shoes than what they actually need. I've seen people, mostly women, who own qwerty easily over $1,000 worth of shoes. It makes to sense to me to spend so much money or to have so many pairs of something that is simply meant to be worn on your feet to protect them while you walk. Can any of the ladies please explain this mindset to me?

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  • I think it's more of a stereotypical ideology pushed by the media. There are some women who fall prey to it acting on this expectation. I don't have that many pairs, and yes I do like shoes but women having more pairs than men is because we need more shoes than men do.

    We have plenty dress codes to live by, different fashions for each seasons, sneakers and heels won't cover it all. When I was a teen I had plenty shoes because I was experimenting with looks, not all girls are like that so not all will collect pairs.

    Over all I don't think I have a shoes obsession, but a need for shoes when I dress up, nowadays I dress like a soccer mom, so I am always casual with little need for anything besides flats.

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  • Many women (and men) thinks shoes are important like how they thinks rest of the outfit is important. It's about aesthetic. People who finds aesthetic important finds both shoes, pants, shirt/t-shirt/sweater etc. important and wants the whole outfit to match to make it look good. If something don't match regardless if it's shoes or something else it's easy to notice and don't look good. People wants to look good.

    A theory says women are often more interested in aesthetic which explains why fashion, interior etc. is important for many of them simply because they were gathers in the past while men were hunters. Colors and how things looked like mattered to be able to distinguish the food and to know which one were eatable. Therefor it's more common for women to be interested in both colors, things matching, things looking right and shopping than men. The theory says men wants to just do their business quick and then go home coming from that time when men hunted an animal and were finished after that.

    Here the shoes is matching the outfit (In my opinion):
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    This picture shows why shoes is a big deal:
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    • Valid point, but it still doesn't explain the desire to have an overly extensive/expensive collection that most of which will not even be used.

    • Being able to afford expensive stuffs is a sign of wealth and people through history have been interested in both status, wealth and being looked up to. It's applying to both genders. Often things of high quality and which are nice looking are expensive too. Some buys things they think they would use, but the outfits they've at home don't fit and therefor they choose to not use it.

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  • I love buying shoes but I love buying clothes in general. For me it's about putting an outfit. It's fun, it's creative and it makes me feel pretty. I know that I don't need all my shoes, 4 or 5 pairs would probably be enough but I don't care. If owning clothes and shoes makes me happy why should I not do it then?

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    • Valid point, but why not just buy one or two pairs that each can go with a majority of what you wear?

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    • That I can understand, but as a man, I personally cannot justify owning more pairs of shoes than what I actually need to have.

    • Nobody needs to justify the amount of clothes they own. If you're happy with two pairs, that's fine.

  • Sometimes I feel as though it's a bit over emphasized but sometimes I feel as though girls have way more choices than guys. Just an observation. Guys have clothes, shoes, hats, and some accessories but girls seem to just have it all! What guys have AND some on top of that. Buying woman stuff can be complicated xD

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  • You don't understand! I need every combination of flats/stilettos/blocks/wedges, sandals/pumps/boots, closed-toe/peeptoe, ankle/knee/thighhigh, in as many colours as possible, OK? It's crucial that on any given day I can pick the exact footwear necessary to go with the rest of the outfit.

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    • But why not just buy one pair that goes with a majority, if not everything? It would save money and storage space, would it not?

  • I think it's a stereotype, like all guys love video games. I really don't get the interest in shoes either. I wear the same trainers (as long as they still look tidy) for years! Trainers are so comfy.

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  • Shoes and purses. You need a variation depending on season occasion and area. I prob have easily 50 or 60 pair. Of which I wear 20 or so across the year. Same with purses.

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    • But why do you still have so many if you don't use them all? Isn't it a little pointless, and kind of a waste of money to buy these things if you don't use them? That would be like me buying an arc welder and not ever using it, but still keeping it, even though I get no use out of it.

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    • So I guess it has to do with women feeling the need to stay up to date with the ever changing and often ridiculous fashion trends?

    • Maybe part of it. But for me I just like shoes. Guys like shit I don't understand. I don't need to understand I need only know it is. Same here. You don't need to understand it. You need only know a lot of women like this stuff.

  • I actually also know many guys who are obsessed with shoes. I don't know what it is, I'm not that into shoes.

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    • Honestly, it makes no sense to me. I'll admit, I have multiple pairs of shoes myself, but they were by no means expensive, and they all serve a purpose and receive heavy usage regularly.

  • I wear no makeup, I don't workout, I wear sweatpants, I wear dreadlocks, and I barely buy shoes. I don't have much stuff. Maybe that's a good thing because if I move out then I won't have much stuff to take with me

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    • your future husband will be so lucky because he won't spend money too much for her woman:))

  • I used to think like you until I bought several flip flops and shoes. It breaks down easily. So, I was glad I had an extra pair of shoes. :D
    Also, when a friend needs shoes I got her back. :)

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    • Don't get me wrong, I myself have multiple pairs, but I do not spend exorbitant amounts of money on them, and each pair that I have serve a purpose and get more than their fair share of uses during their life spans.

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    • I had an ex who is obsessed with shoes to the point where she and her two sisters had over 100 pairs between them, and it completely boggled my mind as to why they felt the need or desire to have so many. I have the same reaction when I see grown men spends hundreds on a pair of sneakers to add to their already over stocked collection. When I buy a pair of shoes, I get them relatively cheap and I get years worth of use out of them before I even feel the slightest need to replace them. I have a pair of chucks that I've been wearing for years that have almost no rubber left on the soles and the heels are worn and torn, but I still don't feel the need nor desire to replace them.

    • yeah thrifty :) last a long time.

  • Because men like women in heels. I’ve had guy friends that a girl should wear heels cuz it makes her legs look sexy. Men also judge girls for not wearing heels.

    I’m a sneakers/flats girl.

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    • I think wearing heels is better for ants or other bugs because even if your feet accidently come over them, they can stay between heel and shoe toe and survive lol

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    • Damn it, you stupid flat girl, you've already stepped on most of my friends with your giant sneakers.:( i'll bite your foot

  • Well they're apart of every outfit so you can't have too many of them, and some can look really cute. Just bigger accessories

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  • i only own like 2 pairs of run down sneakers that I've had for the past 4 years so idfk what ur on about bUDDY

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  • I'm not obssessed. They have the same functionality as my other clothes, protect my body, and I style them all so they're perfect.

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  • Think of it as a guy for example who's obsessed with cars or a knife collection. Different looks, paint jobs, blades, brands, uses. Same with shoes.

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  • It is the same with guys who spend a ton of money on Jordan, Lebron, etc shoes.

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    • I'm not saying that it's not, but a majority of men don't do it.

    • I don't like to spend tons of money on shoes. i usually go for visually appealing no brand shoes and are comfy to wear.

    • With all due respect, I have noticed that this trend in particular is more common place among younger adults. Perhaps it is because they do not have the maturity to weigh the option of need over desire?

  • I wouldn't say I'm obsessed but I do have a lot of them.

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  • There fun!!! Such variety

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  • I'm not obsessed with shoes, I prefer sneakers.

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  • I'm not... i like bags and purses 😊

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  • I'm not and I don't understand it either 😂.

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  • because we are Brats and like looking good ;]

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  • Female materialism is a sign of status to other women. Much like the olden days of England what with their fair skin, elaborate hairstyles, and clothing it shows to the world "I DON'T WORK." In modern times it takes the form of high heels, long nails, expensive handbags, vehicle choices (cute tiny cars vs utility vehicles, or in some cases utility vehicles WITH NOTHING IN THEM), all of these things fly in the face of hard work and manual labor. Its a two pronged belief based in one "I don't have to work hard because A. A man works for me or B. A Man HAS worked for me. *I. e. the Kardashians. Enter the modern era where these sorts of displays of status are deemed tacky. Because of advances in technology and the wealth of the west in general women can now afford to buy their own useless nonsense with their own money.

    Two, its a western overconfidence in 'the system will always work." You see this in the form of women wearing skimpy outfits on a chilly day, its as if they KNOW the heat will be on full blast wherever they are going, they won't get stranded, or run out of gas, and if they do 'someone will come to my rescue!' Women who don't know how to change a tire "pfff there will ALWAYS be someone around who does know."

    I guess there's also the butt lifting thing... because squats and lunges require work!

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  • My wife has something like 15 pairs of shoes, boots, whatever, although most of these pairs just sit around in her closet. She likes to wear certain shoes for certain outfits. I used to work with a woman who was real anal-retentive, and felt that somebody should only have 3 pairs of shoes. One pair for work, one pair for going out and about, and one pair for around the house. When she got married, she threw out all her husband's shoes, except three pairs.

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  • Every good outfit starts with the shoes, period.

    Look at the difference in dressing up a pair of jeans with boots vs dressing them down with white sneakers.

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  • I'm obsessed with women's shoes -- not to wear, but to see women wearing them. My wife has many pairs, mostly designer labels bought at resale shops. She always looks great. I love it.

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  • Shoes specially for women are no longer merely things to protect feet. This was the case in ancient times. Now for men and women it has become a part of fashion. And people do like to spend money on fashionable stuff.

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  • man i honestly wonder the same thing too. Great question

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  • I like shoes and have about 12 pairs. Every outfit starts with the shoes. My one mistake I made is that I have about 4 pairs of chelsea boots all different colours or materials though.

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  • As a man I do understand they look sexy, its part of style. Why do they buy clothes, too look sexy. Same. I love a girl with shoe game.

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  • There are plenty of men who really like shoes.
    I'm pretty interested in nice looking shoes.

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  • It's a way of showing status to other women. They are not buying because of what men think!!

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  • The ones who do I think have ugly feet. Lol

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