What do you think of girls who dress femininely and modestly?

Question

I love the feminine and modest style, but my friend said I won’t be able to get a boyfriend if I do, because I’ll look like a prude. What do you think? :)

imthatsteve · Accepted Answer

Im actually more attracted to girls like this. You will look very sweet and beautiful. But im not sure id approach a girl like this, well i dont approach any girls so maybe im nit the person to ask.

But i would think that your probably taken for one since i rarely meet single girls but even if you were single i would expect you to have much higher standards and i wouldn't expect to make the cut.

I do really love it when girls wear beautiful dresses and outfits. I wish i could compliment girls when i see really cute outfits without sounding gay. I try to give out a lot of compliments but i try to be specific and kind of generic, but genuine and just stick to things like eyes, hair, tattoos etc.
To give a confidence boost and maybe show a bit of interest without making her uncomfortable/objectified or coming accross as gay since i seem to have that problem just in case a girl might like me but think im not interested.

Being modest is fine and lots of guys will be very attracted to that but if you like a guy and he doesn't seem interested then you should try approaching him first and showing a bit of interest and if they are like me they may just think your being kind/polite so you might actually have to spell it out by asking if they are single and even asking they are attracted to you just to be sure especially if you want a nice guy in the true meaning not "nice guy" like the virgin incel type.

DWornock · Accepted Answer

I suppose when a girl goes to a wild party with lots of drinking, if a guy is seeking a quick lay or even a longer one-night stand, a girl that dresses skimpy and provocative will be more likely to attract the guy's attention. However, if a guy is seeking a longer-term relationship, he is far more attracted by a girl's basic looks then the clothes she is wearing.

Of course, if you are on a date, most likely the guy would love to get into your pants and if he believes implying or telling you that your a prude will get him what he wants, then he will use that method. It is highly unlikely to be true for anything other than a quick lay, but if he thinks it will get the results he wants, a guy will say, "I would rather a girl have experience."

What you should realize but very few girls do, is that guys date down for sex, but they almost never marry down. Therefore, if you are attracted to the hottest guys that you can date and reject the less attractive guys that want to marry you if you don't put out, he is not going to hang around, And, if you do put out, he is not going to marry you. Of course, if you don't put out, he is not going to marry you either, because, the fact is, if he is the hottest guy you can date, since he can do better, for him, you are not marriage material.

SpiderManFan2002 · Accepted Answer

Don't listen to your friend, dress how you want to dress. There's millions of guys out there, one is bound to like it. Will they all? No, because everyone has different tastes and you can't please everyone but some will like it. And anyway he should like you for more than just how you dress.

And as for what I think about girls who dress femininely and modestly? I'm indifferent. I mean I like to dress modestly too, femininely meh I don't really see what I wear as "feminine" and I certainly don't wear outfits like in the pictures, but if a girl wants to dress that way, I don't see why she shouldn't.

Sweetener_ · Accepted Answer

Please get rid of that your "friend" her insecurity is showing. There's nothing wrong with dressing modestly and feminine, in fact it's something you should embrace. Modest way of dressing makes men respect you more! Trust me on this one. Dressing immodestly and slutty will only make men look at you as a sexual object or someone they can hit and dump. Don't be that girl. Know your worth and then add tax.

Anonymous · Answer

I think that depends on if you have access to guys that like that, and if you're still feminine and fashionable when you wear whatever you wear.

I personally don't mind it. If it was looking at dating a woman who was dressed like the photos above or a woman dressed "on the opposite end of the spectrum" - I'd probably think a woman who was dressed MIGHT have a greater chance of being someone I'd want to have a more serious relationship with - or I'd assume, perhaps incorrectly, that we might just have more things in common, at least.

But I admit, I'm not probably like most guys in that sense.

I dig modesty, up to a point, though again, my deciding to ask a woman out depends on so many other things - personality, interests, family life, etc.

It'll be harder to find a guy, probably, but that may not always be a bad thing. Like if you're really into science fiction, or you aren't a big drinker will "limit" the "dating pool" - and in some areas, it may knock you out of the running unless you do online dating or something... but again, that might be ok, if you're a little more discerning about the potential boyfriends you want.

yrdady · Answer

Wow another example of girls giving other girls bad advice, either from ignorance or maliciousness. I'll assume the former. No, shit girl this is my preferred way of a girl dressing and it screams girlfriend material. Wifey material. It screams that, to me at least. Rather than some shit yoga pants or whatever. Maybe it's the female equivalent of a man using rough language, saying fuck and shit n shit all the time. Good lord if the reason so many women are unattractive due to reasons they can control is because they're taking bad advice from others, I think what a shame, what a waste.

DaddyRollingStone · Answer

You're more likely to get a boyfriend dressing like that than dressing like a slut. I know its uncool for men to say this about women but THE WAY YOU DRESS MATTERS, people notice and treat you differently.

You can't control someone's judgment about you but you can influence it by changing things you do control. The way you look is one of the only things you have control over, minus sex, age, height, race etc. Your clothes are an outward display of your personality. People who are a mess usually dress like it and vice versa.

Shamalien · Answer

I think that all the good nice girls need to STOP LISTENING to their friends who try to undermine them through this kind of rhetoric. "Oh if you don't look like you'll put out right away guys won't be interested" You tell her to have fun with the assholes she attracts into her life, meanwhile the modest girl is going to have an amazing life with a loving guy who was drawn to her by something other than her cleavage. All the horndog idiots will have fun with their whores (your friend) and you can ascend beyond all of that.

Dress modestly, be respected, that's how it works.

Weasly · Answer

Depends what you are looking for. Dressing like that will attract more men with higher degree of education, and you will typically get less of the "lads" hitting on you I would expect.

Instead if dressing in a sexy way, it is a lot more elegant and presents you as a different character than I would assume your friend has.

If you dress how you feel you want to, act how you feel you should you will meet someone that likes you for you, instead of liking what your friend thinks you should be.

BeachBabe96 · Answer

1. Your friend doesn't seem very supportive at all of your choice, which is very upsetting to hear. Especially because it seems like you really like this style. And 2. It all should depend on your comfort and confidence to rock whatever you wear. The right man will like your aesthetic but love you regardless of your appearance in the end. So do what makes you happy and the right one will gind their way to you!

Cherokeehp · Answer

I think it’s really pretty. I also think it’s really cool when women are confident enough to wear really revealing clothes. And I think it’s really cool when women wear more masculine clothes. As long as the outfit fits a persons body well and it matches well then I think it looks good. I myself wear a variety of styles of clothing. Some days I wear frilly dresses, and some days I wear my boyfriends sweatpants. Wear whatever you want.

Alwayreckles93 · Answer

I love all the outfits you shared. Don't listen to your friend she is jealous and a douche. You dressed however you want. Trust me your friend does not know what she is talking about. Guys preferred to date a girl that's the real her not a fake or pretends acting someone she is not.

ChaleGeorgeThis · Answer

I love the feminine and modest style too. It's not about putting on outfits which shows your tits that will get you a partner. Actually there are different type of guys and what they like. But it's cool to be unique. Imagine you left your toffee with any wrapper, what will happen? Ants will surround it but when you cover it, only special ants with good eyes will come close to it.
Be Unique!

HartleyB · Answer

I don't judge a person on how they look or dress, that is just a silly way to live in my opinion, it's like stuffed toys as a kid, you can have the most old raggedy toy that is ripped and smelly to everyone else but it is still your favorite because it has meaning to you. Dress how you want, and if people judge you based on that, then they probably weren't worth having around to begin with

marvelcomicgirl · Answer

She is wrong, dress how you want! A guy should like u for you not for what you’re wearing. I love absolutely everything that you posted but sometimes I want to show some skin as well. Sometimes I want to wear a conservative dress but then sometimes I want to show cleavage. If a man or boy doesn’t like you because of what you’re wearing he clearly isn’t the one for you. I’m sure you’re beautiful and have a wonderful personality. You don’t need to change yourself to make a guy like you. Wearing what you want and what makes you feel confident is what makes you attractive, not the skin you show. Don’t stress the person who deserves you will come.

AllieOops · Answer

What she means is you won't find a decent and wholesome boyfriend that would like you no matter what you wore. Maybe your friend is less picky and tries to attract the fuck boys who are not relationship material but only out for sex. I love your top pic. I would wear that myself.

RydiaMagnifique · Answer

I dress modestly because I get harassed when I dress the way I like. There's nothing wrong with modesty, but when people impose it on you, and call you a slut for showing too much skin on a 90F day, well, they're retarded. "If you don't dress modestly, then I'm going to tell you you have no self respect, and then call you a slut in the same sentence, then lecture you even more about self respect when I have no desire be respectful to you. Oh look how consistent I am."

jgokgotit · Answer

Believe it or not, there are men out there who like and respect the kind of choice you are making. They are usually better quality men than the fuckboys who want you to dress revealingly, sleep with you then leave. Your friend is both right and wrong. She is right because most boys your age only see a woman's appearance. She is wrong because a boyfriend worth having values much more than just your body.

ShortCircuit · Answer

I like the feminine style/aesthetic. Modesty is also important, but you and I seem to have slightly different ideas of modesty. For instance, I would still consider wearing a skirt just above the knee modest. Wearing dresses that go down to your ankles is fine, but not necessary to be modest, in my view.

TJFreshman22 · Answer

It kind of reminds me of someone who was raised and has been taught how to dress by their grandma. I would also think if you aren't interested in showing off a lot of skin, you likely aren't much interested in "social pea cocking" for the attention of the other gender and aren't interested in boys at all. Usually showing off (applies for both guys and girls) is by far the most effective way to secure a mate by indicating you are interested in attracting the opposite gender. Hope that helps!

ineedatan · Answer

Modestly is a lovely trait as it shows that you have nothing to prove nor care to boast about your body. However these styles, aside from the 4th and last aren't my favorite. Exames of modesty dressed and beautiful women to me are - Emma Watson, Emma Stone, Alexa Chung, Zooey Deschanel ❤👌

Metlahaed · Answer

Your friend is immature and has no clue what she’s talking about... probably very insecure and too caught up in what she should be for someone else instead of for herself.

If her actual thinking is like that I think it’s pretty low of her and kind of pathetic and gross 🤭 no offence.

sheikalana · Answer

I love to dress modestly too and no you need to show too much skin or dress like a hooker to get a boyfriend for god's sake. In my opinion less is more and those outfits that you post are so classy and elegant any men would want to date any of those women.

jasontheasian · Answer

Your friends stupid. Everyone has different likes and dislikes and dressing up for the sake of getting peoples attention is stupid. Dress how you wanna dress, walk how you wanna walk, talk how you wanna talk, etc. If your being yourself, there'll be a bigger chance of you finding someone whos ACTUALLY into you

loveslongnails · Answer

Don't listen to your friend, she's steering you wrong. Be YOU. Dress for YOURSELF, not anyone else. Your personality and overall good looks will get you a boyfriend WORTH having in the long run. That said, don't dress like a nun either. Modest can still be attractive and alluring.

I'd take out any of those girls based on those outfits, no question.

SaraSmithishere · Answer

I actually dress similarly. The one thing you have to be careful of is that men seem to falsely think that I'm a pushover, that I'm a domestic goddess, or that I just want to massage a man's feet and make him a sandwich. People LOVE putting others into boxes, so just be aware that you might be branded as slighter old fashioned.

thatonegirl00 · Answer

As a woman, you should never dress for a man. We do it for the girls and the gays. Wear what YOU like, regardless of what a man might think of it. If he doesn’t like your style, he’s not worth your time. Your confidence and appearance should never be decided by someone else’s opinion and that’s on confidence and independence😌💅be yourself and the right one will come along

DocT1977 · Answer

Women who dress modestly have my full respect, and it is a turn on. I was never interested in women who exposed as much skin as humanly possible to give every guy they walk past an erection. That does send a message and not a very good one. I suppose the way a lot of women dress these days is a tell all about what they are looking for..

Anonymous · Answer

Not gonna lie. I'll probably be one of those men who'd thing you're a prude if I see you dressed like this. The thing is that really doesn't matter at the end. What matters is your capacity to socialise with men and identify those who are compatible with who you are.

Aakash_Hangargi · Answer

I like when girls wear like skirts like playing with it side to side its something beautiful, it stupid to think dressing style could get you a boyfriend they can make them attracted towards you but you make them stay with you, your personality and persons kindness and compassion love and femininity true character

Grond21 · Answer

It's extremely attractive! Your friend has bought into the live that women need to be sexual to be attractive. But that's a brand new idea that's only a few decades old. for hundreds of thousands of years women have attracted men by being feminine. It's tried and true, so stick with it

TheAfrikan · Answer

❕🎀 Nothing wrong with that kind of dressing. It shows modesty and Elegance.
And if you are to dress like that as your theme style. High chance are you will attract a guy of a higher class. And a guy who is to respect.
Since they say the kind of dressing style you show case. It means a lot about you.
So once you are to dress in skimpy dresses and skirts then do not be offended if you get dick heads and paverts, With no respect.

Girlpower1010 · Answer

Dress for yourself no one else. The right man will come along who either prefers this type of fashion /and or one who simply doesn't care and seeks you out for who you are rather than something shallow.

martinxdenver · Answer

I hope that's the deal I'm getting; A feminine girl who's modest. And not a wolf in sheeps clothing. But I'm not really into the whole dress sexy stuff... I feel there is a time and place for that. Also a girl like that it's possible she just doesn't have clothes that are sexy but if she wears clothes like that cause she likes to be covered it shows she's not so concerned with attention seeking. If she cute, I'd definitely approach.

ThisAndThat · Answer

She doesn't have to dress in a dress to look feminine, she can dress modestly or in even in a bikini and look feminine. But she can't have masculine mussels tattoos and wear her hair butch and expect to look feminine. That will never work, all of which deface oppose and destroy femininity directly.

Anonymous · Answer

Dress how you want and don't let peer pressure get to you. A modest woman is a million times more attractive than any of the alternatives. I look away from cleavage, if it's not there, no distractions from her face. However your friend is partly right, people that value modesty also value virginity.

I_make_me_anxious · Answer

Who cares what others think? If you like the style then do it! Why dress differently just to attract a boy? Eventually. A boy who likes you and the clothes you wear will come along. Don’t change yourself just for a boy, trust me it’s not worth it

G3tAClue · Answer

I love that style! Dress how you want and one day you will find someone who appreciates it because it’s who you are.  You may not attract every guy but it might weed out the ones who just want sex.

Keyboardkat · Answer

I love it! It shows a girl respects herself without regard to what "everybody else" may be doing! I was always attracted to that! And if a girl like that was willing to be intimate with me, even a little, it really meant something to me!

silvermoon84 · Answer

I dress feminine and modest. It’s not true and your friend is wrong. Dressing modestly doesn’t mean you won’t get a boyfriend. If a guy doesn’t want you because of that he’s not somebody you want to be with anyway

Pyrofox · Answer

Looks nice but it does kinda give a feeling like you maybe had helicopter parents growing up. And kind of just adapted just what your parents wanted. I guess lack of personal expression and a bit dated. But thats my geuine honest feelings.

slatyb · Answer

You can dress modestly and still be appealing. And you won't look like a prude unless you act like one. If you are open to conversation you'll get attention.

Elliegirl · Answer

Dress how you like and be confident in your own style. The kinda of guys you want to attract will be more drawn to your confidence and femininity than how short your skirt or low cut your top is.

Adam1978 · Answer

Half of those are good the other is meh, either way nothing wrong with that style, getting a boyfriend has more to do with how you look and how you act not so much how you dress.

Ellie-V · Answer

I don’t find anything particularly feminine or “modest” about those clothes. But they are very cute. Who the fuck cares about what people think? Don’t let it be you.

michelle3685 · Answer

What's wrong with a woman dressing femininely? I wear dresses and skirts almost every day. If that's what makes you feel more feminine and confident, then go for it.

BCA6010 · Answer

Your friend is an idiot, the style is fine unless your goal is to attract the attention of the wild and out of control types (guessing that's not your intention).

Browneye57 · Answer

That they simply do that. Guys don't read a lot into everything like girls try to.  How much under 18?

StephenCF · Answer

They’re real women who embrace their femininity in a time when feminism demands women to be compared to men as if their gender is shameful

ZameerAnsari · Answer

I really like feminine girls who dress up modestly. you are fine and you will get a pure honest and loyal guy very soon.

Barbaric · Answer

Ignore your friend. Men are more likely to take you seriously if you dress modestly. You'll turn off players looking for quick sex is all, and that's what you want.

Kreneman · Answer

I disagree with your friend, as long as you know your style and you incorporate that in a Feminine and modest way, to me, you are a beautiful woman with class that stands out more among other women and you get more respect plus approach from men.

vigneshsun5 · Answer

Getting a boyfriend shouldn't be a reason for you to change your dressing style. If a boy is good enough for you, be really wouldn't have a problem with your dressing style. He should like you for what you are. One shouldn't get out of their comfort zone just to impress someone else

MissDawn7961 · Answer

I dress in feminine and modest clothes and I get whistled at and the compliments of 12 year old boys to men in their upper 60s too ! they seem to like the way I dress in modest apparel ! thanks

Sarahr123 · Answer

Well I am one of those girls and I think it is beautiful and girly

Reaperbot666 · Answer

I typically like girls more when they dress in this manner. modest, elegant, and comfortable can still be sexy and flirty.

sejla · Answer

Well you might intrigue some men and you can dispel the myth that more covered women are more prudish by flirting or dancing.

Celtero · Answer

I don't think those look very feminine... to me it moreso resembles walking drapes or something. I prefer showing less skin, but still accentuating curves.

natzz · Answer

dress the way you want. Plus guys like feminine women (if it make you feel better). I like this style too but i spice it up a little

ItsTheNephilim · Answer

Depends on the clothes and the girl herself. Some clothes look good, some don't. In the pictures given above 1,2,3 and 7 look good.

worldscolide · Answer

Girls that let it all hang out to me are nothing more than a pump and dump.. on the other hand the women above are the kind you marry.. if that makes sense.

OlderThanILook · Answer

I think it's boring from a sexual standpoint but that doesn't really matter too much unless you're trying to turn on every guy you meet

Anonymous · Answer

Yeah yeah and all of these guys that are saying “this is a cute, I prefer this... blah blah blah” are the same ones drooling over girls showing cleavage and dressing sexy and revealing lol. They’re so fake.

serious · Answer

What I think? I neither have a very high or low opinion about them. I think they are just fine.

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