I love the feminine and modest style, but my friend said I won’t be able to get a boyfriend if I do, because I’ll look like a prude. What do you think? :)
What do you think of girls who dress femininely and modestly?
Im actually more attracted to girls like this. You will look very sweet and beautiful. But im not sure id approach a girl like this, well i dont approach any girls so maybe im nit the person to ask.
But i would think that your probably taken for one since i rarely meet single girls but even if you were single i would expect you to have much higher standards and i wouldn't expect to make the cut.
I do really love it when girls wear beautiful dresses and outfits. I wish i could compliment girls when i see really cute outfits without sounding gay. I try to give out a lot of compliments but i try to be specific and kind of generic, but genuine and just stick to things like eyes, hair, tattoos etc. To give a confidence boost and maybe show a bit of interest without making her uncomfortable/objectified or coming accross as gay since i seem to have that problem just in case a girl might like me but think im not interested.
Being modest is fine and lots of guys will be very attracted to that but if you like a guy and he doesn't seem interested then you should try approaching him first and showing a bit of interest and if they are like me they may just think your being kind/polite so you might actually have to spell it out by asking if they are single and even asking they are attracted to you just to be sure especially if you want a nice guy in the true meaning not "nice guy" like the virgin incel type.
I suppose when a girl goes to a wild party with lots of drinking, if a guy is seeking a quick lay or even a longer one-night stand, a girl that dresses skimpy and provocative will be more likely to attract the guy's attention. However, if a guy is seeking a longer-term relationship, he is far more attracted by a girl's basic looks then the clothes she is wearing.
Of course, if you are on a date, most likely the guy would love to get into your pants and if he believes implying or telling you that your a prude will get him what he wants, then he will use that method. It is highly unlikely to be true for anything other than a quick lay, but if he thinks it will get the results he wants, a guy will say, "I would rather a girl have experience."
What you should realize but very few girls do, is that guys date down for sex, but they almost never marry down. Therefore, if you are attracted to the hottest guys that you can date and reject the less attractive guys that want to marry you if you don't put out, he is not going to hang around, And, if you do put out, he is not going to marry you. Of course, if you don't put out, he is not going to marry you either, because, the fact is, if he is the hottest guy you can date, since he can do better, for him, you are not marriage material.
Don't listen to your friend, dress how you want to dress. There's millions of guys out there, one is bound to like it. Will they all? No, because everyone has different tastes and you can't please everyone but some will like it. And anyway he should like you for more than just how you dress.
And as for what I think about girls who dress femininely and modestly? I'm indifferent. I mean I like to dress modestly too, femininely meh I don't really see what I wear as "feminine" and I certainly don't wear outfits like in the pictures, but if a girl wants to dress that way, I don't see why she shouldn't.
Please get rid of that your "friend" her insecurity is showing. There's nothing wrong with dressing modestly and feminine, in fact it's something you should embrace. Modest way of dressing makes men respect you more! Trust me on this one. Dressing immodestly and slutty will only make men look at you as a sexual object or someone they can hit and dump. Don't be that girl. Know your worth and then add tax.
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I think that depends on if you have access to guys that like that, and if you're still feminine and fashionable when you wear whatever you wear.
I personally don't mind it. If it was looking at dating a woman who was dressed like the photos above or a woman dressed "on the opposite end of the spectrum" - I'd probably think a woman who was dressed MIGHT have a greater chance of being someone I'd want to have a more serious relationship with - or I'd assume, perhaps incorrectly, that we might just have more things in common, at least.
But I admit, I'm not probably like most guys in that sense.
I dig modesty, up to a point, though again, my deciding to ask a woman out depends on so many other things - personality, interests, family life, etc.
It'll be harder to find a guy, probably, but that may not always be a bad thing. Like if you're really into science fiction, or you aren't a big drinker will "limit" the "dating pool" - and in some areas, it may knock you out of the running unless you do online dating or something... but again, that might be ok, if you're a little more discerning about the potential boyfriends you want.
Wow another example of girls giving other girls bad advice, either from ignorance or maliciousness. I'll assume the former. No, shit girl this is my preferred way of a girl dressing and it screams girlfriend material. Wifey material. It screams that, to me at least. Rather than some shit yoga pants or whatever. Maybe it's the female equivalent of a man using rough language, saying fuck and shit n shit all the time. Good lord if the reason so many women are unattractive due to reasons they can control is because they're taking bad advice from others, I think what a shame, what a waste.
You're more likely to get a boyfriend dressing like that than dressing like a slut. I know its uncool for men to say this about women but THE WAY YOU DRESS MATTERS, people notice and treat you differently.
You can't control someone's judgment about you but you can influence it by changing things you do control. The way you look is one of the only things you have control over, minus sex, age, height, race etc. Your clothes are an outward display of your personality. People who are a mess usually dress like it and vice versa.
Depends what you are looking for. Dressing like that will attract more men with higher degree of education, and you will typically get less of the "lads" hitting on you I would expect.
Instead if dressing in a sexy way, it is a lot more elegant and presents you as a different character than I would assume your friend has.
If you dress how you feel you want to, act how you feel you should you will meet someone that likes you for you, instead of liking what your friend thinks you should be.
I think that all the good nice girls need to STOP LISTENING to their friends who try to undermine them through this kind of rhetoric. "Oh if you don't look like you'll put out right away guys won't be interested" You tell her to have fun with the assholes she attracts into her life, meanwhile the modest girl is going to have an amazing life with a loving guy who was drawn to her by something other than her cleavage. All the horndog idiots will have fun with their whores (your friend) and you can ascend beyond all of that.
Dress modestly, be respected, that's how it works.
1. Your friend doesn't seem very supportive at all of your choice, which is very upsetting to hear. Especially because it seems like you really like this style. And 2. It all should depend on your comfort and confidence to rock whatever you wear. The right man will like your aesthetic but love you regardless of your appearance in the end. So do what makes you happy and the right one will gind their way to you!
I think it’s really pretty. I also think it’s really cool when women are confident enough to wear really revealing clothes. And I think it’s really cool when women wear more masculine clothes. As long as the outfit fits a persons body well and it matches well then I think it looks good. I myself wear a variety of styles of clothing. Some days I wear frilly dresses, and some days I wear my boyfriends sweatpants. Wear whatever you want.
I love all the outfits you shared. Don't listen to your friend she is jealous and a douche. You dressed however you want. Trust me your friend does not know what she is talking about. Guys preferred to date a girl that's the real her not a fake or pretends acting someone she is not.
I love the feminine and modest style too. It's not about putting on outfits which shows your tits that will get you a partner. Actually there are different type of guys and what they like. But it's cool to be unique. Imagine you left your toffee with any wrapper, what will happen? Ants will surround it but when you cover it, only special ants with good eyes will come close to it. Be Unique!
I don't judge a person on how they look or dress, that is just a silly way to live in my opinion, it's like stuffed toys as a kid, you can have the most old raggedy toy that is ripped and smelly to everyone else but it is still your favorite because it has meaning to you. Dress how you want, and if people judge you based on that, then they probably weren't worth having around to begin with
She is wrong, dress how you want! A guy should like u for you not for what you’re wearing. I love absolutely everything that you posted but sometimes I want to show some skin as well. Sometimes I want to wear a conservative dress but then sometimes I want to show cleavage. If a man or boy doesn’t like you because of what you’re wearing he clearly isn’t the one for you. I’m sure you’re beautiful and have a wonderful personality. You don’t need to change yourself to make a guy like you. Wearing what you want and what makes you feel confident is what makes you attractive, not the skin you show. Don’t stress the person who deserves you will come.
What she means is you won't find a decent and wholesome boyfriend that would like you no matter what you wore. Maybe your friend is less picky and tries to attract the fuck boys who are not relationship material but only out for sex. I love your top pic. I would wear that myself.
I dress modestly because I get harassed when I dress the way I like. There's nothing wrong with modesty, but when people impose it on you, and call you a slut for showing too much skin on a 90F day, well, they're retarded. "If you don't dress modestly, then I'm going to tell you you have no self respect, and then call you a slut in the same sentence, then lecture you even more about self respect when I have no desire be respectful to you. Oh look how consistent I am."
Believe it or not, there are men out there who like and respect the kind of choice you are making. They are usually better quality men than the fuckboys who want you to dress revealingly, sleep with you then leave. Your friend is both right and wrong. She is right because most boys your age only see a woman's appearance. She is wrong because a boyfriend worth having values much more than just your body.
I like the feminine style/aesthetic. Modesty is also important, but you and I seem to have slightly different ideas of modesty. For instance, I would still consider wearing a skirt just above the knee modest. Wearing dresses that go down to your ankles is fine, but not necessary to be modest, in my view.
It kind of reminds me of someone who was raised and has been taught how to dress by their grandma. I would also think if you aren't interested in showing off a lot of skin, you likely aren't much interested in "social pea cocking" for the attention of the other gender and aren't interested in boys at all. Usually showing off (applies for both guys and girls) is by far the most effective way to secure a mate by indicating you are interested in attracting the opposite gender. Hope that helps!
Modestly is a lovely trait as it shows that you have nothing to prove nor care to boast about your body. However these styles, aside from the 4th and last aren't my favorite. Exames of modesty dressed and beautiful women to me are - Emma Watson, Emma Stone, Alexa Chung, Zooey Deschanel ❤👌
Your friend is immature and has no clue what she’s talking about... probably very insecure and too caught up in what she should be for someone else instead of for herself.
If her actual thinking is like that I think it’s pretty low of her and kind of pathetic and gross 🤭 no offence.
I love to dress modestly too and no you need to show too much skin or dress like a hooker to get a boyfriend for god's sake. In my opinion less is more and those outfits that you post are so classy and elegant any men would want to date any of those women.
The fact that you believe a woman can ‘dress like a hooker’ shows your internalized misogyny and the fact that you’ve succumbed to the patriarchal sexism and gender roles, try again luv 😌💅
Your friends stupid. Everyone has different likes and dislikes and dressing up for the sake of getting peoples attention is stupid. Dress how you wanna dress, walk how you wanna walk, talk how you wanna talk, etc. If your being yourself, there'll be a bigger chance of you finding someone whos ACTUALLY into you
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