Girls, no eye contact = no interest or attraction?

Question

When is there a girl I like that doesn't give me any kind of eye contact or glances, I believe that she isn't interested in me at all, so I don't approach.

Funny thing is about me is when I do get some quick eye contact I just think maybe they just looking around for no reason or when they smile they are just being nice.

How do I truly know?

I remember once on the bus, I was sitting looking out the window, I saw a girl enter, so I decided not to look at her while she was walking down the aisle toward her seat. I kept looking out the window until she got close, and gave her a quick last second glance, our eyes met then she almost tripped on the steps toward her seat. lol

GuyAdviceFromGuy · Accepted Answer

IT CAN MEAN SHE LIKES YOU A LOT

And let me explain, if you notice that a girl is going "out of her way" to avoid eye contact and appears to be nervous around you then it could mean she really likes you and is avoiding eye contact because of that. It's in her comfort zone not to look back. She feels that if she does make eye contact, she could be "giving" herself away, such as, revealing her cards too soon. Women don't like to appear eager and take on a "passive" facade, but deep down inside they are already analyzing everything you do from how you hold your hands to how you smile. She is AFRAID that if you and her do share EYE CONTACT, that if you don't smile, or you frown or the eye contact doesn't last long, that it could mean you don't like her. Hence, what women do is avoid eye contact because for them (for their sex) it accomplishes many things. 1. It keeps them in their comfort zone 2. It prevents them from knowing whether you like them or not and if you do really like her YOU would make the effort to establish eye contact 3. Their nervousness, if they are even nervous, can be passed off as being "a challenge" without appearing to be too eager. Really they are just shy and are expecting you to take the lead.

--YOUR TRAIN STORY, doesn't mean anything. Sometimes I will notice someone looking at me or notice something out of the blue and its enough to momentarily distract me until I have to pause and adjust myself and move on.

I'm not saying that all women are like this. Many women too will smile and make eye contact with guys they like, but many more girls will sometimes ignore a guy even when they like them. Of course WHEN WOMEN DON'T LIKE YOU, they won't look at you either, so the only way to truly know is to do the following.

Basically, don't leave it up to the girl. You have to keep looking at her bro until she looks back at you. People know when you are looking at them, so keep looking at her until she looks your way and then smile and keep your eye contact until SHE looks away. If she just gives you a quick smile followed by a blank expression and then darts her eyes around the room she is not initially attracted to you and you might have to go over to her to make a move. If she looks back at you and smiles genuinely and hold some eye contact with you for a couple seconds and looks away then she likes you and you need to make a move.

EXAMPLE, FACE TO FACE SITUATION

Often times a girl will ignore a guy because she is nervous and you just have to look at her and smile. SHE WILL FEEL your facial expression without directly looking up at you and it will give her the courage to look up and smile and make eye contact. She wants TO KNOW that you have the confidence to take the risk and look at her. Some girls will even test you to see if you look away first. Basically if she is not looking at you but you show HESITATION, she won't look up. Or if you look like you are frowning/angry/ she might think you are a creep

celticman · Accepted Answer

First off, not everyone expresses interest in the same way. Some folks are super shy and might actually avoid eye contact if they're into someone, because, well, nerves can do funny things to us. Others might lock eyes as a way to show interest.

About the whole eye contact or smiling thing, it's really easy to overthink these signals. Some people are just naturally friendly and make eye contact or smile at everyone. And yes, sometimes people are just looking around and happen to make eye contact by chance. The key is to look for patterns or additional signs of interest, like if they go out of their way to be near you or seem to light up when you're around.

Your bus story is a classic example of how unpredictable these situations can be! That moment of eye contact might have meant nothing, or it might have flustered her because she was caught off-guard by someone she found attractive. The almost tripping part?

So, how do you truly know? But a good approach is to look for consistent signs of interest and, when in doubt, try to engage in a casual conversation. Their response to your attempt at interaction can give you a clearer indication of their interest than trying to interpret silent signals. And hey, even if it turns out they're not interested, engaging with someone openly and respectfully can still lead to a positive interaction or even friendship.

In the end, remember that it's okay to take a chance and say hi. The worst that can happen is they're not interested, and that's perfectly fine. Life's too short not to shoot your shot, right? Plus, you never know — your next glance or smile could lead to something great. Keep being observant, but also don't be afraid to make the first move.

bobair · Accepted Answer

How can she possibly be into you? She doesn't even know you yet!

Instead realize that it DOESN'T MATTER if she's into you... all that matters is that you give her a chance AND that she gives you a chance to get to know her.

And none of that is going to happen unless you open her up with some fun conversation.

So instead of over thinking it simply approach the second you see her. Don't wait.

And, if that makes you nervous, memorize something you can say to get the ball rolling. The "pickup artist" community encourages opinion openers, and I can't agree more.

Asking a girl for her opinion just feels non-threatening AND it helps get a REAL conversation going.

So next time you see a hottie you want to meet, don't worry about her liking you, and simply wander over to her and start up a conversation...

I used to say things like, "Hey, you look like you have decent style... can I get your fashion opinion on something? I want to try some super white casual shoes with my jeans but I've been told that I need to also wear a white belt if I'm wear white shoes... is there any truth to this?! I don't think I can roll with a white belt..."

Or something generic that you dream up.

Because it's memorize you don't have to worry about inventing something witty to say AND you'll likely say it more casually because you'll have said it a thousand other times with a thousand other women.

This gives her a chance to chat with you AND gives her time to develop some real attraction (assuming you're not just creepy or weird.)

Hope this helps!

~ Robby

My Blog ( link )

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

OH OH I can answer this!

Three possibilities:

1) Shy

- They are neither interested or disinterested. Sometimes when they are being put in a situation in which they can have private, one-to-one moment with a guy, they need some time to get used to it, especially when they are very shy. I'm one of them, even though I'm used to talking to guys at a professional level. Sometimes it can be an old (bad) habit :)

2) Not interested

- Usually in a mean way to send the message that they don't really like or even care about what you think

3) Distracted

- Not necessary an indicator that she's not interested in you, but rather something more important or stronger is in her mind (maybe she has an interview later on etc.

And to answer your last paragraph, she didn't expect to see you glancing at her or something. Don't read too much into it :)

There's no formula to truly know what's in their mind, but your gut feeling helps a lot. Whatever it is, stay polite, be genuine, and know your boundaries when you realize somethings aren't going quite right as time goes by. Good luck!

ALWAYSclassy · Accepted Answer

if I avoid eye contact with a guy it's because I'm not interested.

Eye contact and a smile means I am.

Guys should know based off eye contact. If there is a girl that is avoiding eye contact with you and doesn't look at you, you probably shouldn't approach at all because she isn't interested. If she smiles after making eye contact she probably is interested since most girls don't usually do that to a guy they don't find attractive because that is a "green light" signal to approach, so she's not gonna do that to a guy she doesn't want approaching her. If she keeps looking and you keep catching eye contact then she's def interested

Guy13 · Answer

Ask her stop playing around. Talk to her.

Ghen28 · Answer

Not entirely true. There are lots of guys I've found attractive, but I just pretend I don't notice them and don't initiate conversation. Sometimes I'm not sure how old a guy is because most of the time they look close to my age. I'm 31 so the last thing I want to do is look at a guy and creep him out, only to find out he just graduated high school. xD Sucks but no thank you! I don't want charged for sexual harassment.

But yeah, a majority of women will ignore someone they like for many reasons. Lack of confidence, insecurities, the guy is just too damn handsome and she doesn't feel he would ever like her, so she doesn't put any effort into paying him any attention. In which case, you could choose to approach the girl, or simply wait for a girl to approach you.

Anonymous · Answer

Depends from person to person.

Some girls are shy , or too self conscious at the moment & may not make eye contact.

Some girls who are already comfortable or friendly with a person before , will look right at that them if they start liking them a little.

Some are very confident they'll look at you right away. But that's really rare for me.

This is just an opinion.

And if they avoid eye contact. Look for their body language , behaviour , way of speaking & expressions on their face in a cross eye , by making sure she's not aware that you're looking at them.

this is how you'll find clues (trust me even that's hard to understand & sometimes deceiving)

Best way to know is let them get to know you well , so they are comfortable & say it by themselves or when you ask them out.

Yet NEVER keep making judgements , what they say by themselves is the ULTIMATE thing to know.

Anonymous · Answer

For me personally, if I don't find a guy attractive or have no interest in him at all then, I'll avoid eye contact. However, if I notice a guy looking at me or paying attention to me and I find him attractive, if he looks me in the eye, I'll look back at him and maintain that eye contact (as long as he seems willing to). If he smiles at me then I'll smile back. If he doesn't, then I won't. But again if I'm not interested in him or attracted to him then I'll probably try to ignore him completely. But basically, if the feeling is mutual...I'll pretty much play along with whatever he is doing. This is just me though, can't say all girls are the same.

NotAHookaLikeYoMomma · Answer

Depends on a person, signs are only signs - you still gamble about what they mean. Ask and you'll know, it won't make her any less or more into you.

I usually avoid eye contact, with men in general, due to how often they perceive literally anything, as a sign of attraction. Too many SAs and attempts, over merely a courteous smile, eye contact, signs of pressure, or an open body language, for me to show men any interest now. I find a lot of different types of men attractive, wouldn't give them a chance nor show it anyway though. Most are secretly red flags and giving them the privilege of doubt, typically ends in disappointment.

I have friends who can't unlearn the eye contact or who never learned to keep it, who show signs of attraction due to their personality, who never learned how to show it or just can't for the lives of them. It depends on a person, though if she tends to keep eye contact and now she stopped or vice versa, it could mean you have a beef rn.

Rainmaker0089 · Answer

Well it is not rocket science. If you are a guy and not good looking enough, no girl is attracted to you. It is pure logic. So why she would look at a guy who is not pretty? So the rule is , if you are not good looking enough don't approach at all. It is not going to happy. Being a physically unattractive human male is a punishment. Nature wants to have more taller and more beautiful people. It is the sad truth.

bel42 · Answer

i don't look directly into the eyes of a guy that I like. Some girls do that because they are shy and others may not be interested in you. It's hard to say why those girls do that because it could be because of many various reasons.

MalibuBeach · Answer

if I like a boy, it's so hard for me to look him in the eyes,  because I'm too shy. if I was you , I would approach her,  because you never know, maybe she likes you too good luck!

Texaskid1 · Answer

Maybe she is shy.  Bold women will make eye contact with a dude they are into. The shy ones will still check you our just when you are not looking.

Grubhub · Answer

Girls treated me like this my entire life. No eye contact or anything. Nervous around me. I just ignore them. Once you ignore these shy girls the better. They’re not worth the attention

Anonymous · Answer

shy... trust me when girls make eye contact that shows how confident they are but remember she may already be taken peace bud and gd luck.

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