I am going bald at a very young age and I don't how to deal with it. What do I do?

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I am constantly losing hair and nothing is working. I don't know how to deal with it because i don't feel attractive anymore. What do i do? I just feel angry and sad and feel helpless.

Adam_INTJ · Accepted Answer

Going bald isn't the end of the world, but you can treat and prevent it.

Get Minoxidil/Rogaine ASAP if you want to keep your hair or regrow what can be saved of the hair that has diminished. Apply twice daily--just follow the instructions. If any hair is growing out of a follicle (even if the hair is thin and small), then the follicle can be saved. My dermatologist told me that Minoxidil is the first, most important ingredient in a regimen against baldness. It acts by preventing DHT from binding to your follicles and starving them.

Other treatments include pills, but these usually mess with your hormones, and can cause infertility, diminished libido, and other things that low testostorone would cause. (A Hormone and Testosterone derivative, Dihydrotestosterone, is what causes androgenic alopecia, or male-pattern baldness. DHT binds to follicles and prevents blood and nutrients from sustaining them). The pill treatments like Propicia, that I have heard of, address the problem by reducing the amount of DHT in your system, unlike Minoxidil, which only prevents the DHT from attaching to hair follicles. I don't like the idea of using pills, because I don't like the listed side-affects. My dermotologist told me that usually older guys will opt for things like Propecia, because their testostorone is already declining. And they've also usually done the Testostorone-assisted things that they wanted to do, like have kids and get swole.

A treatment that I do recommend, though it has limited scientific backing, is scalp massaging. They can be self-administered. They work by stretching the galea (tough connective tissue on your head). Stretching it reduces the tension that seems to cause baldness. Look up a video of how to do it. I have heard that 10 minutes per day is what should be done.

If you end up with a hairline that you really don't like, cut your hair short. Balding is not a sin or an indication of bad health, so there is no need to hide it. Hiding it looks like you're insecure. A guy from my fraternity is 19 and has a hairline that is already farther back than Vegeta's from Dragon Ball Z. It happens, man. The worst of your problems will be some good-natured joking from your guy friends, and maybe a chilly scalp in winter.

If you are insecure, start addressing that by taking note of every time you see a cool guy who is balding. Bill Burr is bald. Joe Rogan is bald. You know guys in your family and friends who at least have a receding hairline. Their lives aren't less fun for being bald or on the way there.

Good luck homie.

Sincerely,

- a 23 year old with the bald gene

RagnarRedbeard · Accepted Answer

Men aren't supposed to be pretty. The issue that men like you have is that you've been taught to think like women.

Women, and people in general, don't care about your hair unless you have a stupid hairdo, like a man-bun or something. As a man, people care more about your strength and your character. Bald men can still be attractive and respected.

My hair started to fall out and recede when I was 22. Ever since I shaved it all off because I began to look better without hair than with it.

It's all about confidence. There's nothing worse than a guy trying to hold on to his hair when he's obviously losing it. If anything is going to make you less attractive it's insecurity around going bald.

I just remembered this video where Stirling Cooper basically says all of the same things.

https://www.youtube.com/embed/qqr7wVTbEyQ

Dazed0N0Confused · Accepted Answer

My boyfriend is balding & has been since he entered his twenties. He's 28 now & is almost completely bald on the crown of his head. It appears to have escalated some since I got pregnant & gave birth this past February, but I attribute that to the added stress of starting a new job & being jumped up 3 promotions SUPER FAST (first promotion in a month, second promotion 2 months after & a third when his coworker left to go to school full time 2 months later), as well as becoming a dad.
I still find him incredibly attractive.
He hides it with a hat. I make a point to massage his scalp & kiss his bald spot periodically.

You could try hormonal therapy, or whatever they're selling on those TV ads pertaining to balding. You could also just completely shave your head.

SoftCliff · Accepted Answer

Consult a dermatologist. There are effective treatments for alopecia, this is 2022. If it's genetic, or a result of high testosterone, Minoxidil, Fimasteride, vitamin supplements and PRP injections. If it's an autoimmune thing, there are medications that can help, such as steroids

Pinay_ako · Answer

Don’t despair! Shave it off so nobody will notice! Own it. A lot of sexy attractive bald guys everywhere. Just rock it and turn heads!

coachTanthony · Answer

I lost my hair young as well. Tried ball caps for a while but finally just shaved it all off at 23 and wore a goat tee. Stone Cold Steve Austin became a huge hit a few years later so it was the style and still is.

Easy to manage and care free. Get some tats go work out and you'll be fine man.

JSmuve · Answer

I started losing my hair in my mid-20s and it's been slowly progressing. I still have hair but it's thinned considerably (and evenly) at the top. I pretty much have to get a haircut every month. I know eventually I'll have to get rid of it all because I ain't rocking a cul-de-sac but my fear is I don't have the skull shape and skin tone to pull it off. I've considered all the options other people presented to you, but my understanding is it's very hit or miss for guys and you have to be on it for life. If you stop, then you lose whatever meager hair you regrew or retained. For the cost and amount of effort you have to put in to maintenance, I was never convinced that it's viable for the long-run.

jshm2 · Answer

See a doctor you balding dumbass. If it's stress or alopecia then there are treatments.  Most likely you're just using the wrong shit on your hair.

Light909090 · Answer

Your Stressing out worried too much. Loss of hair as well as your hair Losing it’s color and turning Grey is a sign of worry. People who are psychopathic and don’t stress don’t worry at all. Will not experience hair loss at all.

TonightYouu · Answer

Age with grace bro💯 Don’t think of it as going bald think of it as a sign of growth don’t waste your energy and time accept what you cannot change

Smoke-n-Growls · Answer

Make sure to go get checked by a doctor. Hair loss can be indicative of a lot of things, and can be a temporary thing.

ZackBan · Answer

My brother lost a lot of his and I'm going nuts thinking it's my turn soon (I'm older) so I know the feeling.

But honestly unless you can afford a transplant I would say grow out a beard and do the bald bearded look it's very masculine and often seen as sexy by women.

Just don't fall into the trap of wearing it in weird ways trying to cover up the spots because that never works and looks like you are insecure and trying too hard

cryscrys1 · Answer

It’s genetics mostly sometimes you can’t help it no matter how good you eat!
Instead of stressing yourself better shave it really and be bald
Or you can look for hair surgery / transplant
Or hair capillary treatment they cost maybe 4K to 5k but it might be worth it in the end if you really don’t want to go bald

Radioactivity · Answer

In addition to what everyone else said, I highly recommend The Ordinary Multi-Peptide Serum for Hair Density. This should be used *in conjunction* with a low dose (2x/week only) of Finasteride (consult your doctor) and with daily use of Rogaine.

But, if all else fails, work on having confidence, a good personality, dressing well, taking care of your body/fitness level, and (in a perfect world) having a good and lucrative career. These will make any guy more attractive, hair or not.

Think about it. What if a girl has PERFECT breasts but everything else on her is horrible. Will you find her attractive? What if everything else about her is almost perfect (hair, style, fitness level, face, personality, etc) but her breasts aren't perfect. The big picture is more important than any one factor.

JamesDiaz11 · Answer

My suggestion is just to shave your head- unless you have serious money hair implant surgery isn't gonna help you, and since this is genetic it's not going to get better.

Don't worry, many girls find bald men more masculine, and you'll also look taller.

Rania05 · Answer

Get some rosemary or lemon oil, they work wonderfully with my father!

DarkWinterNights · Answer

You can try Rogaine or Minoxidil if it’s just the crown that’s thinning. If you have the money you can get the hairline surgery as well. Otherwise I’d just shave it off if it really bothers you. It’s really nothing to be ashamed of. It happens to most men.

dexter234 · Answer

There's no stopping it if it's genetic, things you can do  1: accept it and live with it  Or 2: go completely bald Or  3: get a hair transplant asap!!!

Anonymous · Answer

you are wrong, there was a guy I'm attracted to, he is having the same problem too

Staximus · Answer

You're not a woman, it doesn't matter. It's just hair, what does it actually do for you? (besides waste your time with washing and combing it)

ChiTown33 · Answer

Steer into it man. Shave your head and own it as a choice. MJ did it. Bruce Willis did it.

Anonymous · Answer

When I started going bald I used to wear a cap or a beanie every single day at work and outside. I felt ashamed.
One day, out of the blue, I mustered up the courage and went to work without something on my head.
Nobody said anything. It was as if nobody even noticed.
WHAT A RELIEF.
That was the day that I realized that the world doesn't revolve around me and it doesn't matter how I look or how bald I am; because I'm still better off than midgets

Shayyyy1 · Answer

Go to a hair speacialist, maybe its soemthing ur eating or a product ur using maybe, Maybe or ur stressed out. I got grey hair when i was in high school freaked me out a lot, i was just stressed out a lot went a way after a while.

Anonymous · Answer

My brother started going bald at 22. But he’s a got a good skull and he shaved his head. He told me he actually got more attention from women after he did that.

Anyway I would get started on propecia and rogaine asap. You can also look into hair transplants. I got a hair transplant two years ago and it’s grown in nicely.

hahahmm · Answer

Shave it all off. Worry more about having life goals & reaching for the stars and less about your hair because that's the main difference between guys who become valuable and guys who do not.

maximumpower · Answer

You can't do much of anything. Get ready to lose it all - its coming.

Zolly99999 · Answer

I started going bald at 20 years old.. I just shave my head.. .

Nik1hil · Answer

Bro!..  1) Hit the Gym!  2) And good food and diet!..  3) let those hairs fall!.. 4) if the hair fall does not stop, Go bald with a ripped body!..  Rename yourself to Johnny Sins!.. 🤭💯

blissinanarchy1 · Answer

Thyroid issue is often the culprit. Anyway, baldness ain’t something to be ashamed of. Go completely bald, fuck it.

Missgingles · Answer

Have you tried PRP treatment?  Also which shampoo and condotioner are you using?

annabananna · Answer

Go get checked by a doctor:) if all else fails you could wear a hair piece. They have some that look real.

Anonymous · Answer

The PRP is a natural therapy for facials. It also works for your hair regrowth. Try this or Alex Chiu Immortality rings. Or both.

dustybiker · Answer

So is the future king of England.

Anonymous · Answer

First, ask your mother why she did this to you. You didn’t deserve the bald x-linked gene, but she gave it to you unwillingly. Second, men are ugly. Women got used to it and will date bald ugly men. Make good money to make up for being bald.

Waldoe · Answer

Embrace it, you cannot change it... I suggest checking out Yule Brenner very famous man... he had a beautifully shaped head... tan it and "show it off" don't be a "Simp"

Jenny-Marie · Answer

What's the problem? Many people go bald at a young age. If it bothers you just shave your head. Surely , if anyone rejects you because of a lack of hair, they aren't worth it anyway.

Twalli · Answer

I started losing it early too. Then I found out my diet was not giving me enough nourishment and stopped, but I am almost all gone on the top of my head

SushiSxnpai · Answer

See a dermatologist.

ArtemisSilver · Answer

Shave the top off and die the rest white for the Patrick Stewart effect

panamared1 · Answer

accept it, you will feel better, i started losing hair at 18, it is nature, if she can not see past hair lossthen what else is she going to be picky about

AndrésC64 · Answer

You deal with it by just dealing with it. That's life.

Jay3344 · Answer

Finesteride is the best option usually. $240 a year and basically stops hair loss

StickStickity13 · Answer

Shave your head, the sooner you get used to it the better

roy_ricky09 · Answer

Keep applying minoxidil 3 times a day. That's the only thing that works.

fivesixbombai · Answer

Finasteride, Minoxidil, Dermarolling, Nizoral shampoo. I started balding hard at 19 but I have better hair than most teenagers even at 27

Luckycharms12 · Answer

3 options shave it keep it short or hair transplant

LeftHappy · Answer

Stay away from commercial hair products, maybe try something made for animals like horses.

Anonymous · Answer

Focus on making money. Work hard.  Rich man never look ugly & unattractive in girls eyes...

Sour-rose · Answer

*insert "Keeps" sponsor here*

LindsayR07 · Answer

Start a hat collection!

Aphrodite801 · Answer

What are you doing for that to happen

Anonymous · Answer

Bosley Hair Restoration?

Drumlin2001 · Answer

Shave it

littlemisslolita · Answer

Get Keeps Hair Product

EaterPeter · Answer

See a doctor, hair specialist dermato

Anonymous · Answer

Go See a dermatologist and get analyzed.

jimmy2 · Answer

Cheaper accept and let it be

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