How Do I Make My Mom Let Me Wear Slutty Things At Home?

[fonduegirl]

slutty things here are referring to pink silk night gown with sweetheart neckline. i wear it in the house coz it's comfortable, pretty and keeps me warm in winters. but mom says she won't let me as im single and virgin which attract the wrong set of eyes. i just don't get it. why do i always gotta dress like a nun?

ps. i wear bra underneath. what's the biggie?

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I knew this question would catch s1ut shamers real quick lmfao

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I styled it with a huge hoodie. Mom was laughing at how weird it makes me look, so she's okay. Probably.

[lightbulb27]

wear in your room or you have to move out so you can do what you want.

doesn't make sense to me to wear at home, who is going to see you so why it matter?

you could be like superman, wear an outfit out the door, then go into the stall and change... lol.

[fonduegirl]

I don't have a room

[fonduegirl]

The only option for moving out is if I get married

[Red_Arrow]

You were born so obviously she and your father have sex, so she is not asexual. She is the parent and you are the child living in her home, so in your relationship she is the dominant one as it should be. When you decide to be an adult and live by your rules, move out, pay for your own place to live and all the costs that come with that. Then you can wear whatever you want.

[fonduegirl]

I said she was asexual, not infertile

[Red_Arrow]

Fertile or not, If she is asexual she is not interested in sex.

[Mmmariaxc]

No respect your mother she is just doing her best to love and protect you appreciate that. Mine let me wear whatever I wanted and it sure got me in trouble lol.

[fonduegirl]

There's a difference between allowing to wear your daughter certain dress and that too in your own goddamn house! Kindly refrain from comparison.

[Jennz6]

I suppose as long as you live with your mom, you have to be obedient and go by her rules?

[fonduegirl]

Yeah

[DrewJohnson]

I'm sorry you can't dress slutty at home. That would be at least one place you can be yourself. I'm not sure how to help you change your mom's mind.

[fonduegirl]

I know right

[DrewJohnson]

It seems like what you want to wear could hardly be classified as slutty.

[fonduegirl]

Thank you

[DrewJohnson]

I wish I was more help!

[Deepinthought345]

Why did you call it slutty? Not trying to slut shame (I don't believe anyone needs to be ashamed of being sexually liberal, opinionated and independent- slut). What you're wearing is comfortable clothing, I don't think your mother should stop you from being comfortable in your own home. Your relationship status has nothing to do with it. I think she is just projecting her own insecurities on to you. Most parents do this.

[fonduegirl]

She called it slutty so I used her choice of words.

[fonduegirl]

I understand.

[Deepinthought345]

I understand. I think you should wear what you feel comfortable in. We are in the 21st century. Showing ankles shouldn't be a shock factor. Besides those you live with are those who raised you. Unless they are all perverts that your mother worries about, it should be fine. Also you're an adult. This should not even be an issue.

[fonduegirl]

Agreed. Thank you for your tactfulness.

[Deepinthought345]

I realized you are from India and I can now understand why your mom will have concerns. I shouldn't have made certain assumptions. But I am sure you're intelligent enough to handle this. But don't worry, what you described isn't slutty by any standards and you shouldn't be uncomfortable wearing what you like in your own house. The hoodie thing was clever!!

[fonduegirl]

Thanks

[Guardian45]

Are you for real or a troll? When would ANY Mom let their child wear "slutty" clothing in THEIR house? RESPECT your Mother!
If you MUST wear "slutty" clothing, do it in YOUR house, and DON'T invite your mother over to your house!

[fonduegirl]

:/ :/ cut off mom to get slutty? Uh.

[Guardian45]

Yes, because she clearly DOESN'T enjoy it! Or DON'T dress "slutty"!

[fonduegirl]

Thanks

[Guardian45]

Sorry. It seemed obvious to me.

[Dreamclouds]

That's nice to feel good especially at home, you just wear them she will get used with the ideea in time, dressing like a nun sucks, let your skin breath

[fonduegirl]

Exactly!! Thanks

[Dreamclouds]

Feel free and most importantly be happy!

[fonduegirl]

Thanks

[Mynameisbobby]

If you are just wearing them around the house I don't see the problem?

[fonduegirl]

Me either

[call_me_scar]

Maybe point out how how historically wearing anything but a I piece at the beach was seen as slutty and make an argument from that

[Hardworkingguy]

Wow those kinds of clothes makes a woman look so good. I suppose you can talk to her letting her know you're an adult or just move out to have more freedom.

[BJP21]

Wear what you feel comfortable in. you're over 18 and your mom needs to understand you're an adult and not wearing it to attract guys.

[SnowedIn]

What's her specific problem with it? Has she articulated that?

[fonduegirl]

She's asexual so she doesn't understand that kind of thing, for her everything is vulgar.

[fonduegirl]

She's dominant so her way or highway.

[fonduegirl]

Conservative so the only sex that should exist is the one with your husband.

[SnowedIn]

I'm wondering if @dreamclouds isn't right: just wear the nightgown anyway. Do the whole be thoughtful and polite thing and just quietly continue wearing. Unless there are consequences that get levied on you that I'm missing?

Alternatively, find something legitimately slutty and walk around in that several times. Then when mom squawks, tell her, hey, you wouldn't let me wear that lovely nightgown. Perhaps she then chooses the nightgown as the lesser of two evils?

[fonduegirl]

Yeah

[SnowedIn]

Also, what's her specific problem? Are you wearing it while she has the ladies group for lunch? During your dad's card game? Like, I'm being tongue in cheek, but something's not in what you wrote..."all eyes" -- who's there? Or is this about your brother and dad? Which that pisses me off. If they're going to look at you then she should kick their ass instead of dictate what you wear around the house. But my point is that I am confused. This is a nightgown for at home, not a midriff baring crop top and miniskirt and you're going clubbing.

[fonduegirl]

We don't have people over. There are a few people living in the neighborhood that ocassionally glance my way, but that's it. Last time somebody called me hot, it was a 15yo girl my brother fancied.

[Jay3344]

No idea, I never really lived with girls. When I lived with women they wore what they wanted and it was whatever but I don’t know what their mothers would have said about everything

[Stevefiveo]

Hmm, sounds like it is time to move out. I'm sure your mom dressed the same way when she was your age. If you can find an old pic of your mom in something slutty, then you might have a case.

[Deathraider]

I mean are you able to financially sustain yourself?

I mean if so, leave them. They don’t sound good for you.

[fonduegirl]

Not an option

[krin_m]

You are an adult, you can do whatever you want!

[studguy07]

Maybe she cares about you too much so if you get used to it you will get habituated and wear those kinda clothes outside too.

[Ryfyle]

Well then move out. Fucking doubt your a 22 year old virgin.

[fonduegirl]

I'm from India. Virgin girls are common here. Secondly, only way it's acceptable for a daughter to move out is if she gets married. It's not my problem you're ignorant as fuck about how cultures work around the world.

[fonduegirl]

I did have a job, and even then I wasn't allowed to move out. It's not "safe" to live by yourself, according to the conservative culture.

[fonduegirl]

Oh and also, I haven't had my birthday yet. So I'm 21. I thought I'd change a few things on GaG profile, but later realised those features were no longer available.

[Ryfyle]

@anon1903 How the fuck am supposed to know where the fuck you live if you haven't directly stated that in your fucking question?

[fonduegirl]

Don't assume all questions are US centred.

[Ryfyle]

Still doesn't answer my question.

[haremhan]

buy slutty thing to her,

you both wear at home...

I can come to your house as a guest

[fonduegirl]

She's asexual conservative. They're the worst lmao.

[haremhan]

you can try...

[fonduegirl]

Yeah

[haremhan]

and your age 22, why do you live with family?

[fonduegirl]

It's India. The only way out is marriage.

[haremhan]

Muslim or hinduism?

[fonduegirl]

Hinduism

[fonduegirl]

Muslim girls have it worse

[haremhan]

yep right honey, of corse you need comfortable at home, your ears i think not slutty things, in portugal girls generally on the summer only wear bra at home, its normaly...

[Pete671]

It's her house so you have to respect her wishes, maybe dress how you like at friend's homes?

[HippieVeganJewslim]

Similar way to let my own mum let me free and not treat me like a piece of rubbish.

[Jude_Wills]

Really hard to convince...

If you convince her

[QuietVerbena]

Tell her you won’t let a boy see you in it

[DavidRaul]

Well thats how are Indian society is

[Andres77]

Wear a robe over it?

[boggboss]

You can't if she enforces the laws in your house

[shortster]

The wrong set of eyes at home?

[MementoMori777]

She's your mother, that's never gonna happen

[Wise4myage]

Yikes, she sounds like a tyrant.

[Wise4myage]

Is moving out of the question?

[Kyyroz]

... Its what any decent mother would do...

[fonduegirl]

She's a dominant asexual conservative... So you've no idea how hard stuff gets around here

[Kyyroz]

She's actually trying to protect you and raise you right. You'll get it once you have kids of your own. You don't need to dress like a whore

[fonduegirl]

@Kyyroz did u read my question details? At all?

[Kyyroz]

Yes, I did. My point stands.

[fonduegirl]

@Kyyroz you're just a shamer

[Yellovv]

Stay naked she will tell you after that...

[LimitedBenefits101]

Good mother.