I've heard guys make some awful comments about women around me, evaluating their bodies... when I didn't think the women looked that bad.
Example: Criticizing skinny women for having cellulite on their upper thighs (which like 90% of women have due to genetics, regardless of whether they work out),
Another Example: upon seeing a girl wearing a skimpy outfit of short skirt and tall boots, comment that they wish she wasn't wearing that outfit (apparently she was chubby, I thought she looked fine).
My boyfriend tells me at least two thirds of guys make comments like this about girl's appearance. I know that there are women out there that comment on guys appearance, but I don't do this nor do most of my friends, so seems like a guy thing to be critical from my POV...
Yet, I couldn't help but notice those same guys don't actually date girls any better looking than the ones they speak so harshly about. So how can they be so harsh?
For the same reason, I've never gotten how so many celebrities can get picked apart yet they usually still look better than the person commenting.
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Yeah I notice that too and I don't like it either. I don't think most guys truly understand how much it hurts to get picked apart and judged. I can tell from girls' answers on here that it's painful. It's harder for us to empathize because most guys aren't really used to being treated that way and I think it's partly because, for us, there's no serious consequences. If you openly criticize a girl the worst thing that'll happen is she'll call you a**hole and storm off. If you openly criticize another guy he might punch you in the face. We're not used to being on the receiving end of the comments and so a lot of guys get kind of blasé about it and they do it without thinking.
I think that, for men, it's easier to nitpick then it is for a woman because the characteristics that attract a woman to a man are (I think) a lot more abstract and intangible than those that attract a man to a woman (at least initially). It's easier for us to spot what we like and what we don't. Having seen so many women, guys can kind of develop an idea of the hypothetical "perfect" woman (for them) that is the sum of all their favorite physical features and then compare other women against it (and yes, I know that's incredibly unfair.) Real women, however, are not Mr. Potato Heads and even the real jerks know that.
I guess there's multiple reasons why guys can be so harsh. A lot of guys are into "shock humour" and think it's funny to put people down if it's very offensive. Some guys are bitter and have a grudge against women. And some guys are just plain hypocritical. Personally, I try not to think that way. I resist the temptation to narrow my taste in women and compare them to my "type". I prefer to keep an open mind. I look at women for what they are, instead of what they are not. I've been very attracted to many women who look nothing like one another. I've come to love how women are so diverse. They're all different (physically and personally) and I find that variety interesting and exciting.3