Why do guys skip over me. am I not attractive because of my skin color or my glasses?

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D_Bone_Steak · Accepted Answer

Whenever a female makes the "Where have all the good men gone?" argument, in current year, it's usually because she's only giving certain men the chance. The good men have always been there, but they got ignored. So with that said, is that you?

As far as attractive, skin color, or glasses... I don't think it's any of that unless you are going for a "type" of guy that doesn't go for the look you have. I mean I have dirty thoughts about you, but yeah, there are dudes out there that would pass. A quick note on race though... yeah, there is a stereotype of women of your race that is "preferable to be avoidable," but... you don't have the ghetto look that brings that to mind. I mean the tattoos don't look like prison street scribbles, and you don't even have the bling bling, gawdy makeup, or the weave. My honest first impression is a anime weeb or maybe even a girl that would play video games with me.

So, since you are a woman though... you are currently aware that women have become a situation where the juice isn't worth the squeeze for about 50% of the population, right? Like you've heard about what's been going down right? The 80/20 rule? The very thing I mentioned with my first paragraph? ... What I'm trying to say is it might not be you at all, it could just be that you're unfortunately in a time and place where feminism has created a situation, a preconception, and plenty of reasons to just not take you seriously until proven otherwise.

Anyways, it could be other factors like attitude and all sorts of things like your current environment. I don't have much to go on other than your picture and what little you wrote. I'm basically just guessing as to probable causes of your situation.

MrOracle · Accepted Answer

Whatever your issue is, it isn't your appearance. You might not be every guy's cup of tea looks-wise, but you are plenty attractive physically.

If you are shy/introverted, that would be the most likely problem, but that could be worked through.

If that's not it, then there is something about your attitude or behavior that is turning men off OR you have ridiculously high standards and are going for guys way above your level.

Obviously none of us knows you and you didn't give us a ton of information to go on, but for most men, looks are not your problem.

Alli112 · Accepted Answer

I don't know about the skin color thing, because unfortunately studies suggest there is some prejudice mostly due to western beauty standards usually being defined with regards to white women, though personally I feel like that's lessening as people of color become more visible in media, etc.

That said, girl, you're gorgeous, your skin tone is lovely and your glasses are cute (I know lots of dudes that actually love glasses on a woman). Dating is just generally difficult; have patience, put yourself out there, and let the world do its thing.

laly520 · Accepted Answer

u look so pretty I dont think it has anything to do with ur appearance

Fashionista Amy · Accepted Answer

Oh, I'm really sorry you're feeling this way. It's tough when it seems like people aren’t noticing you. Please know that beauty isn't defined by skin color or whether or not you wear glasses. Everyone has their own unique preferences, but that doesn't devalue your attractiveness. Confidence and self-love radiate more than anything else. You deserve to be appreciated and loved for exactly who you are. Have you tried framing your natural attributes in ways that make you feel most confident? Sometimes, a little tweak in how we see ourselves can make all the difference. What kind of things do you feel most confident doing or wearing?

mattthefatbat · Answer

Are you meaning all guys are skipping you? or just the guys you're trying to attract?

I know this maybe a little exaggerated but this might be you

Because some women say "why does no guy like me" when almost every guy that's into her that asks her out, she just rejects for some reason or another. (Usually because of physical appearance)

But if a guy, that she likes, that's not really into her and doesn't ask her out, or ignores her she thinks no guy is into her. This is why some people say you may want to open your gates to more people that may turn out to be great guys you would like to be in a relationship with despite you not liking them much at first. But I'm not saying you should make your self like people that you don't usually like, I just saying you may have people that would like to ask you out you just haven't gotten to know yet.

MyNameJames · Answer

As someone with the same issue, don't take it personally. Seriously, especially if by 'skipping over' you mean on apps, all apps are trash for dating, women do have more luck on average due to algorithms, but thier goal is not to make you feel better, they encourage doom scrolling and priorize helping the most wealthy people willing to put in the most money.

You look perfectly fine, if your insecure about your glasses, try finding a pair of frames you like better, make sure they fit your face shape though, just look up face shape with frame shape charts. Or you could try some photos without glasses, if you feel better that way then you could go for contacts. Personally I prefer half frames or metal frames on myself/others.

You'll find someone I'm sure.

ChicoFromThe305 · Answer

I'm going to so it's maybe the tattoo, tattoos can give off a vibe that makes someone seem maybe aggressive so judging from just appearance, someone can assume aggression or roughness, mostly with sleeves or big tattoos that cover large areas of the body.

lightbulb27 · Answer

it's not looks or glasses, you are above many others there. it may be what energy you project. how do you feel emotionally?

what you say in that pic is "you are gonna get what I got..". what is that? where's the love expressed?

your hair maybe too long for some and some don't like tattoos.

Nirmroth · Answer

I don't know you look good, I personally am not that into black women.

Maybe its an issue of pictures you use, profile text and such if we talk about dating apps.
Otherwise is this more about not getting attention from the men you want or you dont getting any attention at all?

MisterWack · Answer

Could it be that some men will find certain girls attractive and others not just like how some women will find certain boys attractive and others not?

I think it goes beyond skin color / glasses and how you portray yourself and or how you put yourself out there.

Berethor · Answer

Skin color, lot more men have a fetish for glasses than for black women.

Dreamclouds · Answer

I see no reason why someone would skip over you, you look gorgeous your glasses are perfect and also your colour, love your hair also and how you have it, you look perfect pretty much and very attractive not sure why anyone would do that, I sure wouldn't

ManOnFire · Answer

Wow, you are a pretty girl, and the glasses add to the appeal. Unfortunately many men feel that black-skinned women are less attractive.

Anonymous · Answer

Nonsense. You probably have the same problem most women do who lament this. A guy cannot read your mind if you're interested him you need to let it be known. You might even have to go on the offense a little. If you don't want to do that then expect this perceived skip over to continue.

SweetJoyGirl · Answer

Girl, you look good. lol What are you talking about? 😂

Static_In_The_Attic · Answer

You are sexy like a chocolate strawberry & if guys skip over you that is only because they are blinded by your beauty. Your skin color is sexy & your glasses are too.

Lliam · Answer

Your face is cute af. You've got great boobs. Your skin is lovely. And glasses can be sexy. So I don't think any of those things are the problem.

RebelinSteel · Answer

You are pretty, skin or glasses really don’t matter

Jbear27 · Answer

Another post fishing for validation and compliments.

Anonymous · Answer

Fake hair will never help any woman, it's a trick. Notice that fake hair has been specifically targeted against all black women. Now look in the Bible and see what it says about a woman's hair...

ProbablyClueless · Answer

I think you're a knock out, personally. Maybe it has something to do with your energy or how you carry yourself? Men are vibe sensitive too.

Kaneki05 · Answer

People are racist even when they claim not to be so yeah could be that.  Tho another blunt truth is your nose it's wideness is off putting.

TaureanBull81 · Answer

You're a very attractive woman so don't let this get to you. There are plenty of fish 🐟 in the sea 🌊 who will snap you up 😉 The current dating scene is a patience game 👌

SotiCoto · Answer

Perish the thought. You'd look far worse without glasses. Your eyes seem kinda small, and the glasses frame them in just the right way to compensate for that peculiarity.

dustybiker2 · Answer

You only need one good man. These other clowns can keep scrolling.

on_my_knees · Answer

Are you even serious right now? You're an absolute goddess.

In_Trance · Answer

Must be something you're saying or doing.  Or not

sirderpsalot123 · Answer

Whatever the problem is it definitely isn't your appearance. Maybe you just look mean or uninterested so men don't bother approaching you.

Anonymous · Answer

Girl you look hot and I love your skin colour

blondfrog · Answer

The only thing that'd stopping me from dating you is your tattoos. Otherwise your face is decent and I live your body lol.

princessprettyxoxo · Answer

You’re very beautiful stop doubting yourself and stop looking for reassurance on the internet. Go outside and show that pretty face and meet new people

DrPepper12 · Answer

I can't see anything that would bo that. Have you tried contacts if you don't like glasses

Kaizer000 · Answer

No you're reasonably attractive. It's probably that the guys you personally want, don't necessarily want you, and that's fine

Blkgrnlntrn · Answer

I don’t think those are the reasons. You’re very attractive. What’s your personality like and what are your interests?

TallAnon · Answer

I would be really curious to see you without glasses, but your body definitely tells me that guys will be attracted, easily.

plasmaSloth · Answer

Unfortunately there are men out there who don't appreciate beautiful woman like you, you're attractive and I don't think the glasses take away from that I think they add to your charm

Anonymous · Answer

which guys are you talking about? because there's definitely guys you're skipping over

Mrtcn01 · Answer

probably he is gay. otherwise you are beautiful

Pterodon · Answer

I’d ask you out if I thought we had anything in common

shortster · Answer

You look cute. I would definitely go out with someone as cute as you are.

seanz331 · Answer

You are very attractive. You also look like you take good care of yourself. Your skin color is nice too.

Anonymous · Answer

Try using contacts , you’re not ugly but it depends on what your preferences are, white guys don’t know if you’re attracted to them

Anonymous · Answer

I see that you have some (many?) tattoos. I personally don’t care for them. If you have lots of them. That would be a turn off for me!

drdrey · Answer

You look cute and hot 😉 Just you need to take a stylish frame next time ☺️

YoungBeliever · Answer

You’re beautiful. Just gifting yourself to the wrong crowd

Avicenna · Answer

You're attractive, so I doubt that's it

Ms_Facesitter · Answer

It has nothing to do with your looks.

Mr1derful · Answer

Not sure! You seem extremely attractive!

stratford · Answer

You're stunning

zombiewoof · Answer

I think you look very attractive

Anonymous · Answer

I can help you find someone

TonyMetal___86 · Answer

I don't know but you're a cute looking girl

jahaims · Answer

I would assume it's your personality

HotManPlayboy · Answer

Ohhhh they look so sexy.

abc--123 · Answer

I think you are beautiful

QuietRunner · Answer

you're sexy hot

Abdulwahh · Answer

Every guy has he's own looks which he goes for.

BetaBucks · Answer

Stop chasing 10s

dreamstar72 · Answer

Maybe it is you

impalabill77 · Answer

No your attractive.

Luckycharms12 · Answer

No you look cute

vj0090 · Answer

U r extremely hott

michelle003 · Answer

🎣🎣🎣🎣🎣

war_daddy · Answer

both. and the tattoo

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