Why are people shamed for altering their appearances?

[Cherrylicious]

This question is geared more towards women because women are often judged by our looks in society and we are pressured and conditioned to look a certain way like most Instagram models with filtered and photoshopped pictures and even voluptuous Video Vixens. I'm not shaming or judging any of these women or anyone who chooses to alter their appearance but it always annoys me when people say things like "you should love yourself the way God Made You" " love the skin that you're in" when they are not the one dealing with whatever insecurities that they are dealing with themselves regarding their physical appearances. Yes I do know that this is a shitty world where people prioritize looks and beauty over anything else, but why are people judged and shame for wanting to alter their appearance to THEIR liking that makes them happy?

When a woman is "too skinny", she is often accused of having anorexia and is made fun of for her extremely thin weight and if she is "too fat", she is told that she needs to lose weight. If a woman is flat chested, she is bullied and teased for it and if she gets breast implants, or any sort of beauty enhancements that includes plastic surgery, she is criticized for it and is told that she looks like a fake plastic Barbie doll. Bear faced women barely getting acknowledged by men, and if she wears makeup, then it is "too much" makeup. A woman with little to no hair is teased and bullied for "looking like a man" or is deemed masculine and is she gets extensions or wigs, she is deemed and criticized for it. So no matter what women do, it is damned if we do and damned if we don't.

The only time I will personally say anything negative about a person's obvious altered appearance, is if it looks very bad and unnatural but as long as it is done natural and safe, why do people care yes we live in a she superficial Society no one has to remind me of that it is what it is but why are people policing and judging other people's body altering choices?

[RingOfFire]

Everybody is entitled to their own opinion. Whether you decide to alter your appearance or not alter your appearance, it's up to you not to get upset because someone else has a different opinion. You can't control what other people think or do but you can control how you react to it. So the onus is on you to accept that some people may not like your decisions and still be comfortable with yourself. You can't change the world to conform to your needs. But you can change your thinking so that it doesn't disturb you.

I would venture to guess that you may have some opinions that others aren't that fond of. And you're entitled to that. But you have to realize that other people are also entitled to their own opinions.

[The_Confusion]

I advise everyone to do as me. I began addressing every point here in detail, but decided to not be another retard.

If you experience harrassment, bullying, or discrimination, you may want to report it to your local authorities. Nobody is forced to alter their appearances. Unless ukrainians are there to forcefully harvest your organs.

[Seinna]

What they're really shamed for is their lack of confidence, which is a clear weakness. As people, we like to attack those who are down... we sense weakness. Low self-esteem, lack of confidence... those are things we notice and can use to bring other people down and therefore elevate ourselves. OF COURSE not everyone does it, but I believe that is the mechanism of this behaviour whether or not we're able to control it within ourselves. It seems more difficult for people who themselves don't feel secure in themselves for whatever reason.

[Nikki1989]

I recently only noticed the camera on my photo had an enhance photo feature turned on by default.

Men alter photos too, but they seem to get a free pass on it.

[4ngelic]

i think for plastic surgery, at least in western society it's considered taboo and is also viewed as a bad thing in general and a lot of people assume if you get plastic surgery you'll look uglier and fake. society views people who get surgery as these vain, vapid, superficial people who have no personality and are obsessed with their looks. so all that makes people have a certain prejudice towards plastic surgery and people who get it. though i feel like this is dramatically less intense with gen z though, and to a lesser extent millenials because i think plastic surgery is getting more and more normalized every year because of social media

the other thing is i think some people can view surgery as catfishing in a sense or just the fact that part of the beauty of a person is fake can make them feel like the person or touched up feature is a bit nasty. like for ex, lets say a girl has big nice hot boobs but they're mostly fake and if like you imagine the plastic inside that can make you feel bad. or like imagine an ugly person gets surgery to become attractive. some people might still feel disgusted and feel like they're being betrayed and deceived by the surgery.

for filters the reason behind it being bad to people is really mainly just the catfishing issue.

for makeup i think people dont like if you go too far because it looks clownlike it can be annoying for a lot of men if they want to kiss you and stuff. and also the catfishing thing too. also some people might view women who use more than minimal makeup as vain and obsessed with their looks

for weight, i dont think anyone shames people for losing weight except the weird 400lbs body positivity influencers on tiktok. no one shames a sickly thin person for gaining weight either...

anwyays why people still shame people who do these things even knowing fully why they do these things, it's because some really do think looks aren't that important and you shouldn't stress about it (and if you do you're a vapid and bad person), or on the contrary they're very superficial or/and lack empathy

[Oncewildtwiceburned]

The picture here shows no extreme cosmetic or surgical alterations. She simply washed her face more to abate the acne and slightly changed her hair. None of her male peers would say that is wrong and judge her for it, thats coming from other women.

Men are judged more on looks than you think. Take away our social and financial status and you will see that only 15% of men are considered average-attractive by the majority of women.

[rienna888]

Yes I agree with you 100%. People are treated like dog shit if they’re ugly but when they have plastic surgery or try to lose weight/gain weight, they are shamed for not loving themselves. That’s why the phrase “you cannot satisfy everyone” is correct because a person will always have haters and no matter how good your intentions are, you will always be criticized no matter what. Just do it but don’t go overboard.

[morganherrel]

Women are bullied for their appearance because women bully each other for their appearance.

Men bully each other for their appearance as well.

Although encouraging someone to lose weight can potentially be a very positive act (I don't do it because of how stigmatized it is, so it's interpreted in the worst way).

[avery58]

No matter what you do someone out there will have a problem with it, so just do what makes you happy or confident.

[Fireguy17]

because some go way overboard when they get altered.
cat faces, laughable ginormous boobs, the can no longer smile...

[Kaizer000]

You have thick lips, a pretty face and big tits. You shouldn't be asking people this lol. It's like a person grown with money asking why are the poor allowed to win the lottery 😂

[the29thhuman]

because people are bored and wanna poke fun. Especially the people that got houses for $16,000-$70,000.

[LiamJHayden]

With things like this, do what you want and ignore the haters. They aren't paying your bills and do not actually care about you.

[Unit1]

this is a classic case of haters hating. Don't let them exist rent free in your head

[OtterMan68]

some don't need to like Nicole Kidman for example. It shows they're vain and insecure.

[beefcakebradybatson]

Some people are busybodies with nothing better to do that slag people's appearance.

[Anonymous]

Because they are too lazy to go to the gym and really alter their appearance.

[MasterKS]

you have to do everything make yourself look beautiful and confident!

[Jamie05rhs]

That's a fair question.

[Anonymous]

Because it's fake, conceited, and just pathetic.

[SmileyLady]

Not if you really hate the way you look. Social media has a bit to answer for, as does peer pressure for the youngens, today.

[Opinion Owner]

No disagreement there.. It's mostly women encouraging that kind of thing too

[SmileyLady]

Yes, I don’t think guys really expect or prefer the fake looks; not that I know, as I’m not a young person now.

[SmileyLady]

It’s such a shame…young people look so gorgeous and unspoiled in their youth.

[Ladsin2]

Shallow.