Anyone else knows what it’s like to be someone who can really “vary” on their looks (depending how they dress, take care of themselves, etc)?

[Anonymous]

I’ve been told that I am one of those guys who “cleans up well”. When I am well rested, well groomed, well dressed, got my hair combed just right, etc. I’ve been told I’m really handsome.

I’m not a slob or lazy. But if I’m going about my week, haven’t shaved in a few days, hair looks messy, just wearing my gym clothes, etc. I know I don’t look good at all.

I am in excellent physical shape for my age but still that’s all hidden underneath my clothing (at least I’m not overweight).

Anyway I know I can clean up more if I had to. But I am also working a full time job along with a devoted side gig (work 60-70 hours a week and usually on weekends). I am currently on a mission to build up my side gig to be a full time career.

Anyway I’m not intentionally looking to date but if the right woman came along (and didn’t expect me to bend over backwards for her) I would do it.

I guess I find myself envious of people who can go low maintenance in their appearance and still look good. That was never me. Good side is I CAN look good but it’s sh*t ton of effort.

[Hardon-Collider]

There is this "dead" look in some people's faces and then the alive one, as if soaked in the soul and guided by spirit, and i definitely see it fuctuating in me based on if i act like a man or like a degenerate. No amount of fashion can cover it up, so then my main concern is hygiene and maybe appropriateness to the setting (like not wearing blue to a funeral... just kidding.) ㅤ

[NathanDavis]

I think it's called "taking a shower"

[Abbycado]

Oh, God yes. I can look like a hot mess and then not. It’s about the amount of effort I put into it.

[Nikki1989]

Yes, it is spectacular what a difference a little hair dye can make.

[AI Opinion]

It's totally relatable to feel that way! Everyone has their unique charm, and looking sharp can be like a personal transformation. It's wonderful that you can look great when you make the effort, and it's entirely okay to have those more relaxed days too. Balancing a busy schedule while pursuing your goals is already impressive! Remember, it's about feeling confident and comfortable in your skin. Women will appreciate the genuine you, both polished and relaxed. Keep doing you, and the right person will value you for who you are. 😉💪

[beefcakebradybatson]

I'm so handsome I don't need to clean up, though I'm fastidious.( I thought "cleans up well;grubby to goddess" applied mostly to women.)

[Anonymous]

I never heard about that kind of situation.