A few questions about short guys (5'7" and under) and dating?

[ShootingStar5]

I know that most girls prefer short guys but they way a lot of people talk on here makes it sound like most girls won't date short guys at all. My boyfriend is pretty short himself, 5'6" and as far as I know he hasn't really had any trouble dating. It makes me wonder whether it's because girls don't like to date short guys or if it's for another reason, maybe due to insecurities that some short guys could have?

So here are my questions...

If you're a guy who's 5'7" or under, have you seemed to have a harder time getting dates than guys of average height or taller? Have any girls every directly told you that they wouldn't date you because of your height? Do you feel insecure about your height?

And ladies, is a guy being short a deal breaker for you? How much does height matter?

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Oh and for the guys, if you could include your height that would be good too :)

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Edit: "I know that most girls prefer TALL guys..."

[Anonymous]

The first statement says it all "I know that most girls prefer TALL guys..." Thus, you can conclude that tall guys will have more of a selection when it comes to potential partners than a short guy would have. Therefore, you can make at least some conclusion and say dating is a little harder for someone shorter in height.

I don't think its mainly the insecurities "some short guys may have" because they are a direct result from their experiences with women themselves, but rather both the women herself and wanting to feel more feminine (as a result saying she won't date a shorter guy) and the man wanting to feel more like one and trying to fit her height preferences.

I know girls (usually taller than average) who say they won't date a man unless he's above x inches tall. Conversely, when I ask most will say because they "want to feel protected" (from what?), a guy should be more dominant, social factors or some other reason they can't really explain.

I used to really like my height, until I found out it was only classified as average to most girls. I'm still okay with it, though I don't really pay attention to it.

[rockingpianoman]

i'm 5 7" I don't think it's so much harder than taller guys , but sometimes it feels like that yes ( they do have a bigger amount of girls they can date , as more girls are smaller than them. I do feel a little insecure about my height , one girl told me that she liked taller guys ( even when she was still 8 cm smaller than me lol ) she however said I was perfect , but she's weird freaky bitch style :p

but overall I'm happy with who I am , and I always say better too small than too tall ( for your back etc hahaha)

[moloz]

Don't worry, a bigger pool doesn't necessarily better quality.

[moloz]

necessarily mean*

[PoeticNinja]

That is short. O_o

[rockingpianoman]

thank you for ecouraging me and making me notice my shortness more gimpi. LOL

however it's only slightly under average here in belgium...

[PoeticNinja]

You're welcome. LOL

It's okay though.. I have liked guys who are 5'6 - 5'8..

Oh, really? Interesting.

[rockingpianoman]

I know it's OK :p I can live with myself pretty well ha ha :D

[eshedd]

I’m 5’5 and yes, being this short does greatly effect my (non existent) love life. Girls have flat out told me that it was because I was short that would not even consider going out with me, while others would simply hint at it, so after years of being told that I have become insecure about my height. And you even said it yourself, most girls want a tall guy, the ones that claim they’ll date shorter guys just mean that they’ll settle for a shorter guy, or as in “you’re not what I actually want but you’re a safe bet until I find someone better”. There’s no benefits to being short, I asked a girl out and she told me no and I didn’t really care until my friend who is taller but isn’t really that attractive got asked out by the same girl, a taller guy will have significantly better chance at finding a girl than a short guy, short guys aren’t seen as tough, protective or providers, we are made out to be the butt of jokes, push overs, clowns and ok to make fun of, and if we try standing up for ourselves we’re seen as having Napoleon syndrome, over compensating, etc, we can’t ever catch a break, no matter what we do we’re going to be made fun of and seen as less desirable and even flat out undesirables. And don’t take my word for it, you said it yourself

[wowop99266]

As a 5'5 guy, I could relate to every single thing you said in this.

[kheserthorpe]

I'm 6'3.

Girls I've dated have liked my height. But that's one reason they were with ME. Should my wife conclude all guys prefer brunettes, because all her bfs' (and me) did? Obviously, guys who like brunettes went for her, girls who like tall guys were much more likely to date me.

I think being tall is more often a plus then a minus. Most of us are not perfect adonises. Average people are average. But they are not average in every way - they have strong points and weak points. And they will tend to end up with people who care more about their strong points then weak ones, and hence find them attractive. An overweight girl with a pretty face will attract guys who care more about face. An 'average looking' tall guy will get girls who LIKE tall guys. A short guy with great arms might get girls who care more about arms then height.

[rocksongwriter]

"I know that most girls prefer short guys..."

I think you mean that most girls prefer TALL guys.

[ShootingStar5]

lmao woops! Yeah that's what I meant.

[JHAYES317]

I’ve never been told directly I’m too short but I do get ignored or friendzoned a lot

[Anonymous]

Short guys are cute..it can work

[RaceAgainstMachine]

How tall are you

[ttchen]

@RaceAgainstMachine im 5'7 and honestly id MUCH rather a guy shorter than me than exactly the same height. Being the same height just seems awkward lol

[johari]

5'7 isn't short

[RaceAgainstMachine]

How tall are you

[stillagoodgirl]

@RaceAgainstMachine 5'4

[NewClassic]

Smart idea