Girls Making Dating Impossible and Setting the Bar Way Too High

[ttthhhhg]

Setting the bar way too high

Let's start with the basics. every girl wants a hunk, a sweat heart; that 'Tom welling'from small ville or that 'hot football kid' you dated at high school. but let's be more realistic. although hot guys do exist and are out there no doubt here's a tiny hint you know ..

Not every guy is Brad Pitt, Tom Cruise,George Clooney ,António Banderas or Tayler lawner.most guys are you regular average Joe's.some have daddy issues,mommy issues and even baby momma drama. These are the guys who often get red flagged.

Solution

Guys get red flagged for the sillliest of reasons seeing that most guys are average looking try dating a regular looking guy, not every guy is that handsome aston kutcher or that Denzel washington.dont ask him about his relationship with his mom or dad. If you see him get uncomfortable slow down and go with the basics . Not every guy has a good relationship with his parents so red flagging him because of that would not only be unfair but also selfish and biased.take your time to get to know him.

Friend zone

Keeping a guy in the friend zone for too long can be very dangerous and harmfull.it could cause him to lose interest.

Solution

If you feel that he is not the one tell him.keeping a guy in the friend zone sends the wrong message.

[Anonymous]

You're speaking as if women don't get overlooked for looking average (there are MANY more gorgeous girls dating ugly guys than the opposite), or are rejected for having mommy/daddy/baby daddy issues, or even considered 'damaged goods' (that is a very common term by the way) if they've had sexual partners before. Men set the bar even higher, y'all just won't admit to it.

[Anonymous]

If you're constantly asking women with standards that high it sounds like you are chasing after super model looking women. Average guys get pissy about super attractive women not going for them but they never chase after average girls.

[FreshOutaIdeas]

Look, I say this not to insult or belittle, but to drum the message loud and clear...

*** WHAT THE FUCK EVER HAPPENED TO *MEN*? WHAT IS IT WITH ALL THIS MILLENIAL (speaking as one myself) CUCKISHNESS WITH BOYS (NOT MEN) LETTING WOMEN AND GENERAL CULTURE DICTATE WHO AND WHAT US MEN GET TO BANG AND MAYBE LATER ON FORM LONG LASTING RELATIONSHIPS WITH?

You little sissy boys moan and bleat (... like women might I add!) about how you can't get women, "how you set the bar too high" and how you get "friendzoned" (I FUCKING HATE THAT SLACK-JAWED TERM)... Listen, even fucking studs get the occasional knockback for a wide variety of, often momentary thought processes for "reasons", that constitute a woman's 'decision' in not deciding to mate with said guy... WHAT A MAN DOES IS THANK THE GODS HE DIDN'T GET HITCHED WITH AN INDECISIVE LITTLE GIRL (NOT WOMAN), BRUSH HIMSELF DOWN, AND CARRY ON PLOUGHING AND SLAYING THROUGH THOSE WOMEN, TILL IF AND MAYBE HE FINDS ONE HE SETTLES DOWN WITH!

Not only that, there are plenty of quote-on-quote "ugly motherfuckas" out there who made names for themsleves, made it big, and fucked and loved soooo many god-damned women that even a fella like myself would have a hard time achieving! But you what they had, for all their physical flaws? A fucking SPINE, and some fucking CHARACTER!

For inspiration look up Lemmy Kilmister...

[YoyoyoHomie]

What's your question?
My thoughts on it are stop giving a sh@t.
Yes women have high standards, but so do men. The media has f@cked with our brains waaaaaay too much.
Disney for women and porn for men, they're awesome, but they're not real.

I've decided to go on NoFap and become celibate for a few months and I feel soooo much more empowered, because I'm not trying to bend over backwards to get laid. As well I'm seeing women for their inner beauty a lot more. Sex is optional, it's not a NEED like the media makes you believe, and when you realize that you take your power back.

[Anonymous]

I don't see how having "baby momma" issues should be tolerated. If a person doesn't want to get involved in that type of situation then they don't have to get involved. I see so many people who have severe issues getting upset because they are 'entitled' to a relationship simply because they want to date the other person.

No. Fix your problems first if you want to be a more appealing dating partner. I don't think it's too much to expect someone to sort out their issues first.

Should we be tolerant and understanding, absolutely! But it's also easy for someone to pull you into their problems and bring then down with you. It's all about balance.

But no one ever owes another person a relationship simply because they are interested. It's not "setting the bar too high". It's called personal preferences.

[melina_19]

It's really not that complicated.

- Work out to get a nice body, style your hair nicely, and take care of yourself to be physically attractive
- Talk to people confidently to gain charisma
- Go to college and be intellectual and get a good job
- Be family-oriented

It's that simple!

[Harribo2017]

What if all us guys aren't physically attractive then what?
doesn't personality and a huge heart and having a good soul, making people laugh not that important now days?

[Anonymous]

If you encounter women like that,.. do yourself a favor & don't waste your time with those girls. Unless you do come from a high-class family (The minimum - Middle class) then perhaps you do have a shot. I don't mean to be blunt like that, but I have met plenty of women who are like that. If their standards are unbelievably way beyond to frickin' high,... again don't waste your time. Even if you do end up in a relationship with one of those girls,.. who is to say the relationship will be successful between you both for years yet to come? Perhaps if you do end up dating one of those women, you may end up becoming unhappy with the results, you both might end up arguing about multiples of things to no end, & before you know it, you'll be putting a fake smile/fake "happy" type of image like everything is great between you and her, but in reality,... you might just be terribly miserable. To avoid any of that,... it's best not to trouble yourself in that direction. There's no point.

[FreshOutaIdeas]

Social class definitely plays its part in the minds of a lot of men/women/families, no doubt. But let me tell you this, if you have have the charisma, the 'aura' of masculinity, can demonstrate - with or without a 'degree' on paper - that you are at least a relatively intellegent and forward thinking man, and just a general "I DGAF" attitude... You will bag all the women you could want... Looks of course help. (Most) Men have been tamed and thoroughly emasculated by political correctness... But women, deep down, know they want to be "caught" and "tamed" by a big strong man, like I say, thats what fundamentally gets the women, beyond money.

[Opinion Owner]

@FreshOutaIdeas... That's one way to look at it if I utilize that method to "bag all the women" I want, but I'm sure that method would only last for only so long as you get older & you wish to have a family with only 1 woman. ... well I suppose that method can still up hold if you were remain dedicated to that one. I know as things do change, so can people.

[FreshOutaIdeas]

I may deliberately employ 'loose' and somewhat jingoistic language, but believe me when I say this works, I speak from experience, for both long term relationships and bits of young n' dumb fun on the side... Even by the way you use the term "utilise", it tells me that, like many guys these days, you take a sterile (henceforth 'awkward') approach towards not just the fairer sex, but human interaction generally... Though that is another, much wider reaching convo to be had!

[Opinion Owner]

@FreshOutaIdeas If you do speak from experience, especially at your age, I can only infer you were nurtured well by your parents or have done some fair amount of research to achieve the answers within this topic. As for gaining the experience from other girls, I'm sure you have made connections from other girls in various areas of interests. I'm sure I did conveyed off the wrong message, for me personally,.. most of the time I don't have that 'sterile' approach towards women & just people in general when in comes to communication in various topics.

You did mentioned "(Most) Men have been tamed and thoroughly emasculated by political correctness... But women, deep down, know they want to be "caught" and "tamed" by a big strong man. That's what fundamentally gets the women" That's just conflicting & creates like a 'no-win' situation. Doesn't it?

[FreshOutaIdeas]

Well thank you for complimenting the parents! They are good people, old school, and hold their fair share of flaws too - who doesn't right? And all those other cliches. Well, I do not claim to have the same levels of responsibilities as men in the more mature age ranges, but some of us young'ns not only physically and mentally develop just a little quicker than their peers, but when you also have (relative, I don't like playing the violin) hardships early on in life, it forces upon a little "overdevelopment" in the "school of life"... Thus looking older and, to all itents and purposes, organically seeming emotionally "mature" beyond your years, shall we say, has provided me with life experiences people would likely not believe I've had... And women are a huge passtime for me! As I stand now, I'm a heavily tatt'd young man, big beard, muscular, ride a (soon to be) v-twin motorcycle, whilst getting a degree... I've sampled working class, middle class and even rich girls. All the same

[FreshOutaIdeas]

A little more, hold on...

[FreshOutaIdeas]

With the annonymous nature of the web, it's easy to confuse the use of language. I'm not casting a shadow on your character. But as a brief piece of socal commentary, these days people are fast losing their otherwise innate social skills. Indeed, there is a contradiction!!! But not in my descriptive logic, but in what I claim to be the issue in social reality! Women crave a big strong man, and the neutered millenial boys, by and large, are more like chicks with dicks! Again, that is a much wider conversational topic to be had.

[Opinion Owner]

@FreshOutaIdeas... Well I don't know if you do concur with the idea of stronger/much clearer communication within our world today, but I very much think that's needed. We can only infer so much through language, voice tone & body language. I personally think just "crystal clear" communication would be that much simplistic.

Silly question, but I'll just ask this anyways... I don't suppose you're a child prodigy, are you?

[Opinion Owner]

By the way, what kind of degree are you progressing towards to?

[FreshOutaIdeas]

I'm very much in favour of stronger, 'backboned' communication! It was what I was raised on! Oh I don't know, I think " language, voice tone & body language" offers a great level of communicative detail.

Haha, I had to chuckle at that. Nope. I'm just a mere mortal, with his own set of flaws, to boot. But I know my strengths, and have a complex background, which is why I would appear to live something of a two-way, diametrically opposed life. But you never know, in time to come you might here my messages of wisdom being told across the world, but you won't know who I am!

[Opinion Owner]

@FreshOutaIdeas Glad you got the humor off of that question. ;-) Well as for " language, voice tone & body language",... I'm thinking it does have every communicative hint that it does provide,.. perhaps most of the time, but if there are contradictions,.. that part is what I'm implying that it doesn't help which is why I had mentioned just to making "Everything clear".

We all have strengths and flaws, that I can concur with you on,... which is why we're still receiving life's lessons & doctrines from various optics. Hahaha. ;-)

[FreshOutaIdeas]

Indeed! We never stop learning! But some learn more than others, some people cease to learn all together! Oh and and I'm doing a joint history & politics degree!

[COCOCHANEL]

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[cdbossguy]

Check out my questions OP, I got girls posing round me despite little effort compared to deep guys they text more and think of highly

[Anonymous]

i have been called ugly by women and conventionally i should not be, it goes to show how far gone females are.