A few days ago in my English class we were discussing a debate and one of the topics brought up was "Is highschool dating a disraction". Now normally by subconcious response was "Absolutely", but after more contemplation on the subject I began to realize more and more reasons to why high school dating can be considered time wasting.
Now if you were to ask an ordinary person what time period in your life is ultimately the deciding factor to whether or not you will live a fun and happy life or a miserable and boring life a good percentage of them will say high school, this is pretty factual as we've been taught all our lives that high school and passing these 4 years are what's deciding where we go from that point until our death beds. Let's also say hypothetically you were to also ask them what hobby, activity, action etc that you can do in high school that will cost you a lot of time, energy, focus, that should be directed at passing and getting good grades and chances are you may get mixed answers, but the one that is most to pop up is - Dating. Why do I say dating requires a lot of energy, focus, and time? Because lets face reality, it does. You have to spend time pleasing your partner, you have to spend time catering to them, you have to spend time giving them affection, all of which is time that could be spent on the bigger picture - grades.
Recently a survey was conducted at my highschool by a club of students that was asking "If you were ever in a relationship, did you grades begin to drop even by a small margin" and a majority of people who answer said yes, even more shocking is that they said it dropped by more then 10 points! So why is that something that is just bound to end anyway (Lets face it, a large majority of high school relationships are not lasting) taking up so much time of something that is ultimately going to decide your fate from that point on? Who knows, perhaps it's because of the media representing high school dating as such a passionate and romantic thing (At times it can be, but we're still kids and really we know nothing of real romance ... we still live in our parents home and a majority of us get allowance).
Personally, this is the reason why I think that high school dating simply isn't worth the time or energy. From personal experience, it's just drama, it never lasts, it always leaves both parties emotionally (and sometimes physically) hurt when the relationship ends, and most importantly it distracts you from your grades! I found out that I wasn't the only one with this mentality, some of the best looking girls and schools who are single I personally asked "Why are you single" and they responded "Because dating right now is a waste of time" and others added that they simply want to wait till college when they'll have more freedom and responsibility. One girl also said to me that "High school dating is a load of drama, both parties a majority of time just want bragging rights or just want someone to potentially have sex with. At this age, we're to young to even fathom what real love is so I'm not going to pretend that I do and I'm going to focus on my grades so when I'm older I have all the money and time to find a real partner".
I also was curious to what the fundamental difference is between being just friends and being girlfriend and boyfriend and I wrote down everything that came to my mind - Everything that high schoolers that I've experienced do when they're dating.
- Holding hands.
- Making out.
- Sex (Potentially)
- Spending time together.
- Caring for eachother.
That's it? That's worth spending a majority of what is arguably the most important years of your life? The thing about this is that - You don't have to date anyone to do a majority of these things which is a majority of what high schoolers date for in the first place. Some date because they truly are lonely and need someone to spend time with - Bu tthe fact is that you don't need a girlfriend or boyfriend to quench your loneliness, you don't need them at all to have sex, to care for you, to spend time with, etc that's what friends are for.
Please understand that these are just my opinions on this topic of why I think dating in high school is a waste of time. I'm not saying that you shouldn't date and by all means if you want to go ahead, but these are just the reasons I'm not dating and why I think it's pointless. Sure you may have someone to love, sure you may have someone to kiss, have sex with, etc but the very second you break up it's like all of that never happened and all your left with is crushed feelings that further distract you from what high school is primarily about - Passing.